For Older People with Sense

QCA

Isabella, my word!  Your tale of the 2nd great gypsy wedding was hilarious, just what I needed today!  Glad you were able to make a tidy escape before the police arrived, too.  I'm so sorry about your dear dog.  Even when we've been through it many times, and we know it's coming, it's still  hard.  But, at least DH has gone away and you're free of him for a bit!

DBLA, I'm happy you got some coping advice.  I fear I'd be of no help since I'm always a wreck myself, but what Barbe said makes sense to me.  Nothing is worse than that initial word.  

Happy birthday Diane!  Sounds like you're doing exactly what makes you happiest.

Alyson, your grandchildren are so beautiful!  I know you enjoy them.

Those grandchildren comments are priceless!  Welcome LaDonna, and despite what your DGS said, you're NOT old!  

Good luck with the golf, Kaara, and just have fun!  Only a game, as I keep telling myself after my team just lost in the basketball tournament.  

And Mac, that's wonderful news about your CT.  Happy.

Hugs to all,

Kathy

Wren44

Isabella - Loved your story of the wedding. My DH and I were invited to one in Houston and it was everything I'd always imagined. At ours, there was no religious ceremony. The couple danced together and that was how the knot was tied. Your outfit sounded perfect! Fighting seems to be a fairly frequent occurrence. The family had police guarding the entrance because they were worried about intrusion from another family. 

Sorry about your dog. No matter how much you expect it, it's still painful. 

Kaara

Lisa:  Beautiful...it looks so alive in the photo...I can almost smell the wonderful fragrance.  Thanks for sharing.  I hope my peonies are still in bloom when we get to NC in June.  I just love them.

3jaysmom

isabella: i'm sooo glad you have your house back to yourself, as i know thats' just the way you like it.. when im about here, i imagine you, listening to your radio>>>

  you did have a great show at the wedding.. and i understand the excitement/fear... im glad you were off in a taxi before the cops came...!!!!

  its' so wonderful, that you are "fmaily" to Elvis.. not many get that honour, in a travelers family!!!

 im glad you were satisfied with your outfit, this time.. wish you could post a photo!!!

  i know you were expecting to lose your oldr dog, but it always hurts, no matter how long we've had them.. bless you, putting her in the garden, then "prettying it up... i miss that i had to leave mine where we used to live..

  My little man now, will be in an urn, im afraid.. said id never do it, but won't leave him behind.. but, hes ok for now, and so am i!!

  Thanks for sll the birthday wishes, ladies..

  surprisngly, it turned out well.

  we celebrated, as i told you, mur and i .. but jay @ wanted to come sat nite and spend the night.. he/mur went to a garden store special, and he got the most beautiful plant for me, mur as well.. it a butterfly host vine, gotta get the name of it.. it has purple "spidery" blooms all over it.. and, mur got a hybrid beauganvilla.. they're not my fav, cause they "bite" but the guy said this ones' got smaller thorns, so we're gonna give it a whirl

 then, yesterday, we went for wonderful hamburgers, and fries, with Jay @ and his family, with the grands.. a ball!!so, 2 out of 3 isn't bad...

  i had to rest alot of the time, but we pulled it off, for another year!!!!!

  good seeing the newbies here.. welcome.. my memory serves me poor;ly with names..

  im praying for all the ladies waiting for surgery.. i hope Isabella, yours has been pushed ahead!!! night..

chrissyb

Isabella the wedding sounds like everything you could imagine a travellers wedding to be!  So glad you got to find just the right outfit...........it sound lovely and as 3jays says, I wish you culd post a pic.  Sad about loosing you older fur baby..........we all know it's coming but still hard when it does.  Have you got your surgery sorted?  Is it going to be 27th?  Sure hope so as it's about time you got some relief from your back pain.

3jays so good that you got to spen time with at least 2 of the 'Jays' and the grands!  I know that would have been the hi light for you.  Your butterfly vine sound spectacular and do tell us the name when you find out.  Take care lovely!

