"It's just a rock" (In memory of DebC)

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Friends,

I know that the issues being discussed lately (i.e., mammogram guidelines, health care, etc.) are bigger than the simple personality conflicts that happen from time to time. But even though the issues are important, I still believe we can be respectful of each other as we agree to disagree about things. And if someone isn't respectful, as hard as it is not to react, it's really a better idea to just ignore them.

Feel free to tell me to jump in the lake or mind my own business.

As Deb would say...

Bugs and Fishes,

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ARRRGGHHH!! Edited to add: Should I remove the driving analogy? I don't mean to imply that anyone here is crazy. I just mean that when someone isn't behaving in a manner that you like or agree with, it's not your job to correct them. Just ignore them. Now I'm worried about this being a problem. I think I'm going to delete that part.

Bren-2007

Colleen .. OMG .. I love Deb's story about the rocks on the school playground!

Thanks for the wonderful memory ..

Love ya,

Bren

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I know, I really do think of her often, and wonder how John and the girls are faring. She had the gift of being able to state her opinion strongly, but without denigrating anyone who didn't have the same opinion. She stood up for herself, but she was loving, kind and forgiving, and so gracious.

Dejaboo

I think of Deb & her head dress : ).

I didnt know her...But Read many of her Posts.

I did not see her Rock Story.

Does someone have it to post?

Pam

Bren-2007

Pam .. might take awhile to find the rock story.  Deb wrote it about 2 years ago in the Wagon Circle thread.  I'll do some checking ... maybe we will get lucky and someone copied it.

I miss her bear stories!!  Sometimes I like to look at her old blog, read her notes and enjoy the moose pictures.

Bren

dontknowwhy

I hope you don't mind.  I didn't know DebC, but the story intrigued me.  She sounds like an amazing person.

I found the story:

Feb 5, 2008 09:25 pm AlaskaDeb wrote:

I work part time at an elementary school library.  Every day I have recess duty with the kinders through 3^rd grade.  I really like to get outside and have an excuse to play with the kids, but there is one part of the job that makes me nuts....

There is a big field where a lot of the kids play.  One of the perennial favorite games it to make "houses" and play in them.  In the summer the houses are outlined as squares on the ground made with rocks, sticks and pebbles.  In the winter they use snow balls or chunks of ice.  They have a whole little neighborhood of house in that field.

There must be something in human nature that makes all the kids covet an especially nice rock or perfectly round snowball from someone else's house.  They snatch each other's house parts whenever they think no one is looking....that is how it starts...then the kids pick sides.  They argue about who had the rock first.  They steal it back, or tattle to one of the adults that people are steeling their rocks.  They form little groups that spread rumors about the person who stole their rock.  They plan raids to get the rock back.  If they can't take a snowball, they will kick the walls of the house down.  They tell intentional lies about the kid they think stole their rock to get them in trouble.  I kid you not, it is like a little payton place.  Pretty soon even the kids forget what started the most recent war....but still they battle on.

That, my friends, is what this thread feels like to me now.  The undercurrents of bad feelings from rocks taken long ago make me really uncomfortable.  The veiled comments and direct nasty attacks, the posts that are deleted out of spite....they just make me weary.  I really like coming here.  I like to hear about everyone's lives.  I feel like you have become, in a very real way, friends of mine. 

Like I tell the kids, it's just a rock.  Let it go.  Go play with your friends...

Hugs

Deb C

glostagirl

That's an awesome story, brought tears.

Bren-2007

   Thanks for posting the rock story.  I just found it myself .. did a search of the word "rock" in the Wagon Circle thread.

   I read Deb's blog again to see if she had written the story there as well.  I miss her.

love,

Bren

PS ... Don'tknowwhy, Deb was an amazing woman!  Here's a link to her blog.  I'm glad John left it up.

http://glassylady41.spaces.live.com/

Beesie

Colleen, thanks for the post and the good reminder, from Deb, of how silly we are being. 

Gosh, I miss Deb.  And I've wondered too how John and the girls are doing.  If anyone has an update it would be great to hear.

dontknowwhy

Thanks, Bren, for posting the blog link!!  The pictures are gorgeous!!  I love that the place is called Hope!

Maire67

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don'tnkowwhy - thanks for finding the story!

There was a time when this board was my lifeline, my therapy session, my best friends, my courage when I was afraid and a spare pair of bootstraps (or big girl panties, your choice) when I was in need of someone telling me to "get over it and get going" :-) 

Deb was just one of the many ladies who represent that time to me. I cherish that time, and I cherish those ladies with all my heart.

