MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

barbe1958

Joni, do a new avatar!!! You look like you've lost weight...in your face at least. Have you? Grieving over your Mom....? But you do look wonderful, sweetie!!!

Dianarose

RIP Marybe. I haven't been to this site in a bit as my computer was in the shop. Sometimes it justs makes me plain sad.

                                                                     

marlegal

Joni, they look great!!

Native, I feel exactly the same way

cmbear

Joni--LOVE the brows, you must be so happy!!! And its a great picture, but I think I would do some photoshop on your eyeglasses. . . : )

Eph3_12

Thanks girls.  I have lost some weight. Want to try to get another 25-30 off before December.  My sister, daughter & I are going on a cruise over Christmas.  We couldn't stand the thought of being here this 1st year without Mom.  

barbe1958

How are you losing the weight Joni? I've lost some just by portion size and NOT worrying about carbs!! I find carbs help me stay full longer so I switched sides and am now losing weight. Go figure.

justmejanis

Joni those first milestones are always the hardest.  It gets easier as time passes but the whole family structure seems to shift/change when a mom passes.  I lost my mom 13 years ago and sometimes I still cannot believe it has been that long.  My son and I got into a huge fight the first Mother's Day after my mom died.  She died in January and by May it was still so fresh.  I felt bad, Adam wanted to take me out to brunch for Mother's Day and I just couldn't do it.  Even though my mom and I lived in different states we at least got to talk on the phone Mother's Day.  I tried and tried to explain to Adam that I simply could not go out to a restaurant and put on a happy face when I saw other people celebrating with their mothers.  He accused me of not getting over it, not being able to move on, etc.  I told him it was just that FIRST thing.  I could not bring myself to go.  He was I think 19 and he stayed angry at me for awhile.  Oh well.  I just couldn't make myself go out.  The following year I was fine.  Holidays will never be the same, but you can still make them work and even start new traditions.  Joy does return but it takes time.  I am really sorry you lost your mom, but you are making some really good plans.  It will help, and after this first milestone you will find you can celebrate holidays again and do so happily.  Big hugs sweet lady.  Oh, I too love the eyebrows! 

Eph3_12

Saw my MO today.  She was also the MO for my mom.  When she entered the room, we took 1 look at each other & both started crying! It was sweet tho.

Anyway, got all's clear.  I do need to do another bone density test. And she was looking at length of time on Femara & said I was getting it whittled down, only a couple more years.  I said, 2 years, 1 month & 3 days to be precise!!  She laughed.  

cmbear

Ok requesting a pocket party for Thursday. Having my 2nd stage of my diep, moving a little FAT around, fixing some scars, evening out the girls. Hoping he gets it right so I won't have to go thru this again!! Also see my RO tomorrow for my 6 month check-up.He hasn't seen me since the diep surgery. No pocket party--girls--my doc is such a cutie, I just don't want to share!!!!!

barsco1963

Might be a bit late on Thurs as I have a CT that day, but will definitely jump in afterward.  I am sure that anyone else "in pocket" will make sure that he gets it right - I am sure that he won't want to have to deal with all of us again!

Good luck tomorrow (can't we come just to have a wee peek?) and Thurs!

barbe1958

PP planned for Thursday for Claire and for basco's CT as well. Then I'm busy all weekend...yippee!

Sherryc

Joni the eyebrows look great and your DD is beautiful.

cmbear will be at the pocket party.

bcbarbie10

What is a pocket party? How do we do it?

justmejanis

Claire I am coming, reserve a spot for me.  I am bringing lemon cheesecake. 

bcbarbie, a pocket party is s virtual party we attend when anyone has a test, doctor appointment, any upcoming medical procedure.  We all hop in the person's pocket to rally them on.  Cheetos are always present as well as lots of other goodies, snacks, drinks, and good looking doctors!  Fun stuff, and you don't need a reservation.  Just hop on in.  It can get crowded early! 

bcbarbie10

Omg! Good looking doctors! And cheetos!!!! Ill be checking in! 👠👏😊

cmbear

Ok,ok y'all can with me today to meet my Dr. McDreamy. I'l share--just this once!!! Hopefully he will give me the all clear and I won't have to see him again  but I will be glad to move past this part of recovery. Barsco, I will be there in spirit for your CT. . .that is as soon as I pry the cheetos away from the cat. . . 

 

elimar86861

It's not posting all of my post...will keep working on it.

elimar86861

Still won't post right.  I'm giving up.

Dianarose

Count me in for the pocket party. Bring lots of sweets. It's the only thing I can taste since starting the chemo.

