Calling all TNs

Cocker_Spaniel

Ladies.  I feel it is time for me to leave this thread.  My NZ comments seem to offend whereas my aim was to try and cheer you all up with some humour and help you forget for a time, if possible. 

I thank each and every one of you for all the strength and courage you have given me to be able to continue on my journey with breast cancer and for all the advice, love and encouragement you have given me that has helped me so much over this time.  I will never forget you and I thank you all once again from the bottom of my heart. I couldn't have done this with you.   

I hope to (God) that you all are cured of this terrible disease and that you never have to fear breast cancer again.  Keep on trucking forward and never look back and hopefully the sun will shine again permanently for you all again.  Love you all and  will miss you greatly.  Annie  

     

kathyrnn

Jazzy - I know it was a serious question, but I give you my Best Laugh of the Day Award!!!! I'm with Tifj, you sure you didn't get the pharmacist's private stash? I'm hoping your pharmacist just has a bizarre sense of humor. Were there any instructions on the bottle?



Riley - you would have been a great Girl Scout. I'm very find of my jumper cables, my Dad gave them to me one Christmas, and made sure I know how to use them. (heavy duty and extra long) Women always seem surprised when it's a woman who comes to their aid, while men just drive by. Last lady I helped was in the Home Depot parking lot, and "no good deed goes unpunished". While I was jumping her car, another woman in a truck backed up and took out the rear quarter and my bumper! Two woman came over immediately to give me their names if I needed a witness. Home Depot, with 8 zillion men, and not a one of them offered help at any point. After your story

I'm gonna add a fire extinguisher to

The emergancy supplies in my trunk.



Melissa - I'm glad it went well. Now take your meds, drink and rest.

kathyrnn

Annie - you haven't offended anyone!!!!! We are all strong women, often with differing opinions. When we feel differently, we just "agree to disagree". Please reconsider, I would be lost without your sense of humor so please rattle your dags and get your arse back here!!!'

riley702

Annie, please stay.

inmate4232010

Hello Ladies,

I have been away for awhile and wonder why CockerSpaniel thinks she needs to leave.  I admit I have not been able to read all the posts but hope she does not go.  Yes, CS, this is a call out to you to stay in the warmth of your circle of friends.  We may not always agree but what we can do is respect each others differences.  How boring would life be if we were all the same?  Not a world I would want to live in.  

Well ladies, the last few weeks have been a ride indeed.  I ended my chemo 3 weeks ago with a nasty case of pleural effusion.  Super fun!  Not!  What a pain in the side that was.  I looked 9 months pregnant and probably felt as much (never had kids so embellishing a bit here).  The end result was an infection.  Of course that was not after a few visits back to the Dr and several scans.  As I went to my biopsy appointment they could not find enough fluid to biopsy.  The moral of this story is..............I am now dancing with NED!  And I will tell you he is a GOOD DANCER!  SO HAPPY!  As you all know I have not gone more than 2 months past treatment without a recurrence so I am a cautious dancer.  Trying not to step on any toes.....if you know what I mean?

I have also been having some pretty devastating family issues and am happy that I am no longer a stresser for those I love so much.  I just hope they can stop thinking about me and focus on more important things now.

Happy to report that I have reconnected with a friend that became distant during my journey.  We had a wonderful coffee meeting and talked openly and honestly.  She shared that she was scared and didn't know how to handle her feelings because she had not been around someone so sick that she may lose them.  I explained that I understood, because while I have no choice to follow this path I cannot expect my friends or family to join me.  I/we do not have a choice, but they do and for some it can be too much to bear.  Not because they aren't strong enough, but because they have they own struggles and may not have the room for more.  It doesn't make them weak or less of a friend it just makes them human.  I missed her terribly and am so happy she is back........and so I am I.  

Cancer has made me a stronger person.  I am no longer afraid of anything.  I speak my mind and am honest with my advice and response.  I will own what I say and do.  I am bald and flat and proud of my scars and oddly am ready to whip my top off to brag.  Sadly, no takers on that last one.

I just have such love for all you gals and want to add........Out and proud ladies......show it off if you have to, or want to......and stand tall.....you have a lot to be proud of.

Love to you all! 

Cocker_Spaniel

Inmate - this is one post I just cannot miss.  I am so very glad that you are NED.  Wonderful wonderful news. You deserve this so much because you have been through so much.   I am glad you feel stronger and able to say what you feel, must be a wonderful feeling.    I too am bald, flat and would love to whip off my top but I think the chap next door might move.  Great that you reconnected with your friend she obviously loves you as we do.     Anyway just wanted to say - well done I knew you could do it.    Annie xx

inmate4232010

Oh Annie......whip that top off!  Maybe your neighbor needs a change of scenery....if you know what I mean?

