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  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited October 2011

    Sherry I have you and your family in my prayers.  How is you mom doing thru all this.  It has to be hard when the love of a lifetime passes.  Give her a great big hug from us.

    Janis I still have the A and will jump in when you go back

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  • lhasamom
    lhasamom Member Posts: 35
    edited October 2011

    Is there room in the pocket for me?  I'll bring the hot tea!  Or cups of ice, and ice water.  I love this place!!!  I've gotten so much more information from you gals!!!

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited October 2011

    lhasamom,  What a close call with that infection.  How fortunate you did not have to get your reconstruction reconstructed, but you did not luck out completely, getting MRSA on top of it.  I can't even bring myself to comment on the hospital experience.  Stories like that just scare me.

    p.s.  Well, I can guess why the turnover was high on that rental...the Dads couldn't wait to move.

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  • donnad333
    donnad333 Member Posts: 16
    edited October 2011

    reesie, you will feel like a new woman with those drains out!

    All the best, Donna

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  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited October 2011

    thank you all for your love and support.  Bad enough to deal with losing my Dad but to have to worry about another tumor has had me way stressed. I went to see my MO today and he called my BS and after lunch went in and she did a fine needle aspiration biopsy in her office.  And OMG did it hurt.  Last two biopsies I had lidocaine numbing, but with a FNA they cannot do that as it messes up the path report. I should get the results on Friday.  Both MO and BS said it probably was not cancer since I have been on Tamoxifen but you never know and the fact that it is solid that it has to be biopsied to know for sure.  And both said even if it is B9 I have to have surgery to remove it.  BS asked me if it was cancer would I want a lump and radiation again and I said absolutly not.  She knew I had a hard time and figured I would go for MX.  At least I got it all done today and will find something out Friday. BS was reading the MO report and she looked at me and said as bad a SE's as you had I'm supprised you hung in there and kept taking the tamox. I said yes my body has finally adjusted but it was a rough start. 

    My Dad's funeral will be Thursday morning. Mom is holding up well.  I'm sure it helps that she has all of us around.  Here is the link to my Dad's obit in the local newspaper

    http://www.gonzalesinquirer.com/obituaries/article_59a7c84e-ff2e-11e0-af45-001cc4c002e0.html

    Janis what a bummer on the surgery.  Hope the drugs were free.

    Reecie good call on the good boob I am right there with you.  So tired of these biopsies either way they are coming off.

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  • cmbear
    cmbear Member Posts: 1,086
    edited October 2011

    Reesie, don't doubt your intuition!! And yeah, drain-free today!!! May you heal quickly!!!

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  • cmbear
    cmbear Member Posts: 1,086
    edited October 2011

    Heading off to the dentist. Now I have been thru a year of BC treatment and I still hate the dentist. Don't get me wrong, my dentist is a nice guy, but do believe I will be taking my ativan this morning.

     

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  • orangemat
    orangemat Member Posts: 645
    edited October 2011

    I had my dental cleaning yesterday, what a coincidence. Last time I had been there was in April, pre-surgery. I'm really hating the routine question from other doctors these days: "so is anything new with your health lately?"

    I'm putting off my revision surgery for a couple more months, at the advice of the second opinion PS who I saw the other day. So now I can run my January marathon in Disney World free and clear! I had wanted to get all this surgery/recovery stuff out of the way already, so I can finally get on with my life, but his other guy said I had nothing to lose and everything to gain by waiting. So I'll wait!

    Hugs to all.

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  • JeanH
    JeanH Member Posts: 281
    edited October 2011

    Hi my middie friends,



    I wanted to pop I an say hello, it is my first cancerversary. Thing are pretty closeto normal, some twitches from nueropathy and of course tamox hot flashes:).



    Sherry so sorry to hear about you dad, I am so glad it was peaceful and you have the loveand support of your family. Peace to all of you. I lot my dad several years ago and knowing he was finally out of pain and at peace was comforting. Good luck with the test results.



    My "baby" turns 16 today! Amazing how fast time flies by.



    Love to all.



    Jean

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  • mumito
    mumito Member Posts: 4,562
    edited October 2011

     I am also terrified of dentists.I avoid cleanings and will only go in when I have to.Last sat I went in to repair an old broken filling I think she was drilling away for what felt like an hour.I just close my eyes and sing in my head.They booked me in for a cleaning and want to replace some more old fillings.UndecidedI don't think so.I take good care of my teeth so never have much trouble with them.My husband can't understand how I can go into surgery more calmly than a dentists office.

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited October 2011

    Sherry, what a beautiful tribute to your Dad!!! He was a very busy man!

    Janis, that SUCKS on the canceled surgery, but I do believe everything happens for a reason and if you had pushed it, something worse might have happened! The Universe knows how to take care of it's peeps.

    The odds for LE are only 30%, not 40%. I think it's still ridiculously high, but even if they just rearrange your lymph path, without removing a node, they can still piss it off. Digging for the blue sentinel is as bad as if they just took everything in their path! You may have LE and not even know it, that's how subtle it can be. Just be aware and don't carry heavy items on your bad side, don't get sticks or blood pressure cuffs there either. It's pretty simple, really.

    Ihasamom, what a trip! Boy, any hospital experience after that will be a good one!!

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  • lhasamom
    lhasamom Member Posts: 35
    edited October 2011

    I hated those drains!  That was right up there with the most annoying aspect of BC!  I could never get comfortable.  And they always managed to get caught on something, the worst was the seat belt!!!

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  • pupmom
    pupmom Member Posts: 5,068
    edited October 2011

    ihasamom, I have soooo much to learn! I am becoming inccreasingly horrified about every aspect of bc surgery and rehab. UGH! Only thing I can say is it's better than the alternative!  I still don't know if I will have a lumpectomy or mastectomy, maybe a double one. All this is contingent on genetic testing results. One way or the other my surgery will be 11/10. 

