For Older People with Sense

Elisimo

Thanks Chrissy, you know I love you.  My emotions have been all over the map and I get sort of derailed very easily, DH does not know what to do so he just holds me close.  Which of course makes me cry more. I love him so much and feel like such a burden to him.  He says I am not, but you know me, kind of stubborn.

Later dear sister.

QCA

AJ, I too am so sorry you're having such a rough patch right now.  A shrink is an excellent idea, I think.  You'll have someone to talk to who isn't emotionally attached to you and also that you have no emotional investment in.  We tend to be so close to our DH's and families that we simply dissolve when trying to tell them how we feel.  I know that's how I am too.  I think this is a very good step to take and it will help you.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Kathy

barbe1958

AJ, I wonder if you are on "head meds" as well? Just as much as we take Tylenol to help our arthritic joints, we may need an anti-anxiety or stress med to help us cope. I have a chemical imbalance and have taken something for probably the last 30 years or so. I know I will never be without something to help me cope with anger, loss, stress, overwhelmed feelings etc, but I still need extra emotional chemical support when in a dark place. I've also been seeing a "counselor" between visits to my shrink. The counselor is great as I can say anything to him and he doesn't get angry or sad for me. It really helps to say some things out loud to someone and have them answer. Family and friends just aren't the right people sometimes as they are emotionally attached to us and will never forget what we said in our darkest moments. Sometimes I cry when I see my counselor and other times not. It doesn't matter, but I do honour myself by digging deep. Yesterday I cried for almost the whole hour and other times I only see him for 20 minutes and then say "I'm done." We know our bodies so well by this age, by now we have to accept that we know our emotional limitations too. ANY med is tough to take at the beginning as it may make you woozy, but your body adapts. I'm writing all this for anyone else reading who it may help. It's like treating a weeping wound until it heals. That's all.

Gingerbrew

A humble request. Please do not post Olympic Results on BCO. We are just now starting the segment that will show the Slopestyle competion. Itis 8 PM Saturday night here/  Some areas are getting these competitions nearly a full day ahead of us.    

Thank you 

barbe1958

Gingerbrew, that is a GREAT request!! Some people may PVR the event as well. There is probably an Olympic thread anyway....

QCA

I agree too, Ginger.  I'm watching a lot of it and it's all delayed, so it's much better without spoilers.

We're gearing up for another snowstorm, apparently, and this one's supposed to be a major one for us.  I've heard anything from 3 to 8 inches and I can hardly remember the last time we had that much, other than the fact that the power went off.  I know those of you who have lots of snow every winter are unimpressed with this, but this is the South and we don't have the equipment to deal with it.  We don't even get mail, despite the "through rain and sleet and snow" thing!

Hope everyone had a good weekend!

Kathy

Gingerbrew

Yes, the time delay leaves me thinking we live at the end of the world!   Watching men's team long program now. I am a little behind.      I do love Jason Brown from the US, he makes me smile. Isn't it wonderful when an artistic athletic performance can make you smile!  

We had snow here last night and are at an elevation where we held onto it today. I am supposed to go get this back brace tomorrow but I am not going if there is still any ice on the road. I am supposed to wear this thing for three months. I have never seen one before. A poster suggested I might want to use valium for a muscle relaxant to adjust to the brace. I hope I don't need it because my DH asked the surgeon if I needed pain killers and he said no. Hm.  I wonder if I will be able to drive? A web site says you will not be able to sit in all chairs any longer.

I really wish the ER had figured out I had this L1 problem in the ER. They did a cat scan of my neck but not my back. Whine, whine, complain. I am lucky there is anything to be done. 

For balance I should point out I have now seen every TV show I have ever had any interest in. lol

I look forward to going into my sewing room again. I read all of your posts and view your photos with great interest. You all are so very creative. 