DBLA welcome to the thread!  Waiting and then getting scans sure puts the blood pressure up and it's not easy to get passed the fact that we may hear what we don't want to hear.  I have learnt to accept whatever happens as I know I cannot control anything just go with the flow.  It is what it is and just because something may have progressed it sure doesn't stop me from living and loving the life I have.  Worrying about it all only deprives me of that joy.

So many new girls popping in!  Welcome one and all!!!

Well girls, the ECG is done and I passed with flying colors!.......yay!   I decided to drive over to the place where I needed to go and get the bloods done as well today so all things being equal, it should be a go for Friday.  Just the visit from the community nurse to go and the prep is all done.............just the packing to do and I'm all set!  I'm going to treat myself to a manicure on Wednesday so my nails are all lovely and I won't have to worry about them while I'm in hospital.

Hope everyone is having a great day!!!

Love n hugs all!  Chrissy

Kaara

chrissy:  You sound like you are ready and willing to get this over with and move on with you life!  What a great attitude.  It will all be over soon and you will be walking without pain.  Once my DA had her knees done, she was as good as new!  Once in a while my knees act up, but I've been ignoring them and eventually they get better.  I know that won't always be the case, but for now it's status quo.  I just don't do long walks on concrete or asphalt because that stirs them up.  Shopping malls seem to be ok...hehehe!

Leah_S

Chrissy and Isabel, best of luck with the surgeries. Chrissy, you may want to rethink the manicure. I've been told to remove nail polish before surgery - they give me the remover and cotton in the hospital, they really mean it! I'm not sure why but think it has something to do with the finger oxygen clip so you might want to call and find out before you do it.

Hi to everyone new, and welcome.

Leah

jpfeier1

Looking for some thoughts from those of you who have experience with any similar situations.  My mother in law who is 73 years old recently was determined to have stage IV breast cancer.  It has spread to her Liver, Kidney's and Spine.  Prior to identifying the cancer she had other health issues.  Congestive Heart Failure with COPD as well as extreme edema.  Her first chemo treatment almost killed her, massive infection, kidney failure and pnemounia.  She was in ICU and then released to a rehebiliation center, back to ICU and now in rehab center again.  Therapy for her to regain strength has been almost impossible because her oxegen level isn't high enough.  They are going to decide on what treatment if any she is will be able to tollerate.  While supporting any teament she wants to persue I am also a realist and want my husband to be prepared should they not be able to continue her cancer treatment.  I know no one can say for sure but what is the prognois and timeline for someone in this stage given all the other issues?  I would welcome any comments both positive or grim.  Thank you, Jean 

Leah_S

Jean, I'm so sorry to hear about your mother-in-law's situation. You're right, no one can really give a prognosis.

I suggest you post this as a seperate topic in the Stage IV forum since there are a lot of women who are far more knowledgeable than I am who can answer your questions.

All the best.

Leah

Kaara

jpfeier1:  I'm sorry to hear you MIL is so ill.  Based on her health issues, it is doubtful that she will be able to withstand any treatments, as the treatments themselves produce toxic SE's that could kill her, as you have already witnessed.  If you want her to have remaining quality of life, I would insist that no treatments be given that could place her life in jeopardy in this manner.

 It might be wise to consult with your doctors about bringing in hospice to care for your MIL.  This doesn't automatically mean a death sentence for her, it just means that she will not be undergoing any more treatment, and hospice will help to keep her comfortable and pain free until she is ready to pass.  The one thing you don't want is for her to be in pain.  Hospice took care of my Aunt and they were just wonderful.  They will come right to the home, or she can go to a hospice facility.  They are also very good at explaining to the family the process of preparing for death of a loved one.

I hope this helps. 

3jaysmom

got some pics, don't know how to make multiples sorry...

3jaysmom

fischers happy to be with nana for her birthday

3jaysmom

3jaysmom

smaller s better, i cant believe shes two.

3jaysmom

jay #2 being here was so much a surprise!!!

3jaysmom

last one #1 jay with Finley.. happy to spend time with the family together.. missed mur somehow!!!

Alyson

Love, love the photos. You look so happy.

3jaysmom

thaks allyson, i was.. its been a long time for the family to be together, and happy .. 62 rocks!!!!

