Today is my wedding anniversary

kimber3006

Seven years ago today we were getting married in a little white chapel in Vegas.  For the record, it was totally planned and we had been dating for over 2 years!  I had lost my dad a couple years before and didn't want a traditional wedding without him there to give me away.  My husband only had 9 days leave before he had to be back in Saudi for work, so we took our best man and maid of honor and their significant others with us.  It was the most fun!

Today someone at work told me that I was so lucky, that he must really love me to have done all that he has and stayed with me through all of this.  WTH?!

I also had a friend at work who helped her sister through this BC hell and has had her own brushes with it tell me she has another friend who was also Stage 3 and HER2+ who is 13 years out and doing great!

We ordered some great pizza and spent a fun afternoon with our little boy.  So more ups than downs and I count that a great day.

karen1956

Happy Anniversary....wishing you many more 7 years!!!

Makratz

Happy Anniversary and I hope you have many, many more!

As for your coworkers comment, that belongs in the "stupidest things people say" thread!!

xoxo

Leah_S

Congratulations!

My parents celebrated 63 years recently - may you some day do the same.

Leah

Billynda

Congratulations!!! 

My husband and I had our 5 year in November, and we eloped in Vegas:)  We were planning a big wedding for the following September and there was already family turmoil!!!  So we decided that we'd have a lot more fun just the 2 of us.  We had a blast, and it was a lot cheaper!!!

everyminute

Congrats - ain't love grand?  I used to wonder, for no reason, if and why my hubby loves me (just my own insecurities) I never doubt it for a minute now.  I think once you have cleared someones drains you are mates for life or something like that - lol. 

KerryMac

Happy Anniversary!! Here's to 70 more!

I really wanted to get married in Vegas, but as we had an "immigration" wedding, I wasn't sure it would look legit! But ours was just really small, and organised in a month - I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. 

Mary is right - once you have emptied someones drains, you pretty much know they would do anything for you! 

I think after coming through what we have, we know we chose well. 

Pure

umm don't you just love insensitive people who somehow think that there life is untouable from tradegy and sickness. Aren't we all a phone call away from being brought to our knees.

One thing BC has brought me is an awareness of my marriage. I took care of him 10 years ago when he was ill and it helped me grow up but it took it's toll on our marriage. 10 years later I am more grown up and this has helped us grow closer and more in love.

Happy Happy Anniversary!!!!

everyminute

PURE - funny I just said the same thing about a spin instructor that I had the other night.  I wish her no harm and certainly no ill will but she just is so condesending and cocky.  When we left the class I said to Joe "She is just one tragedy from finding out how strong she really is"

Let-It-Be

oops just saw this!  Happy belated anniversary!! 

KerryMac

We too have a friend too who is very "smug" in her life - I have said the exact same thing to my husband about her.

It is funny, as people always think they are somehow immune to tragedy, and can explain away when something bad happens to someone else. (eg well, she smoked/was overweight, etc etc) But how many of us are sitting here with Stage 3 BC, with no known risk factors at all. Jen you summed it up perfectly - tragedy is just one phone call away from everyone.

Bugs

Happy Anniversary, Kimber!

On the line of stupid things...sometimes you even hear them from bc survivors!  When I was just recouperating from my bilateral I was over at a friend's house.  We were doing the"kid exchange" as it was church night for the kids.  One of the Mom's came to get her son and I found out she was a bc survivor.  So, we started talking and I asked her if it had been in her nodes.  She said "No, and you know why I believe it wasn't?  Because we prayed before my surgery!"   Well, that shut ME up in a hurry, lol.   I was still too raw with my stage 3 dx to admit that hey, I prayed, too!

jenn3

Happy Anniversary!!!

As for the stupid people we are surrounded by  - sorry you had to encounter one on your annivesary.

everyminute

oh darn. I forgot to pray.  That must be it! silly me.

kimber3006

Thanks all!  Kerry, I don't know about 70 more since that would make me 109 years old, but what the heck, anything is possible! 

For the record, I prayed, too.....A LOT!

KerryMac

Hey, kimber - aim high!! Go for 80!!

So thats what I did wrong! Knew it was something.....LOL!

Jane_M

Kimber - Happy Anniversary.  My in-laws just celebrated 51 and DH and I will be 27 in June.  It doesn't seem possible.

NancyD

Happy Anniversary...the good kind!

kim40

Happy Anniversary!!

Dang - I obviously forgot to pray!!

balsie

Hi all~ Yes some people can say the meaness most unneccesary things.....rise above I guess! Pure you are so right that we are all a phone call away from a train wreck. 

My husband and I got married in Vegas!  I had it all planned out and picked the chapel because it had stained glass windows in the door ( I do stain glass)  it was called the chapel of love.  When we got there we realized we had to trot throught Circus Circus to get there...what a hoot.  We brought my twin brother and his wife.  We will be having our 21st ann. in March. 

So Happy Aniversary Kimber!

Warmly,

Balsie~

cherneski

Happy Anniversary! 

And yeah to your stupid co-worker, ummmm speechless.  IDIOT

caaclark

Happy Anniversary!!

I prayed too but apparently, God said no to my prayers.

People are stupid.

lexi4

Happy Anniversary!! I wish you many more happy years together!!

Lexi

Gitane

Thanks for sharing your happiness with us.  Congratulations, Kimber, and may you have many, many more happy anniversaries. G.

Claire_in_Seattle

Hi Kimber.....

Major congrats, and yes, that exercise DOES count

I expect people to be insensitive, but the one that drives me nuts is when I talk to people I knew when I was in school who insist on talking about all the other people who have cancer, particularly those who aren't doing well.*  And I am still seething about my friend who made it clear that I should expect a long and painful recovery from surgery "at our age".  I have to admit I enjoyed telling her that my surgeon said it was quite the opposite.

Anyway, your wedding sounds delightful and avoided all the trappings of the "wedding business".  So go enjoy. - Claire

* Think it's time to call that crowd back and wax at length about all the long bicycle rides I have taken all through chemo as I know they can't do this one even on a good day.