Concerned friend

cefni

Hello all

I have avery good friend who has had adouble mastectomy and i will be seeing her for the first time since she has has herop we have not met up for at least 10 yrs but have refreshed our friendship .I just dont know what to say to her at this special meeting we will be together .Could any one help as to how to start the confersation she did tell me straight out thet she was not at all well and had complications after her op so that is out in the open help please thanks cefni

cherneski

Cefni, Just treat her like normal.  She is in fact different from before, but trust me she doesnt want to be treated with pity, or that she is different.  As far as her disease let her take the lead.  But treat her like anyone else you havent seen in 10 years, catch up on family, friends, jobs etc.  Hope this gets to you on time as it is now the end of the weekend.  If you have any other questions how to help her you might want to post under "getting through treatment"  you will probably get more responses. 

Have fun catching up with your friend.

cefni

Thank you so much for your reply i see her next week & i will remember all you said many thanks

saint

Ditto on deborah's post-----first things first--she is your friend. SHE will set the tone regarding the cancer. She may not mention it or it may be all she talks about.........follow her lead & try not to worry about what you say--be you! come back & let us know how it goes.

Hugs-be well & stay strong 

cefni

Hello all

My friend the first thing she told me was she had had amastectomy (double )and radiation , This was just after i asked her how she is so it is all in the open but it took my breath away .if that happened to me i would just like to be open and say it how it is .My lovely big sister has non hogkinsons lymphoma annd we chat via email all about her treatment as she live in canada and i am in uk .ladies i wish you all luck and love as afellow lady many thanks fro your time in reply to my post xxx