Am I Stupid?

Pure

Am I stupid to think I could go into remission for many years.

Am I stupid to think maybe it wont come back.

Am I stupid to think well maybe it will stay away for atleast 5-8 years and if it does come back by then they will have a controller or even a cure

Am I stupid to think that though this sucks atleast I have a cancer that can be treated for a long time.

Stupid? Denial? or Realistic Hope? 

LRM216

No, you are not stupid - at all, nor are you in denial.  You have realistic hope - and don't ever, ever lose it. 

Linda

LRM216

No, you are not stupid - at all, nor are you in denial.  You have realistic hope - and don't ever, ever lose it. 

Linda

LRM216

Pure - See?  It's true - it printed itself twice!

imbell

There is

You have put into words the thoughts of many of us. Good Work and if this is being stupid so be it. I will gladly join you in the stupid club.

Leah_S

Another one voting for realistic hope. Even though bone mets were found recently, my onc said this is a chronic condition like diabetes or high bp.

Much love to you, Pure.

Leah

Frankie_

I have been wondering about this same Q myself! Add me to the stupid club too.

Anonymous

Of course you aren't stupid.  As several have already told you, you have hope and it is a realistic hope.  I have been Stage lV since May 1998, that is over 12 years ago.  And I was in remission for many of those years when I was being treated with lst Tamoxifen and then Aromasin, moving onto Faslodex. When those stopped working, I moved on to chemo, but did one that was really hard on me so chose to quit (however it did shrink my tumors).  Now I am doing another chemo and this one isn't causing me any real problems at all with side effects and I am still working and doing my usual things.  My oncologist who is not a warm fuzzy type guy who sugarcoats things always tells me like it is and he said he has no reason to think he will not once again be able to put me back in remission.  I don't know what Stage you are, but if I can do this well for this long at Stage lV, there is no reason to believe you can't do even better.   The trick is finding what works for you.  You are not stupid at all, just wondering about what IF and what lies ahead as we all do.

ElaineD

Not at all! What you are actually doing is moving on. You realise and accept that it may come back-but you also know that you have done everything possible to stop this happening. Soon you will find that you don't even ask yourself these questions very often-and you'll just get on with enjoying your life. Check up time will come around-you'll get stressed (everyone does), aches and pains will be  worry for a while. But then you'll realise that having had cancer doesn't stop you getting aches and pains!

I was diagnosed with primaries, back in 1996, and mets in 2007. Admittedly I was gutted when it recurred after so long. But I'm doing my darndest to stay around as long as possible-and hoping,like you, that a way of controlling it in the long term may not be too far away. So-at whatever stage we find ourselves on this jouirney (I make no apologies for resorting to cliches-they work), we will find ourselves sharing similair worries and concerns-so if you are stupid and in denial then we all are!

Good luck for the future-a cancer free one, if at all possible.

flopsy

There are no stupid breast cancer survivors.  The word survivor means hope and forward moving.  So, we are all that and more.  We survive and thrive and keep on going through all  the pain,fatigue, treatments, and follow ups.  Having breast cancer gives you a chance to rethink,regroup, and improve the rest of your life.  You cannot control the future but live each day as a blessing from God as I do and you will have peace.  GIn2ca

Karen09

No you aren't stupid at all.  We are all hoping for the same!

jenn3

Nope, you're not stupid you're moving on.  You know there is a chance it may come back, but there is a better chance that it won't.  Some of us call it denial by choice and as the others said - realistic hope.

marcy4

Add me to the stupid club too.  I look forward to a long, happy, and healthy future.  I figure why worry about the "what ifs" that might never happen, Wouldn't that be a big waste of time!

bambers88

I have IDIOT tattooed on my forehead.. Does that count? If so, count me in!

kimber3006

All my thoughts exactly.  As down as I've been the last week - probably the worst I've been since those first couple of months after diagnosis - I'm still going to go with realistic hope.