Question- My PS wants to put my implants in prior to rads. Has anyone else had this done? I will be glad to get rid of the expanders and she said the rads shouldn't effect the implants, but I am nervous about the whole thing. I don't want to have to do it twice.

dechi

Pocket Party!!

Sherryc

Diana Rose I have heard it is not a good thing to have them placed before rads.  Not sure though.

elimar86861

Had trouble posting (?) so missed going along to Dr. Hottie today!  Bummer!  cmb, Good Luck on the DIEP tomorrow, tho' I have to tell you that the last time I just "moved a little fat around," I gave birth to my second child.

barsco,  Good Luck to you for that CT scan coming up tomorrow too.   Will cause ruckus in the pocket unless the tech gives you a nice, clean scan.

Eph,  the brows look very natural.  Cool solution for those who don't "love to draw" (with the brow pencil, that is.)

Dianarose

Eph- I love the eye brows. I am going to get mine done in the spring. I am tired of drawing them on. Yours look very real.

Paula66

Dianarose when I first met with the PS we talked about how long of a transition between the final fill and the implants could happen.  He said that if I needed rads that he wouldn't do the exchange until after rads and I was healed up.  I ended up not needing rads.  He reason behind it was because of the changes to your skin and that its harder to work with the skin thats been affected by rads.

elimar86861

Speaking of rads...some of you remember me writing (read: complaining) that my rads side was damaged to the point that now, in the last two years, everytime I would get another mammo check, I would have new broken capillaries due to the mammo squishing of the treatment side.  Well, I got sick of looking at the ever more blotchy area and earlier this week I went to have a laser procedure (IPL) to erase them.  The tech never did this on anyone to erase petechiae, so that makes me a guinea pig.  She was pleased at how my skin reacted to the laser (from the looks of things right after.)  Of course, now I have little purple bruise-y spots, that look three times worse than the petechiae.  Stay tuned, my friends, to find out:

1) Can my weakened rads side heal normaly from this, or will I be stuck with worse bruising than when I started out? 

2) Will I have a new giant purple bruise on my rear end from kicking myself for doing this?

3) Or will I have rid myself of the unsightly red dots that multiplied with each mammo, for a mere $50?  (That's only slightly more than the cost of two Rosati's Pizzas, which are tasty but overpriced.)

I know that no one else on this thread had the petechiae from rads happen to them, but who knows what will happen to those of you still getting the 6-mo. squishings or if you will come across someone asking about this in the future.  I'm not a guinea pig for nuthin'.

marlegal

Joni, glad for the all clear hon. 

Eli - very interesting info, thanks for sharing. I hope it works well for you ... I'd hate to see you have to bruise your butt like that

Pocket parties...I'm in, bringing a little of this...little of that. Again, hope to hear good results from all.

chrisct

Eli - I think I have petechiae and I'm assuming it's from rads.  Hadn't thought of it as being from the mammos - didn't notice.  Just noticed one day that it was there and figured it was from rads. 

I hope the bruisy spots go away and they take the petechiae with them.

Hope your procedure goes perfectly, cmbear and you get good results from your CT, Barsco.

elimar86861

chrisct,  Check yourself before next mammo, then look again closely some days to a week after the mammo and see if you have more "dots."  I had had a couple mammos at the start of the five-year follow-up years and noticed nothing, then at about the 1 and 1/2 year point I saw the little red spots a few weeks after mammo, but did not tie it in.  Figured it was something from radiation...the gift that keeps on giving.  But then after next mammo, definitely more, so figured it out.  This last mammo, at my three year point, produced a few more (and this was with me telling them to not squish me too hard and no extra views!)   You can, at least, ask them not to be too brutal on you with your next squishing.  Even if it is some months down the road, I would be interested to know if you DO have this same little problem.  I'm going to post (in a few weeks) how the IPL procedure turns out.  Do you have just a few spots or is it clustery?  I was starting to get clustery.  

Jumping into a couple pockets now.  I'll share some of my poppy seed loaf.  I am not a fan of the poppy bread with the seeds all mixed into the batter.  I like mine the old school European way, rolled up.  Enjoy!

                                                                             

olgah34

Thank you, Marlegal for posting it. I was reading it and crying. Lord, rest her soul in Peace, in place, where no sorrows or pain, but life everlasting ( i am Greek Orthodox and it is how we pray...) I did not meet her unfortunately...

barbe1958

I LOVE the way you pray Olga, so well said! I second that....

Why don't get get high when we eat poppy seeds? They WERE heated when they cooked, so shouldn't the opium be in the rolls? Is that why people like them so much???