MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

ndgrrl

Some employers are just not understanding. My boss asked me when I was dx with cancer if the doctor gave me a "pill" to get rid of it. When I was gone with a doctor ordered leave of absence from going back to work to soon and over doing it. My job was eliminated and duties given away to other people when I was on doctor ordered leave and they got away from it.   I called FMLA(Family Medical Leave Act) and they tried to help me but since they could not come up with 50 employees within 75 miles they could not help me.I guess what really hurt the most is my boss told everyone I was "faking" it when I came back 9 days after internal high dose radiation and tore out scar tissue- got an internal bleed and my whole arm swelled up and I had to go to OT until last month to deal with the lymphedema that was starting. I tried so hard to go back to work only to get hurt and then treated so badly. It made me lose my faith in people so I became a hermit for the winter. People are finding me and they have been reinstating my faith in man kind that and my new boss who is totally understanding!!

macatacmv

ndgrrl, Sometimes we just gotta find the right people to have around us. I have definitely changed some of the places and people I associate with. I don't tolerate docs who don't take me seriously anymore, either. 

I am glad you are finding people that are reinstating your faith. Sometimes it takes longer than we think it should. 

Eph3_12

I never had bone pain with Neulasta & I didn't do Claritin.

ndgrrl-some time your former boss will know on a personal level what serious illness is & can do.  At that time, I hope somehow he is filled with remorse of the extremely poor & what sounds to me like illegal way he handled your situation.

Momine

I would sometimes get a sort of achy thing in my pelvis after neulasta, but it usually only lasted a few hours and it was not as bad as the lower back/hip pain I usually get (bad back).

NativeMainer

FBN--Hooray for no
bone pain from the neulasta!

Ndgrrl--some people
are just clueless and so self-centered.So glad you have found, or been found by a better boss!

Footballnut

it's Monday and beautiful outside!  I'm going for a walk and taking all of you with me!  Maybe we can stop at Starbucks and have an ice t lemonade!  :-)

Here's to no bone pain and having plumbing that's working as expected!!

Lol

Have a good day all !!

macatacmv

here's to no bone pain!!!!! your plumbing sounds like it's working better than my plumbing Here's to that, too!!!!!

Have a great walk! 

Look my dog can touch her nose with her tongue!! Look how serious she looks. lol she gets me out walking every day!!

elimar86861

Your dog does look serious, but at least she still has her dignity.

Happy Cinco de Mayo!

Footballnut

OMG!  Love the dog pics!

Funny how we celebrate things like pooping!  You gotta laff!!  If you dig deep enough there's always some humour somewhere at some part if a journey!!

Just got back from my walk. 3.2 miles in under an hour. Feel pretty good!  Fun walking while feeling buzzed at the same time!!  I hope that I was walking in a straight line!!  Lol

dechi

  Happy Cinco de Mayo~!

elimar86861

LOL!   

MameMe

That is hilarious!

Momine

Football, speaking of plumbing - probiotics, just saying. Those things saved me from both thrush and plumbing problems during chemo (not 100%, but it helped a great deal). Later I saw a study that probiotics during chemo may also boost the effect of the chemo, so win-win.

Dogs are great for some exercise and cheer. They don't care if you are bald or titless, as long as you take them for a walk.

Footballnut

momine when u say probiotics exactly what did u eat?

Wired night last night. Peed every hour or do and feel pressure in my head. A bit achy but nothing unbearable. Atleast I slept a bit

I love dogs. I told my DH that if I had cancer we would have to get a dog. Then I remembered that I'm allergic!  I know that there are non allergenic dogs out there but id really like a husky or something like that. While I'm on disability from work we are trying not to spend $ so now is not the right time. Plus in my opinion the area here is not good for larger dogs. Small backyards no big parks where a fog can run free - just a big right subdivision.  One day!!  So true how a dog loves you just for being you!!

Momine

Football, I just took acidophilus from the drug store, nothing fancy.

Footballnut

tx momine

What a beautiful day!  Just returned from a 5 mile walk. Gorgeous!  Took the tape off of my port now just have steri strips and dried blood. Ugh!  I'm such a suck!  I hate knowing that it's there!  Hopefully I'll forget about it one day. Yeh not me!!  Lol

Have a great day all!!