3jaysmom

everyones been bugging me to put "me" in.. so there you go.. ahappy face!!!!3jays

QCA

3jays, the grandchildren are just beautiful, and you are too!!  I'm so glad y'all were able to get together for your birthday!

Kathy

chrissyb

3jays, awsome pics!!!   Those munchkins are just so darn cute and I know they are the apple of your eye!  So good that 2 of the jays spent time with you so i has become a memorable birthday........yay!!!

To post multiple pics, just do one then hit enter to move the curser down to the next line and post the next the usual way etc, etc.  If you picsa are small like these, just keep posting them next to each other with one hit of the space bar between.  Good luck!

Jean based on your MIL previous health issues and the fact that she had such a bad reaction to her first chemo, I would concur with what Kaara said and contact hospice for her.  At her age I think she may agree that quality of life is far more important than quantity.  Please have a converstaion with her and see what she wants to do as it is importnt to follow her wishes...........after all, it is her life.

Leah, when I get a manicure I never get polish as I like my nails just buffed to a high shine.  I have worn colour sometimes but I much prefer au naturale........................but I hear you on the no colour for surgery and that is because the anaethetist watches your nails as it is the change from natural pink to purple-blue around the cuticle that is a first indication that your oxygen levels are not what they should be and he/she can adjust your oxygen mix.  They don't just rely on the finger oxygen clip.

Taking it a bit easy today as I wore myself out yesterday......lol......but that's okay, I don't mind taking it wasy..................hahahahahaha!

Hope your day is a good one!

Love n hugs.  Chrissy

3jaysmom

thanks, kthanks. i have a new wig, red, which is more like i was.. getting a trim tommorrow. hhope it'll end up my avatar. but this one's the happiest i've been in a LONG time!!!!athy.. sat night i had a choking "incident " at my own party!!!we had the dnr talk after all the drama.. my son was so shook, but, now he "gets" it.. i think that's why i'm sooo happy we were all together (less jay #3) but what a great day!!!!

chrissyb

Yowsa 3jays!!!   What a gorgeous pic of you!!!!   Please leave it up as it's lovely to see your lovely face!

Love n hugs.  Chrissy

Gingerbrew

Three Jays you all look so happy to bne together. You have some beautiful grankids. I am happy you had a nice day together. Ginger

3jaysmom

wow!!all of you are here, tonight!!!thanks for making me feel like a movie star..

 im trying to celebrate me, and not concentrate on the 3 jays as much..

  im waiting patiently waiting, and praying, for the upcoming surgeries.. i hope Isabella HAS been moved forward.. so, its' chrissy, isabella, and sas.. have i forgotten anyone???

chabba

3jays. Wonderful picture.  So glad your birthday was such a happy one.

chrissyb

3jays, did you eat at the diner that you took me to?  I though I recognised the tile pattern in the background of the pic with #1 Jay.  Brought back really good memories of when I was there.  Seeing your lovely face is just so special and I love that wig by the way ........ it's perfect for you and suits you so well!

Thanks for the prayers lovely, much appreciated.

Love n hugs.  Chrissy

Hauntie

Haven't had the time to be on here in a while. I just breezed through several pages of posts. Happy belated birthday 3 jays.

 Chrissy - glad that you're set to go with your surgery. It will make a huge difference in your mobility.  Are you going to an in patient rehab after? stayed in one for about 5 days after each of my knee replacements.

Lynda

chrissyb

Lynda hey!!!!!   Nice to see you!!!  Not sure and I won't know until I see a PT while in hospital and if he/she deems it neccessary then I will.  It's very possible as I have a lot of stairs in my house so I need to be up to par before I come home.  Either way, I will be spending a week with my daughter after realease as her house is all on one level so it will be easier for me to get around.

It's so lovely to see you!  How have you been?  Doing well I hope!  You need to pop in a bit more often as I really love to see you.

Love n hugs.  Chrissy

Kaara

3jays:  Beautiful photos of you and your family!  Those grands are precious...I know you just love them to pieces!  Is that your real hair or a wig...it's hard to tell it looks so natural.  Glad you had such a wonderful birthday!