online dating sites - ???

troubled_girl

online dating sites - ???

troubled_girl

Hi All,

I am new here.... I am having a lot of emotional issues and lost self-confidence... How do you meet somebody? Can anybody suggest a GOOD dating site that, preferably for younger people (I am 29 y/o)? 

Thanks!

LostinBronx

Hi troubled_girl.  There is a good cancer survivor dating site at http://www.cancermatch.org   It's free and seems to have lots of people on it.

idaho

If you want a free sight that is good (and not all about cancer)  try Plentyoffish.com.....or singlesnet.com ---both are good.   Good luck!  Tami

Anonymous

I agree with Tami... www.plentyoffish.com is free and easy to use. Also read some of the other threads here on "Singles" about online dating and do a search to find where we talk about it over on the "MOJO..." board under "Moving Beyond Cancer." There are certain "rules" that you need to be advised about, things like staying safe with potential psychos, etc.

I met my boyfriend of 2 years on chemistry.com, though he swears he only belonged to match.com, so they must lift profiles. Whatever. The main piece of advice that I can give anyone starting the online dating journey is to be safe and don't take any of it (especially the guys you meet) too seriously. If you're gonna find a special one, you'll find him and you'll know it. In the meantime, just HAVE FUN!!! Life is too short, right?

~Marin

NatureGrrl

I haven't dated since dx and treatment, but in the past I used veggiedate.com, match.com, and eharmony.com.  No matter what the ads say, it's possible to meet creeps (or just plain troubled and dysfunctional men) anywhere, so use common sense and listen to your gut, but I've mostly met a number of very nice men on all three sites (although no real long-term matches). 

However, and feel free to ignore this if it isn't a fit for you, but from what you said: please don't look for man to solve your emotional issues and low self-confidence -- a good man will always bolster you but those are deep issues that need work mainly from the inside out.

Most of all, as mentioned, have fun!

Frankie_

Met my husband (6years ago) on Lavalife and 2 of my "guy" friends met their wifes on it too. I chatted with many men but I am shy and had not had much experience with dating as I was with my first husband (high school sweet heart) for a long time and never experienced dating. Went on 2 dates -one being my now hubby-the rest they say is history. My mom actually helped me set up my account on lava-profile blurb, etc. She initially said I should (have a pair and a spare) lol-date atleast 3 guys at a time. Nope not me, I am one person kinda gal.

Be safe and have fun!

crist

Dating ebook

I like this site its free & useful for dating.

Fearless_One

I heard of prescriptionforlove.com, a dating site for people who have had health issues - you can even narrow it down by health issue.   Only problem is a very small member base compared to Eharmony and Match, etc.

Fearless_One

Maybe I will go back on Eharmony, I liked that one, even though it was a little more $$ than the others.

dating72

It will be right that online dating service is a convenient and relatively safe, when done properly, way for anyone to explore their options in a time where we have been programmed to think that we need to have an unlimited amount of choices. free online dating

lauri

Bumping this up ... I had only one "match" on Eharmony who actually contacted me, but it was such a good match that I stopped looking.  And he was on Eharmony because it was a free weekend!  (Honest and frugal ... two of my "must-have" qualities)

So maybe try this on the next free holiday -- fill out the forms being ABSOLUTELY honest about everything and see if there's anybody.  The price is right even if you don't find anybody interesting.

FYI, I mentioned the BC in our first exchange of emails (but forgot to mention the mastectomy until right before we finally met -- but at least the great reveal wasn't a surprise.

Fearless_One

So then what happened after you told him?   

lauri

Fearless -- he figured I was a whole, complex person, not just a missing breast.  (The advantage of dealing with a mature man instead of an overgrown boy.)  It has been almost 10 months, and getting better every day.

bedo

I know someone who went to OK Cupid.  It seems to be for younger people.  They met after 2 weeks and are attached at the hip. And it's free. She's 29 too and very picky.

Hpios65

E harmony,That's where I found my wonderful husband! After dx! Good luck!

Galsal

What will they think of next...a cancer survivor matching site?  WOW

Natters

I'm on OKCupid and match.com and so far I've met 2 sane and interesting women (I'm gay). I have gone on 2 dates with the second woman and I'm thinking of getting somewhat intimate with her soon, which is probably less stressful for me since I only had a lump but stil...it'll be the first time anyone else sees or touches my lump and radiation scars. She knows I had rads but she doesn't exactly know why, and I'm fairly certain that she has no clue what it can do to your skin (she's only 35). Still, she makes me feel comfortable and I feel sexy now that I can wear a bra again and work out, and I'm back in all my normal clothes.

Blessings2011

Just a word of warning about computer dating sites - a friend had a very sad experience not long ago when they got a response from someone who seemed like the perfect companion.

Only the more they emailed and chatted and texted, it seems that the perfect companion had many needs - most of them financial. And there was always a reason they couldn't meet in person. Many plans got cancelled.

The stories got more and more bizzarre, and my friend finally discovered - after a big intervention by friends, and subsequent research -  that there are thousands of scam artists online, looking for vulnerable people to create relationships with, only to swindle them out of money.

Just be careful! And if a story someone tells you seems weird, Google it! It may be a common one told by many scam artists.

Oh, yeah....the site was OKCupid

Natters - at least you met a real person! Hope things work out for you!!!

juneping

i was doing online before dx for about 5 months at two different sites. match and OkC. i would say until you are more comfortable after surgery/treatment, be very careful about online dating sites.

most men there are looking for one thing and very few are looking for r/s. i just feel i would not put my vulnerable self out there unless i really really want a r/s. i am sorry, i don't really have positive experience in online dating.