Momine

Wow! 5-mile walk is GREAT! Do it as much as you possibly can. It will help all manner of chemo-induced ills.

lovewins

You are doing great FBN.  You know I could never put my finger on how I felt during chemo but you hit the nail on the head when you said you felt pressure in your head.  That is it...I wonder why that is?  My parents dog would love on me when I would visit during chemo...I took her for many walks.  My last she look at me and then ran to the back door where her leash is.  So cute...I love dogs now.

macatacmv

e, how'd the yard sale go? You had it, right? 

Footballnut

I actually feel so good right now!  So I treated myself to a burger and fries and a cinnamon coffee cake from Starbucks. Lol. Drank my water. And got my period!!  Lmao!!!! 

macatacmv

fbn, you hit the jackpot!! Glad you have an appetite. 

So my DD came home from CO the other day. she got home before I did and was in my room. When I came home and we were discussing moving a bureau from my closet down into her room, she pointed to the pretty pink hatbox looking thing with the rose embroidered on it and asked what it was. I replied it was my prosthetic, she looked disgusted and said she touched it and shuttered. lol That will teach her to go through my stuff. 

Footballnut

macatacmv - isn't  it interesting how others respond to something like a prosthetic?  Especially when she was going through your things. Lol

I remember years ago when my ac/dc trib was playing I met a patron at the bar prior to playing. He was amazed with my arm saying that he was convinced that I had titanium in it. He asked if I minded of he held it like it's an object. I didn't care. I lmao while he examined it amazed. He wasn't being rude. Just in awe. When I told him that it didn't do windows he didn't know how to react

Lol

elimar86861

That is an interesting subject...when our bodies are not "perfect,"
how others might have a curiosity about them. All I can say is that you
just have to respond to the intent of the person. I would rather
have one straightforward question than a dozen side-long glances. It
is well known that a child will stare at a person with disability,
noting a difference. It is only after we get the spiel that "it's not
polite to stare" that we feel we can't be direct with our curiosity.
That curiosity is the realness, the "manners" we learn to conceal it is
the fakeness.

I don't have a prosthetic and my limbs are
developed, but as most of you know, I recently wore an ileostomy bag for
seven mos. Over the course of that time, I was in a position to ask
several friends if they wanted to see what it looked like. Not a single
one said no. So how is that for CREATING AWARENESS? Does a LOT more than wearing a ribbon on your lapel, that's for sure!!!!!

Most
of you are now in the position to create as much awareness as you feel
comfortable with, be it letting a family member handle your foob,
showing a close friend your mastectomy scars or how they made your DIEP
recon., or getting your arm up in the spotlight.

barbe1958

I had two people I used to work with, one guy and one gal ask if I still had my nipples. I calmly replied no. I appreciated the question and was impressed with them knowing that I'd answer.

One of my grands (he's 3 1/2) asked an older lady the other day why her "face was cracking"! hehehehehehehehehehe See, none of our family smokes and though we're all much older, our skin is all smooth, so he'd never seen a smokers skin! hehehehehehe Unfortunately his mom was embarrassed, I was hoping the old lady was embarrassed!!!! Out of the mouth of babes.....

(no offence to those of you who smoke...though I'm sure I've pissed someone off, somewhere...)

Footballnut

interesting thing. Even when I was a kid I never minded someone asking a question be it an adult or child. It's often the adults that are comfortable. I do not like staring. To this day if I sense that I usually say "just ask me" if it's an adult. 

I remember growing up when my boob started to develop. The left one that is. The right just sat there. That was fun!  I remember asking my mom what we could do. Interesting thing is that not many people noticed because they were too busy staring at my arm

Lol

Tomboy

fbn, did that happen cause of thalidomide?

Footballnut

Kathec - tx for ur question. Not a result of thalidomide - just one of those things. Seems that when the upper right side was being developed things either stopped or slowed down. There's my right arm, the right breast that only developed a nipple but no breast muscle plus my right eye is lazy

My spine is slighty crooked as a result of the difference in weight between the left and right side but no biggie

:-)

macatacmv

my DD went over to a friends house today to see some newborn goats:

cute cute!!!!

NativeMainer

FNB--what a funny
story!

Elimar--you are so,
so right!Children are naturally
curious, most adults are too.It's too
bad that curiosity gets branded as "bad manners" so easily in this
culture.Nothing wrong with asking a
question, as long as the asker pays attention to the askee's response, and
doesn't push beyond what the askee feels comfortable giving.

Barbe--out of the
mouths of babes, for sure!I'm giggling
at the thought of that encounter!

Cute goat!

Footballnut

what a cute goat!!!!!  How can that not make u smile?!