Keeping hair short after treatment... dating

Laurie09

I'm at a crossroads with what to do with my hair.  Really, it's a good problem to have - hair growing back and i can do whatever i want with it!

I had shoulder length hair with bangs before treatment.  i've had my hair cut 3 times since treatment.  It's still very short - like a pixie cut, and I kind of like it.  I've had a lot of compliments about the short style. 

however, after this last cut, a few people have started saying things to me about how guys like long hair better.. I'm single and hoping to start dating, so am wondering what others have done.  I've never had short hair. 

What say you, all, do guys really like long hair better?  Does it really make that much of a difference? 

RegulJ

I don't think most guys like long hair. I have had my hair shoulder length and short. It is your head and your hair I guy will like you for who you are.

I have few rules I follow- my hair is my choice.

NatureGrrl

If you grow your hair long for men that like it long, what about the men that like it short? 

You can't make personal choices like that based on some nebulous idea of what men like, because you'll never pick what all of them like all the time...  and you'll be presenting yourself as someone you think they'll find attractive, instead of as who you are.

Wear your hair how you like it best.  Short now, long later, whatever... do it because it's how you like it and/or the best expression of who you are at the time.  Many men are way more attracted to self-confidence and genuineness (I know there's a better word than that) than a specific hair style.

Laurie_R

First and formost we all have to be true to who we are and not be concerned about how others perseve us. 

CrunchyPoodleMama

(Hope you don't mind a lurker from a married woman! If you do, just ignore!) Very wise words from everyone here... but I do have to say (as I cringe from the flames I will get for saying this), most men are *generally* more attracted to longer hair on women. I know this because I used to not believe it, until I made a point of asking guys... a LOT of them... and with a few exceptions, they pretty much concurred on this point.

NOW -- HAVING SAID THAT!!!!!!!!!! -- a man who is right for you and has character will love you for YOU, not your hair style. He will love you whether you have short hair, long hair, or no hair. He will love you whether you wear cute dresses or comfy sweats. He will love you whether you wear some make-up or choose not to. 

It sounds to me that you are really happy with your cute pixie cut, and I bet you look adorable with it! That's YOU for right now and I would say go for it, especially since YOU, and your own happiness, are more important than finding a mate right now.

Someday, once you are absolutely crazy about a guy and the two of you are getting serious, you can ask him honestly if he has a preference.You might decide it's time for a new do, or you might not. I can say that I keep my hair at least shoulder-length because I know my husband thinks it's more attractive on me. And guess what... he doesn't do buzz cuts any more (like he did before we met) because I HATE buzz cuts. While I agree that your hair is your own and is ultimately your decision, there will come a time when you're getting serious with a guy that you might find yourselves caring more about each other's opinions about certain things than your own ... crazy side effect of love! BEST WISHES to you!!

Fearless_One

I am curious about this issue, too.   I have not dated since my diagnosis and am ready to now.   My hair is all grown but is very short.   I feel very unfeminine.   I know that sounds selfish - I am lucky to be alive - but I want to feel sexy again.