HELP!!! 20 YEAR WITH BC

fanuel01

I'm glad to see that all this wonderful women have offered their advice and their words of encouragement to others on this website.....

So i just wanted to share my story ,I'm only 20 years old, and this summer I plan on graduating from college with my bachelor degree .But for the past three years i have gradually seen my breast develop every known symptoms/signs for  breast cancer (special in my left breast). Till this very day I haven't seen a single doctor  I just continued to ignore all the symptoms out of fear of the unknown. But every night before I fall asleep a touch my left breast and cry myself to sleep...I am so afraid how this will change everything for my family. I'm the oldest of four amazing younger siblings and the mean the world to me. Where do i start with my wonderful parents, their my best friends, my protectors, and my number one fans, and my everything ... This disease will not only impact my life but it will directly affect their lives forever that's what hurts me the most...At this moment in time i feel so alone/afraid/anxiety, and confused. I am desperately looking for some guidance's from anywhere.... (I even emailed OPRAH, for goodness sake AAHHAH). So how do I get the courage to tell my family? Do I tell one of my friends first? Or should i visit the doctor before telling anyone (but all my symptoms are VERY visible)? I hope that i will not one day regret the fact that i waited this long to take action, or maybe it will cost me my life ????????

adelle_k

Hi,

I am 22 years old and was having a gap year away travelling when I noticed a lump in my left breast I thought it would be nothing so continued on until I got home. As soon as I got home I went and had it checked out and was told it was cancer much to every-ones shock. But for me I now wish I would have come straight home when I found the lump, it is soooo important for you to go and get checked out as soon as you can. I know you are young and it is probably VERY scary (trust me I know) it is so much better to tacle the problem head on! I think you need to make an appointment with your doctors and asked to be referred and have all the tests/checks they can give you and then if it comes back positive then tell all your friends and family. When I found my lump I only told my boyfriend as I just wanted some-one else to feel what I was feeling but didn't want to tell my family as I didn't want to worry them. But then when I went for the ultrasound and they said there was def a lump but they needed to do a biopsy to confirm I then told my mum and sister so I had a bit of support just incase it was bad news. Then when I was told I then told the rest of my family and friends, it was very hard but every-one was so supportive and I think that's what you need in this case is as much support as you can get. So don't be scared to tell your family and friends as they will be there for you. If you ever want to speak about anything you can message me whenever. I was diagnosed in September 2010 and have had surgery and am now undergoing chemotheraphy and will also need radiotheraphy and hormone tablets afterwards. So having been through it and still going through it I can help you with any questions you have. Stay strong and go to the doctors first off, take that first step because you never know it may be good news but I def think you NEED to get it checked out. xx

KSkier

Don't waste any more time.  For one, if it is nothing to worry about, then you need to know this so that you can stop wasting your energy worrying and get on with your life.  And secondly and most important, as I think you know, time is everything.  Timing can make all the difference in how completely your body can respond to treatment.  I lost time because doctors didn't take me seriously, and I am very angry about this.  Don't let anyone do that to you.

Fighter_34

Please go to the DOCTOR!

Letlet

Fanuel, only a tissue sample from a biopsy can determine if you have BC or not. You could have something totally benign and have been worrying all this time. You need some testing ordered for you like a mammo, ultrasound or MRI and if the doctor's deem it suspicious then they will order a biopsy and you can take it from there but don't live in fear when there might not be any reason for it at this point.

itsmytime2

Hi Fanuel, I had a friend just like you. Worried sick about a lump in her breast only to go through all the motions to find out it was a benign.  Please don't waste anytime contemplating on whether to share this news with your family or not. Let someone close to you know what's going on and go to your doctor soon!  This is too much stress to handle on your own.  If there is something there...early detection is the key.  I waited until I was 45 to have my first mammogram because I thought I was exempt from having breast cancer because I thought I did everything right (breastfeeding all 5 kids, no one in my family ever diagnosed etc.,just plain of scared of having a mammogram).  Well, I was soooo wrong...I was diagnosed in March 2010 with Stage IV MET to the bones.

Thatgirl

Hi Adelle,





How are things going?