cancer vs diabetes

jen93652

Today I went to a relay for life cancer walk with one of my daughters. My husband refused to go (again). Honestly,I was very touched by the people at the walk. The survivors get purple t-shirts to wear and they start off the walk with a survivor lap. As all the survivors were walking, the track was lined with loved ones and friends cheering and clapping. There were so many people there in memory of others who did not win the fight with cancer. I was so very touched at the outpouring of well wishes and realizing how many people are affected and care but I also felt "unworthy" because all I did to earn membership to the survivor club is not die. I tried to talk to my husband but he doesn't discuss anything cancer. He feels that his type 2 diabetes is worse than cancer since he will always have it and I am ok. (SE's aren't on his radar) So do you all feel that it is worse to have diabetes or cancer?  Should I just stop talking about cancer cuz he really doesn't want to hear it? PS: The girls and I raise money for diabetes research too. We feel that it is a way to give back to those who have kept us alive but he feels it is silly. Thanks for listening! What's your opinion?

iodine

Some people refuse to identify anything that does not affect them personally.  My dh was giving me all kinds of grief about not getting better fast enough or still taking pain meds--I quietly told him he could offer his recommendations after he had His hip replaced. 

Just as most women will never know the fear, stress, pain, side effects, etc etc, of breast cancer, hopfully neither will your dh.  My own adult daughter asked me to delay chemo till after Christmas so it wouldn't bring every one down.  She later apologized but then teased me that I had "at least gotten a free boob job".  I am still speechless.  My dh asked me to  take over managing his practice at 3 weeks post op mast/recon and undermined tx plan.  His mgr. had a heart attack and he needed someone to handle the phones and do the billing (I had NO clue how to bill all those ins. cos. and it takes years to learn!)   We put off my onc. eval for 3 mos. because he couldn't take time away from the office -- and I wasn't going alone, dammit.

So---is diabetes worse than cancer?  It is to HIM.  And no one will change that. 

hrf

After I had bc 2 different times, the chemo has caused me to become diabetic.....so I have both. Arguing about which is worse is a waste of time. Each person has to bear their own burdens. Both can kill.