MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

Tomboy

lettuce, husband, too funny!

Tomboy

probably the only time you can be around a naked woman and get away with mentioning fish

macatacmv

lol barbe, about not being able to get hubby away from the sushi table. (and yes, I think that was the point of the later gator pic.)

so I had to go back a few pages to find who was saying they had breathing issues and fatigue already. It was ncollete the respiratory therapist of course! That sounds like what I went thru. I hadn't been feeling well for a while before dx, but was having lots of stress and drama in my life. So docs thought I was a "bit depressed". I  tried to tell them I know the difference between tired and depressed by this stage of the game. But anyway, I caught a cold after my lx but was ushered into rads while having a bad cough. The SOB got so bad I could barely walk. I got really sick during rads. So now we think, since I still have a cough and some trouble breathing, that there was something going on before and treatment just really weakened my system and I am having a hard time recovering. So I would recommend trying to figure out what is wrong now, if you can. I was dx with asthma and COPD and put on prednisone, 3 inhalers and 3 different nebulizer meds, which I think just made everything worse. Now I have gotten off all steroids and gotten the dxs taken away, but still feel crummy.  I am working real hard trying to find a doc interested in dx and not just treating the symptoms. But being on Tami, and an anti d, and HPB meds doesn't help either. I am not complaining just trying to adapt. Anyway, all that to say I wish I hadn't rushed into rads. But since you are in the biz of breathing techniques, maybe you know a doc who would help you now before it gets worse. IMHO

We will be here for you new ladies, no matter what you choose or do not choose to do. They are your decisions. we just like to gab a lot and tell you what we think!!

So I was at a bday party for a 6 year old yesterday (my kind of party). I was talking to grandma (of the kid, not any relation to me) who was very concerned about my health. I thought she really wanted to know how I was doing, but she said "So, it is just breast cancer?" I walked away to talk to someone who cared, didn't matter to me they were only 5. 

heartnsoul76

Speaking of information, a few pages back we were talking about how sleep deprivation affects us.  Here's an interesting article.  It doesn't mention fibromyalgia, but I know that's one of the health problems you get - from interrupted sleep, actually.

http://www.prevention.com/health/health-concerns/what-lack-sleep-does-your-body

Just breast cancer.... wow, mac. Didn't you want to slug her?

luvmygoats

Macatacmv - Lawdy Miss Scarlett I hope grandma never gets that awful "just breast cancer".  I think you showed great restraint in not slapping her. Bet the 5 year old had better smarts upstairs and was a whole lot more fun.

OK I was totally bored the other night. Has anyone watched "Skin Games" on the GameShowNetwork? It was pretty fascinating in a weird way. One challenge was painting a bald head to be a table centerpiece. The contestant kicked off at the end is told "go wash off your canvas" and we see the model discretely showering body paint everywhere. Prob. not a show to watch with children because of the nudity (pasties required). Darn it no guys at least on this episode. Not sure if there ever are except for bald head centerpieces.

glennie19

Seems like a lot of "naked" shows lately. My friend was telling me about "Naked Dating"  and I've come across "Naked House Hunting".  (nudist colony somewhere in FL)

and my coworker got me hooked on watching Naked and Afraid.  They turn 2 strangers loose in the middle of some god-forsaken place, with only 2 tools (usually a big knife and a firestarter). No food, water or clothes.  No shoes,,,, which is major in some of these places. I wouldn't last a night with the bugs biting you everywhere,, and I mean, everywhere!! Sometimes the people get along, and sometimes they don't.  And they eat the most awful things. They are out there for 21 days

 

HomeMom

glennie - I've seen that show too.  Imagine naked and walking through thigh high mirky water? nahhhh.

glennie19

thigh high water with snakes and gators??  Ticks in really bad places???  No thanks!!!

marlegal

Eli, thanks so much for this thread. I've been on bco for 9 yrs now (woo hoo me!) and this is by far the most honest thread for my money. It makes me laugh, or cry, or frown. Best though? It makes me think. And hopefully along the way I may have helped a person or two. That's what we all have in common. Sometimes we need help, and sometimes we're able to give it.

Congrats on yet another milestone 

ndgrrl

Thanks for this thread, its been wonderful for advice. 5 years and going strong- YEA!!  Wow the food on here made me hungry and the eye candy!!!! UFFF!! what can I say!!!