Sleep tight my dear.

inmate4232010

Oh sorry, good morning.

Cocker_Spaniel

Inmate yep know what you mean but would I offend him. Annie  

DorisMarie

Morning..don't post much here..but I do follow the board..

annie..you are a part of this board..I would miss you..please stay..

wahoo..started the nausea meds last night..seems to have done the trick..no problems this am..not even the extreme fatigue...maybe this crash will not be as bad..and I'm 1/3 thru with the BGC...

directions on meds say as needed..my advice is take BEFORE need..that was not explained to me..so maybe this will help a newbie..Doris

BernieEllen

Annie, please stay

mags20487

Annie---you must stay!!!  We love you and want to  continue to follow your journey...you have given me many a morning chuckle with your sense of humor.  We are family here and will sometimes step on each others toes but at the end of the day we all need each other.

INMATE--dance away baby...let NED lead you all over the ballroom floor.  You deserve this great news! happiness abounds!!!

Maggie

TifJ

Annie- I must have missed whatever has upset you, but please stay! We are all entitled to our opinions, beliefs or whatever, but we are grown women and we disagree sometimes. I would hate see you leave- your humor lifts us all up everyday! Jazzy and I just had a little disagreement over bravery, but I was in no way offended and I still hold her in the highest regard and enjoy her posts. As Mags said- we need each other- no matter what stage of the journey we are in!

Inmate- I am so, so happy for you! Happy you have reconnected with an old friend! I don't think my one good/ one fake boobs would offend anyone- it's the lovely fat roll slightly below that would have people running in terror!!

Happy Friday all!

NavyMom

WHOOP-WHOOP!  doing the fist pump for you, Inmate!!!  Here's to marathon dancing with NED!  Your post made my day.

Well, Melissa. you got the first one under your belt.  Glad you did fine.  Take good care of yourself.

Hope to see you soon, CS.

Best thing that happened to me- DH and I went for a late night swim in our pool.  Very rarely stay up late enough to be outside after dark....Had a few glasses of wine too!  A fine night. 

LuvRVing

Annie - I read almost everything on this thread, and I totally missed whatever might have offended someone.  I agree with "agree to disagree" - said these very words on another blog where we got into a political discussion yesterday about Obamacare.  You delight us on a regular basis, please don't go away!

Inmate - so very, very happy to hear you are partnered with NED!  I know you've been through a number of treatments...ah, dance lessons...so I'm sure you'll be gliding effortlessly across the dancefloor!

Melissa - thinking of you this morning.  Watermelon is a great way to add extra hydration.  When I didn't feel like eating or drinking, I always was able to eat watermelon.  And I think the frozen grapes idea is brilliant!

I hope everyone has a really great day today!

JazzyJ

Okay, Ron's Rum mystery solved. I called the pharacist to ask if I should take it in shot form or mix it with coke? Her response, " what can I do for you".... what a prude!" Anyway, it's a mixture that includes Mylanta, Benadryl and Lidacain (spelling?).

Odd, but it works. This along with the Biotine Toothpaste, chips during treatment, watermelon and all the other suggestions helped! Thanks,



Congrat's on making it through your first on Melissa! Sounds like you are right on par.

JazzyJ

ANNIE - Please don't leave us!!! Love your sense of humor and the wonderful way they make us feel. As many have stated, we all have different opinions, but we all have many things in common too! The perfect recipe for freindship!



TifJ - We disagreed? :-)

Tazzy

Annie.. WTF ?  Who have you offended ?  Dont you dare go anywhere - we need you, you need us (whether you like it or not).   Surely we are all adult enough to know we can have differing opinions - as Michelle said 'agree to disagree'.  How boring if we all bloody well agreed with each other... that's just bollox.

OK - I am going back to read the other posts now.

Lovelyface

Annie, what?  Where are you going, girl?  I don't know about anyone else, but I completely get all your humors, and totally connect with you all the time.  I loooove the way you write as you give me a chuckle each and every time.  You are not only a great writer, but a humble one at that, joking always at your own expense. I know that you are a damn good looking, very strong woman and a great grandmother, but in your humility to make us all laugh, you don't care to even mock yourself.  There are very few such good people, so I consider you an amazing person.  We have all faced the worst thing ever in our lives, all our egos should be gone by now, no one is better or worse than the other.  Honestly, I love all you ladies with all my heart, just because after going through this diagnosis, I know that in each of your heart of hearts, you are a more compassionate person than someone who hasn't faced death right in the face.  Annie, please stay and amuse us, while we are on this journey.  I hope you won't go.

