recon

dawn16

  I have an appointment tomorrow with my plastic surgeon re my tram flap reconstruction.  I don't know what I should do about this.  I was just dx with small met to my breast bone and don't know if I should go ahead or not.  I've waited 2 years to finally get this and tomorrow is my last consult.  Is it like giving up if I don't?  But what could be instore for me in the future with these mets?  Anyone out there with the same dilemma or any thoughts anyone?  Im thinking I probably shouldn't put myself through anything unnecessary either.  Thoughts?  I would appreciate any help. 

Thanks Dawn

pitanga

Dawn,

I was diagosed with local recurrence --same breast-- and bone mets earlier this year. I had a lumpectomy the first time around so this time was a mastectomy. I had an implant put in during the same surgery,  I felt that with the proverbial sh** hitting the fan, why should I have to be lopsided on top of it all? Insult to injury, etc!! 

Best of luck to you in making your decision,

Lisa 

SandraJoy

I think any reconstruction has to be personal choice.  I had a mastectomy 10 years ago and have been offered a recon every year since and have refused it.  I couldnot see the point in going through more pain and hubby was fine with the whole one boob thing so I never felt the need.  I was 36 at the time - but have never regretted not having it done.  I manage to find bras in everyday shops, and although I dont wear anything low cut I've never struggled to find nice tight fitting tops and dresses.  When I tell new friends about my mastectomy they cant believe it and always try to guess which one it is!

Erica3681

Hi SandraJoy,

Thanks for sharing your story. I don't mean to change the subject of this thread, but I just wondered what type of breast form you use and whether you sew pockets into the regular bras you wear. I also chose not to reconstruct (after a bilateral mastectomy) and subsequently started a non-profit website, BreastFree.org, where I try to provide information and support to women who are considering not having reconstruction or who have already decided not to. I'm always interested in the solutions women find. Like you, I continue to wear tight-fitting tops (I even wear some fairly low-cut ones) and no one can ever tell.

Hi Dawn,

I replied to your question on another thread. I hope you've found the various answers you've gotten helpful as you make your decision about reconstruction.

Barbara