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PS. Hi Bren

Bren-2007

Okey dokey Colleen .. that's twice now you're brought me to tears.  It's a good day to reminisce about the love and fellowship we shared.  Was thinking about W today, and wondering how your dad was.  My gosh .. W must be a (((teenager))).   Do you have the same address?  I want to send you an Xmas card/picture!

Love,

Bren

karen1956

Colleen...thanks for starting this thread.  you expressed my sentiments so well

dontknowwhy...thanks for finding DebC's original post....she was an amazing woman...and I too wonder how her family is doing.

Bren...think of you often...still have your green bracelet and it brings a smile to my heart whenver I wear it.....hope things are well with you...

 Starting to visit bco more often these days.....so nice to see familiar faces!!!  Hugs, Karen

Bugs

I miss Deb.  She was a very wise woman and told it like it was.  Nice thread to read

lewisfamily503

I MISS DEB!!!!    She was so funny and had great insights into life in general.   The rock story hits close to me since I teach k through 5th grade children as a music specialist.  I do agree with Deb that adults can be JUST like children, maybe even more so.   I haven't been to BC.org for awhile, but the last time I visited, there was a big fracas because a lowly DCIS gal had the gall to ask a question  to gals on the stage 4 forum.  She was attacked and belittled, and humiliated  because she quite innocently asked a question that women on that forum felt she had no "right" to ask since she wasn't a member of ther particular "sorority."   It just made me sad and disgusted.   We are all in this together, regardless of how bad we have it.   I may not be stage four, but I am TOTALLY in support with ALL of you, no matter where you are on this journey.    Deb would have wanted it that way.......

SoCalLisa

For Deb

SoCalLisa

Nico1012

Anne ~   AMEN!

Nico

shokk

Hey Colleen............crap I miss Deb...........we all go through life.........we have our good times and bad.........happy times and sad............well times and sick times but I was not expecting to lose Deb........and for it to happen so quickly............

 For many of the circle girls they had the privilege to meeting her in person at Pinkstock 1..........just knowing her through cyber space was like having a long time best friend.........somehow she made all of us feel that way............I was six months behind her in dx........and I know that you, Deb, myself.....Gina were all triple negative..........I felt like I was following right behind her........she got shingles........I got shingles six months later...........she was always around to help out and offer advice.........which if you think about her being in Alaska she was up either awfully early or up at the 3 a.m. worry hour where none of us could sleep......

I think of her as a spark plug.........her personality was explosive..........I remember one of my post I was asking why breast cancer was happening to such good ladies.......we all seemed to be decent people for the most part.......hard workers.......loved our families and our friends........cared about each other even though for most of us we had never ever met in person.........I had ask why can't mass murders get cancer.........child molesters..........bad people........she told me I am sure that some do..........we can question God but we must have faith..........stuff just happens.......

I guess what I remember most about Deb though was 10 months before McCain had even won the primary and had even nominated a VP she sent me the most precious pm and told me to keep my eye on "Sarah Palin"........the governor of Alaska........that she was a spark plug and had done wonders in Alaska........crap I miss Deb so much...........

when so many of us were acting the fools she was this light of reason...........she kept telling us it was "just a rock"................I guess when the circle was going down many girls must have been pm'ing her asking her to step in and settle things down........she finally told everyone to leave her alone........after all it is "just a rock"..........

I cannot even imagine the pain that John and girls must be going through............Deb was such a dynamic force here in cyber space can you imagine what she was like at home?............if anyone deserved to live it was her...........as I am sitting here typing about Deb I have not done anything to raise money for cancer research except donate my tumor tissue for research........she raised more money for Alaska's Relay for Life then anyone else in Alaska.......pretty amazing........but what is really amazing is that Deb wouldn't even consider it to be anything amazing.......just something she believed in and did something about it........she didn't just talk the talk but walk the walk even when she was so sick............

Deb please look me up when (God willing)I get to Heaven............I am so looking forward to wrapping my arms around you and give you a great big Texas hug that can only be outdone by a great big Alaskan hug............love Shokk

palaminoridesagain

My favorite story from DebC was the bear story.  I could just picture her running out the door in her house robe with a rifle in her hand.  Somehow that story made me laugh and stuck with me the longest time.

I also remember her driving to go for RADS and her seeing/describing the northern lights. 

I miss her too.  She somehow always found a way to make one smile despite what she was going through.

nnn

jenni__ca

bugs and fishes

navygirl

Lisa...you are a jewel when it comes to finding the perfect picture to post...

I have no idea what prompted this thread, but I like re-reading Deb's anecdotes. She had the best ones didn't she?

I love you and miss you Deb... 

smithlme

I miss Deb, too. I would look for her posts, just to see what silly, true life antics she was up to.

Bren-2007

SoCalLisa

Love it Bren

I remember when she posted that from Hawaii