Tazzy

Inmate... doing all the happy dances in the world for you - what wonderful, uplifting news.    Your post has brought tears to my eyes  it is all we on these boards strive to hear - they are ‘relief' tears and happy tears for you.   And also the paragraph about your friend.  You made me realise how dismissive I may have been with some ‘friends'.   Thank you for your words of wisdom.

Navymom... your late night swim sounds so tranquil and perfect.

To any I have missed - sorry and hope that you are enjoying your days with minimal SE's.

Take care everyone xx

kathyrnn

Inmate - your post made my day! I'm dancing some Salsa in honor of your NED! You have had a roller coaster of a journey and I can't express how happy your news made me. You are a warrior! I'm glad your friend was able to understand and overcome her fear and reconnect with you.



Doris - great advice and you reminded me of something I forgot to tell Melissa.



Melissa - some doctors (not all) give Steroids during some chemos. If you do get them you will find they give you a burst of energy, make it hard to sleep (and can make you very emotional) but the downside is that when they wear off you will feel very fatigued. Just a tip in case they do give them to you.



Mags - Amen to being "family"



Tifj - still laughing at your "fat roll" comment. Picture one old original 42DD next to her Walleyed C sister (nipple points right) over a spare tire that would work fine on a tractor-trailer!!!



NavyMom - I hope some skinny dipping was involved???



LuvRV - you have a wonderful day too!



Annie - again, please stay. (I sent you a PM). One thing I learned when I first started blogging, was that it was easy to say something that someone took offence too. It's because, with the written word, people don't get to see our facial expression, hear the tone of our voice, and also all the clues we give off when we are teasing someone. If someone is offended, they should be able to voice their hurt, and clear up any misunderstanding, without fearing the loss of their friends, One of the things I love the most about this thread is when someone voices a different opinion, because I learn something from them. When Fighter recently posted that she chose to keep her dx private, my first thought was that I did the opposite. I chose to tell everyone because I felt this would make them more comfortable as they saw me going through changes. But Fighter taught me something, and also saved me from possibly being insensitive in a similar situation. (Thank you Fighter!!!).

So no matter what, group hug and kisses, and get you bloody arse back here please, Annie.

kathyrnn

Bloody ell! I type for 5 min and somebody sneaks in. *smooches Lovely and Tazzy*

Tazzy

ha ha ha - I'm a fast typist

TifJ

Jazzy- Did I get the wrong person? I thought I had mentioned that I thought we were not brave, but scared sh*tless! You then said something to the effect that you did feel brave. You then posted you were sorry if you offended anyone by your comment. I thought you meant me! Disagreement was a poor choice of words maybe just a difference of opinion. Maybe it wasn't even you! I can't remember squat!!

Kathrynn- you have me beat!! My chest looks like it's winking- one with a nipple, one without!!

OBXK

Hi ladies, I am out of town. Leg is turning black.

Annie, I am so glad they stopped your chemo. Do you have radiation next? Hope your symptoms go away soon.

Best wishes to all in treatment. Love Karen

Lovelyface

kathyrnn - ditto on everything you said, lovely post.

Inmate - I wish I had your strength, you are my hero.  I shall dance tonight for you, in my kitchen,  a very special dance.

As for Annie, yes, get your bloody arse back here, we need you!

kathyrnn

OBXK - black as in bruised, or black as in oh sh*t?



Tifj -LMAO! You win. *winks back* in solidarity.

kathyrnn

Here we go again, 2 secs and someone sneaks in, thank you so much Lovely. Tazzy, try typing with 2 fat thumbs on an IPhone, and we'll see how fast you are, heheheheheheeh

NavyMom

Kathy    You betcha!

FernMF

Interested in learning HOW you all made choices for chemotherapy - I am 7 1/2 weeks post surgery - I am TNS - stage 1, feel confident the bi-lateral mastectomy "cured" me . . . but reading about how the TNS is a bad thing . . . too many stats on-line - I'd like REAL numbers on recurrence rates and detection once the boobies are gone!!!  Don't want to submit to chemo unless the numbers show a strong suggestion . . . I realize that my diagnosis is a light one - stage I, etc. . . I am so lucky . . but, the diagnosis WAS cancer, and I am now FLAT (by choice) . . this IS serious stuff . . . . Any suggestions are welcome!