Hugs GInger

barbe1958

I've been watching Border Security on TV lately. What a hoot!!! There is an Australian and a Canadian version (me!) so far. It's amazing what people try to bring in!!! We've seen fried dead rats, salted ducks, eels and of course the drugs and where they hide them. Our version has the mail processing as well. Just a hoot to watch! Everyone thinks of us Canadians as so meek and mild because we don't carry arms...heheheheehe - surprise!! I LOVE seeing the faces of the USA people being told they are "foreign nationals"!

chrissyb

Lol Barbe, I watch that as well......sometimes it makes you think some of these people were born without a brain.........fancy thinking they are going to get that sort of stuff in!!!  Some of the excuses are priceless....hahahaha!   

barbe1958

Chrissy, it all sounds so much more polite with an Aussie accent!!! I'm impressed with how calm these officers do stay and love when the male passengers try to get around the female officers!!

Alyson

Yes I watch Border Security as well. And we have a local one too which is good.

Don't worry Ginger even though we are ahead in time we are well behind with  a lot of the coverage and because it happens during our night we see replays. Watching the Luge at present. DGS says he is going to do that when he is a big boy!!

Big hugs

Alyson

Yes I watch Border Security as well. And we have a local one too which is good.

Don't worry Ginger even though we are ahead in time we are well behind with  a lot of the coverage and because it happens during our night we see replays. Watching the Luge at present. DGS says he is going to do that when he is a big boy!!

Big hugs

chrissyb

Barbe I  think some of those guys think they are Gods gift to women and on body search are discovered to have the b***ls of a bull..........just a shame the same can be said about their brains!  I just love the episodes where they find almost a full supermarket in the baggage!  Oh my!   Haven't they ever been told that honesty is always the best policy?!

I'm watching the Olympics as well but have been watching all night and going to bed at 6.00am and sleeping till noon.......or there abouts.........for some reason it's just not the same on replay.......but there again, maybe its just me and I'm a bit nuts!   hahahaha!!!!

The heat is back in all it's glory!.....YUK!!!!!  I'm dreading my power bill when it arrives as the air con has pretty much been running non stop for almost a month!!!!!    Roll on Autumn.........quickly would be nice.

Love n hugs all!     Chrissy

barbe1958

We didn't run our air conditioner in our last house as we needed the fuse for our dryer (the previous people had a gas dryer). It became bad enough that we went to a motel one night just to use the pool and sleep in the cool! Was wonderful to go to work, too. I just can't stand it when I can't cool down my body temperature. That's when I learned to sleep on a bath towel in the nude! We had no ceiling lights so couldn't put up a fan, either. We run it in this house when needed - not constantly either. We are fortunate that we don't get direct sun into our usual living areas and can close off the hot upstairs bedroom when needed. Canada is a country of extremes, too! I've worn my heavy winter coat at the beginning of April, say, and by the end of the month I'm in sleeveless tops! Some years in March we are already sitting on the back deck in tees. We just never know....

Wren44

Barbe, We lived in a house in Houston where the AC and clothes dryer shared a fuse. We would unplug one to run the other.

QCA

It's been snowing in my part of NC since before 7:00 AM when I got up.  We already have about 6 inches and apparently this is NOT the Big Storm everyone's been preparing (e.g. buying bread and milk) for.  That's to come tomorrow and continue into Thursday.  Nothing on the roads yet at all, thanks to the brining that's already been done, but they're very wet and will freeze tonight.  I got out a bit today, but now am in for the duration.  If I disappear for a couple of days, the power's out!  (This thing's supposed to end in sleet and freezing rain.)

School's closed everywhere tomorrow so DD's a happy camper now.  Won't be too happy making these days up on Saturdays, though.

Kathy

chrissyb

I cannot imagine living in a place where even the roads freeze!  Although I guess I would need to experience it (probably fun for the first time) before I could really judge. I say I prefer the cold but the cold we get here in Aus is NOT the cold you get over there even though we do get snow it's nothing like what you get.  If it snows where I live it is a fun thing and it's just a light dusting, enough so the kids can build a small snowman from the snow that has built up against a wall or such like............within hours it's usually gone and it always wet snow not that lovely powder snow they get in the Australian Alpine region.

