Mom diagnosed with Stage IIa BC

sophia2121

Hi all,

 My mom, who is my very best friend in the whole world, was diagnosed with stage 2a breast cancer last month. It was a big shock to our family, as I am sure it is to most people in similar situations. Her prognosis is good. Her oncologist is fantastic. My husband is also a physician so he helps me make sense of the "big" words and interpreting the test results. She went through her lumpectomy without any complications. She is HER2++, no node involvement. She's a very strong lady, with a wonderful spirit. She's ready to fight, and wants to live to see her grandchildren get married. 

 I'm scared though. I'm scared that this cancer may come back again and take my mom away. I'm having a hard time staying positive, though I manage to in front of her. I'm so glad I found this website, because I really needed it.

I'm pregnant with my 2nd child, and have my gender u/s tomorrow. I feel terrible for saying this, but I was hoping that I don't have a daughter because I don't want her to go through this heartache one day if I get BC too. For some reason, it seems like boys handle this kind of news better than we daughters do!  

It just makes you wonder why something like this happens to someone who you love so much.. 

rumoret

Hi Sophia2121:

I am glad that you found this site and posted. Sounds like your mother is a great person and she  would be really proud of you for being so strong. 

I have two grown daughters also and my oldest daughter was pregnant with her son when I was first diagnosed. The thought of seeing my first grandson was a great inspiration for me during my treatment and even more so during the following years. A couple of years later I was blessed with seeing my youngest daughter give birth to a baby girl. Your mother will find strength in the birth of her grand baby. 

I understand your fear about having a daughter and breast cancer visiting her. My mother was the first in her family to have breast cancer and then I got it. I was tested and I do not carry the gene and so my daughters will not receive the gene from me.......if it ran on their father's side then they could carry it.....but I was very relieved to know that.

If your mother uses the internet--maybe you can share this site with her and that way she can also get the support from other women who are currently going through treatment.

Also....no one wants this to happen to anyone....and it is not unusual for you to ask the questions why this has to happen to someone you love so much.

Sending you a big hug,

Terry