When Does it get easyer

sheri47

HI, I will be 2 year from dx on dec 19,

 do you ever feel normal again,  Wish i could figure out why I get so sad some days , most time i do good, guess im just having a hard day, want to cry ,  i hate feeling like this,  I hate the fear or recurrance, I just want to like me again,   sheri

changes

Sheri,

I can't really answer your question, since I'm only 6 months out. I  AM feeling better though, but don't really expect to go back to the way things were before cancer. My oncologist told me to expect it to take 2 years or so to be able to really start moving forward, and quit worrying constantly about recurrence. Right now, I fret over every ache and pain.

I hope someone posts here who is a few years out and can give some advice,

Karen

mrsnjband

Sheri,

I'm sure everyone is different but it took me about 2 1/2 years to feel more normal. A new normal, I still tire easily and sleep a lot more.  My life is good but different.  It's okay to be sad or mad or whatever you feel, it's okay! 

A year ago I was very depressed and angry.  My doctor put me on an anti-depressent, first kind didn't work well for me so we tried a different one.  I am doing a lot better now.  I also figured out that I have motion sickness, so as long as I take my meds for it I fell tons better. It's okay to take whatever meds you need to feel better.

I hope this helps you. If you need to talk feel free to send me a private message. NJ

coonie

Hi Sheri---I'm exactly 3 years out, and I STILL don't feel like I used to feel. Of course, with everything that's gone on with our bodies, with chemo and/or radiation, surgeries, and then AI's for 5 years........I'm wondering if we're just gonna have to get used to a new normal. Sometimes I feel like saying, "stop this merry-go-round and let me off! NOW!!! LOL..........Hang in there. It sure beats the alternative.

Resting

Sheri,  I sure can't answer your question either, but the topic interests me. I'm only 2 months out from rads and 31/2 from chemo. I wonder about things ever returning to normal. It must be this 'new' normal (as Norma June says) takes some getting used to. I hate not having the energy I used to have and I wonder what this means over the long haul. So, I guess I'm just saying I share in your desire to be yourself again - but guess wer'e all different now. Maybe that's not so bad  but will just take a while to accept it.

Thx for the post Norma June - it's encouraging and I like the permission to be sad, mad or whatever!

     Blessings, Carolyn

Susie123

I too can relate. I'm tired alot now, I feel like I've aged 10 years in less than a year. I was diagnosed last year, 3 days before Christmas. The strangest things can bring back those horrible feelings. I saw a TV commercial for Holiday in Lights and just out of blue felt sudden panic and fear as if I were back at day one. I sure hope those feelings go away, I always loved Christmas. I think the emotional scars take a long time to heal, and the physical ones, like the arimidex causes, just leave us different, tired old creaky boned people. My onco says it's a trade-off. The meds kill the cancer, but cause their own set of problems.