Feelings

lola12

Hi all, I sure can use some input. Here is what I know so far, 1.4 cm ILC er/pr pos, her2 neg, brca neg. My doctors feel this was caught very early since I had an intraductal papilloma lumpectomy in Jan 2010 with benign biopsy as well as mri and ultrasound. The area of ILC was noticed in Jan but it was thought to be a fibroadenoma and was watched. I have lumpectomy and SNB next week. I feel positive about doing what I need to do and going on with my life. I understand that radiation and possibly chemo is what I need to do. My spouse on the other hand is in deep depression. Thinking I will die soon. My spouse is in a total hold your breathe, sleeping alot depression and I dont know how to deal with it. Am I missing something, is there a reason why I should not be thankful and positive. I know chemo wont be fun. I know I will lose my hair. But I feel I will be ok after  treatment and will be monitored closely for any future problems. Should I start worrying too?

Halah

Hi Lola,  I can understand the need for rads but chemo? Did they say for sure you would need chemo? If not,  I wouldn't worry about it until you or if you get to that point in the road. It's an awful lot to take in I know. Take it slow, one step at a time.

Everything you mention about your cancer is all good! It's very treatable. Give yourself permission to be thankful and positive! You might see if your husband can get counseling on this. You need him more now than ever I am sure. You are the one with cancer. But he needs help. I hope he can find peace in all of this. And you as well.

You can be hopeful! Keep posting and we are here to listen. Hugs to you.

Mindy

kayec

Are you sure you need chemo?????  I'd really check your options on that!  Not trying to make that decision for you, but do your research. 

My husband was worried about me as well. I do understand your concerns. Your husband will be okay.

hopefulhealing

I am sure he is very scared.  Encourage him to share his feelings honestly and then do some reading on your diagnosis. There is so much great info out there. Have a list of questions and maybe he can go to the doc with you to be reassured.