 

jbokland

yes- Naked Sushi Night features models with sushi. They are mostly for show and there is other sushi being passed and served.  Lot of giggling and fun!  We were discussing having a home party with a blow up doll!   Ha ha...thinking of creative ways to use the doll to also hold the wasabi and a good place to use as a napkin dispenser!

barbe1958

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA, I "see" the napkin dispenser...but up here we call them serviettes. Napkins are for periods!!

macatacmv

had to share this with y'all!!!

jbokland

lol!!

marlegal

Nine years. Years filled with so many wonderful things. Two weddings, two sons-in-law to love. Two new wonderful homes to visit.Three grandchildren, three precious little boys to love. Five trips with 30+ new best friends, with trip six happening in a few weeks. Nine years. Year one might not have been the highlight, but it paved the way to the ones which followed, each one better than the one before. I hope I've gained compassion. I know I've gained appreciation for little things as well as big things. Nine years. A huge thank you to family and friends who got me through year one. Too many names to mention but you should know who you are! I can't help on this day each year but to think about that day nine years ago and the time right after and the kindnesses shown me. I will forever be grateful for those kindnesses. Cheers to the last nine, and cheers for many more to come, please God 💗

macatacmv

woo hoo, for nine years marl!!!!!!! Here's to many more 

marlegal

thanks Mac!

Eph3_12

These guys are happy for you Marl!

NativeMainer

Yeah, Marle! 

ncollett

macatacmv I am going to go see a Pulmonologist just to be proactive before I start rads and he will also help keep an eye on me. Sorry you had to go through so much and dont you just love Predinisone (not) Its that necessary evil. I love my job but sometimes being in healthcare is dangerous because you see and know too much so then your mind starts to go towards the worst of things. I am glad I found this site though it keeps my mind busy so I dont think about things.

heartnsoul76

Marlegal, congratulations on NINE years! That's wonderful, and what you wrote is so beautiful and inspirational. It was a very eventful decade for you and I guess that's what happens during this period of our lives.  My son just graduated from college, just got his first real job.  I suppose our lives will start a new phase now but I sure miss the old one where he came home everyday and talked about school...

Hope you're doing well, FootballNut! Been thinking about you!

DianaRose - hope everything is going alright for you, too!  If you see this please let us know how things are.

I just got back from the MO and my bloodwork and tumor markers were good. But my skin is erupting in these big itchy spots and she said the Tamoxifen (and AIs) can cause the skin to break down because of less estrogen. And it's a fungal thing going on which is so insidious. I'm thinking, "Grrreat. One more little side effect like this PITA and I'm quitting this crap."  I've got 16 months to go.  What's so special about 5 years anyway?  Does anyone know?

jbokland

It's over !!

HomeMom

Where is that damn "LIKE" button!!

glennie19

agree!  WE need a like button over here.

3rdtimenow

Like!!!!

marlegal

Eph, you KNOW George is my favorite!!!

Jbok - wooo hooo!!!! I remember that feeling soooo well

Thanks for the congrats girls...couldn't have done it without lots of you

HomeMom

Anyone that is ER+, do you plan to drink again? I'm beginning to think about this now that I am one chemo treatment away from the finish line.

Momine

HomeMom, I never stopped. I cut way, way, waaaaaaayyyy back during chemo, but that simply meant that I had one, single glass of wine 2X a week. I still go easy on the wine, but if I want a glass, I have one.

Everything I have read points to:

1. Moderate alcohol intake (1-6 drinks per week) appears to be correlated to some modest increase in cancer risk and recurrence risk. Major risk only comes with major intake.

2. Moderate alcohol intake is also correlated with a decrease in deaths from other causes (stroke, heart etc), so that even with the cancer risk, you are better off drinking a little than you are with not drinking at all.

3. A blogger made the very good point that the risk associated with moderate alcohol intake is not that great, whereas the reduction in risk if you exercise regularly is quite significant. The blogger was wondering why docs will tell patients not to drink, but won't bother getting them to exercise.

In any event, I like red wine, and I finally decided that I will not give it up. It adds to my quality of life.

HomeMom

My RO explained it to me and said "They want to put us all in a box. You need to enjoy your life, if you have a bad day at work, go home and have a glass of wine".   I know someone who was triple positive 7 years ago and she still takes Tamoxifen so she can drink occasionally.  I was like 97% ER+ so I am a little concerned. I used to drink typically just 2 nights a week, but I would have 3-4 glasses of wine each night. I don't think I will do that anymore.  Exercise is DEFINITELY something I am going to increase. I walked 3-4 times a week 3 miles each time but did nothing else. I'm going to plan a good routine that includes more cardio and some weights.

glennie19

I'm 100% ER positive,, I don't drink,, but I am thinking that I don't get enough exercise.   Thought I was in menopause, but now estrogen levels have rocketed up, so a hysterectomy is scheduled for next month. I need to get these blood levels down!