Stay warm and dry Kathy and everyone else in the storms path!!

Love n hugs.     Chrissy

SoCalLisa

We don't get snow here but it does snow in our Mountains which are not far away. We go from sea level to a mile high in less than an hour. 

barbe1958

Wren, there was never a line from the dryer to the fuse box which was in the garage for some reason!! (not in the house near the laundry room). We found out that our fuse box didn't have enough room to add another appliance and we'd have to lose the dryer for the AC but it would have been a HUGE expense to run the electricity from the garage to the laundry room. An expense we weren't prepared to pay. So not as easy as switching which appliance was active....sorry I didn't make myself clear.

QCA

We got about 8 or 9 inches of snow and it's now sleeting (temp. is 21F) so expecting the power to go out tonight.  Why oh why did we not put in a fireplace???  The sleet seems to have beaten lots of snow off the trees, and  I haven't seen anyone driving on our street at all today, but that's a good thing!  I did laundry today while we still have power, so we'll at least be clothed!  Okay, I've had enough, more than enough snow to look at today and I'll not be watching any winter olympics tonight.  Hope everyone's all right, especially those in the path of this horrendous storm!

Kathy

BigDBeatingBigC

Been watching it on the news, Kathy.  What a horrible winter this has been!  Much worse for those east of where I am.  Thinking about you and hoping the power stays on for you!

chrissyb

Kathy and all you girls over there in the path of these horrendous storms please take care and try to stay warm.

While you all have been freezing we have been roasting.........our records books have once again been re written with a more than twelve days of summer over 40 C ( that's 105 F) and one of the driest for many years.  Usually I get to run my aircon for about ten days each summer but already it's been going for almost three weeks non stop and there is still more heat to come but thankfully we are going to get a temperature drop down to the high 70's, low 80's for the next four days......yippeeeee!!!

BigD welcome to the thread!

Strange the things we get excited over......lol.

Love n hugs all!    Chrissy

BigDBeatingBigC

Hey Chrissy, thanks!  I know about those 105 temps in the summer here in Dallas!  I complain when it is too cold, like now, and I complain when it is too hot!  I think I should be in California haha.

chrissyb

BigD we have had those over 105 temps up to 115!  If it just stayed at 105 things would have been waaaay cooler!........lol.......although I think once it gets to 105 anything above doesn't really matter as it's just too darn hot to think at all!

macatacmv

hi everyone, welcome bigd!

Well, I am missing the storms in the NE now because I am in Florida. My DS and I came down for my cousin's son's wedding. We'll be here less than a week, but it is warm even though it is raining right now. We are going to go either kayaking or to the zoo tomorrow and then the boat show. So fun to be tourists. 

Hopefully, this will knock this old cold right out of my body. 

Wren44

I used to wonder if people in the South of the US talked so slow because it was too hot to think or talk fast. Take my word for it, there is no such thing as a 3 min phone call to Alabama. I think even a wrong number would take longer.

QCA

Well, I've still got power!  For now anyway, although it could go at any time.  DD and her family are now in the dark, and they live 20 miles south of here in SC.  Roads are totally impassable and it's still sleeting, freezing rain.  Another 3-5 in. of snow is predicted for tomorrow, too.  Cabin fever has set in big time now, ladies.  

Welcome to you BigD, and thanks for the kind words!

Chrissy, I wish I was with you in Australia now, heat and all!

Kathy

Alyson

Stay warm those in the Eastern States.

Leah_S

After The Storm of The Century in December we haven't had much rain - it's been balmy and people are concerned about drought!

Weird.

Leah

barbe1958

This has been an unusually harsh winter for us here just north of Toronto, too. We think of snow as having insulation properties once it covers our gardens and crops. But this year has been combined with very, very low temperatures (under the -30's) combined with deep snowfalls which is unusual. If it snows that much then it's actually warmer!

Global warming, my ass!