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  • lhasamom
    lhasamom Member Posts: 35
    edited October 2011

    Had my appointment with my surgeon yesterday.  When I told him the fiasco with the MRI that my Onco. scheduled he was not happy.  I was ready to go  into the machine, and tech. was asking questions when she got to the port for the expander.  She said it couldn't be done because there was metal it it.  At the end of the appointment after getting dressed, he told me that he is now part of Coventry (we had to switch from CareFirst/Blue Choice) right smack in the middle of everything.  He told me he wanted me to consider returning to him and the original hospital since they both took Coventry.  I don't know if I could name the hospitals involved, so I won't.  And the Onco. at the first hosptial was very nice, and I just felt like I had better care there.

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  • lhasamom
    lhasamom Member Posts: 35
    edited October 2011

    Yorkiemom, I can empathize!  I felt like my head was going to explode!  You are suddenly thrust into a whole new universe!!  Having BC you have to learn a whole new language too.  I wish I had known about this site when I was 1st diagnosed.  I had people  telling me that so and so had BC and I could call them anytime, but I find it better to log on here and get different perspectives on everything,  Things you would never have thought of to ask the docs, are right here.  And you can go at your own pace, even 3:00 am when your mind is racing and you can't sleep. Hang in there Yorkiemom, and ask questions here.  Someone will have an answer!!!!  :)

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited October 2011

    That is the great thing about BC.org, you can usually read your way to finding a specific answer on most anything B/C related, at any time of day.  Plus, if you don't really have much experience with B/C  (thru' friends or family) here there are bunches of women all going through it along with you.  While it takes a top spot in your mind, even people close to you don't want to constantly hear about it.  Here, it's good to get it all out, especially if "talking" it through helps with your decision making process.

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited October 2011

    All you dental-phobes, I feel your pain!  I have been cursed with bad teeth my entire life.

    I do like my dentist and we've been together for along time. Soon we will be celebrating our 20th anniversary.  I bet he gets me a bridge or crown this year, or maybe the 20th year is a partial, I forget.  I always just give him some cash.

    Woe is me.  It's middle-age, things start falling apart 

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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited October 2011

    Barnabas is MUCH scarier than Casper!

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  • justmejanis
    justmejanis Member Posts: 1,847
    edited October 2011

    I know whoever the guy with the tool is, he put me off dentists for years to come.  Claire, you better be prepared to share that Ativan. 

    Welcome to all the newbies!  I am sorry not to greet you all one by one.  I am just tired now but had to pop in and say hi to everyone.

    Sherry, I read the obit.  He sounded like such a warm and loving family man.  You have no clue how lucky you were to have him.  My dad is 80 and family means nothing to him at all.  So sad.  You were truly blessed to have him in your life for so long!  It is never enough of course when we lose someone we cherish.

    I finally talked to my surgeon's nurse today.  I am scheduled for next Thursday, the 3rd.  She said that they finally reached the guy with the machine.  He is not a doc, just operates this thing.  Apparently there was a "failure to communicate" LOL.  This guy who was supposed to be there yesterday was out if town, and thought he had passed this off to his associate.  Associate apparently never got the message or something.  I told the nurse I have a large nasty bruise on the back of my hand to show for my part.  We better be good for next Thursday!

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  • Valjean
    Valjean Member Posts: 1,898
    edited October 2011

    Jean, Happy Cancerversary sister/friend! Yes, one year does go by fast. With getting settled into Tx, getting to know doctors and, it seems, rearranging our lives, things move so quickly, the seasons seem to be upon us before we know it. I hope your 16 year old enjoyed their "special" day.

    elimar~ You do know that Traditionally the "20th" is China, so I hope whatever your "gift" is, it doesn't break!! But, maybe you'll receive Modern Platinum. (though I'd prefer that for a ring instead of teeth!)    

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited October 2011

    Ihasamom, can you tell me what your avatar picture is about? It's been bugging me that it looks like you're checking the sex/gender of a hamster or something....!!

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited October 2011

    Val,  Too bad it is platinum and not titanium, which is part of an implant tooth.  I could use one, but my crappy insurance does not cover it so unless it would be a gift, I can't get one of those.

    You know, I thought that sounded weird and bionic to have a piece of titanium shoved into your jawbone.  Didn't like the idea.  Then I had my lumpectomy and they left seven titanium clips in there without my knowledge or consent.  Oh, the irony!

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited October 2011

    I had all my old silver/lead? fillings switched out to the new white ones over this past year. Thank goodness my plan covered it! I thought they would have thought it was cosmetic, but I guess they know the scary facts about the metals leaching into our systems!

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  • SAB
    SAB Member Posts: 1,498
    edited October 2011

    Oh Barbe 1958 you made me look!

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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited October 2011

    well that's pretty scary looking E! How did you know when I'd be stepping out of the house? I look part tree!

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  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited October 2011

    Janis I do realize how lucky I am to have had such a wonderful Dad and I have a wonderful mother as well.  They have been all about family my whole life.  My best friend comes from a very disfuctional family and I have watched how they intereact my entire life.  They are exhausting.

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  • mumito
    mumito Member Posts: 4,562
    edited October 2011

    Hi ladies I have a busy day tomorrow so I am posting the mystery pic a little early.I hope thats okay Elimar?

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  • mumito
    mumito Member Posts: 4,562
    edited October 2011

    Sorry about the ad

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited October 2011
    mumayan,  That's fine.  I posted early last week, because my bad brain told me it was Sat. a day early.   I'm going to have to stare at that pic for a while anyway before coming up with my guess.
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  • prayrv
    prayrv Member Posts: 941
    edited October 2011

    I see it as a satelitte photo of islands or a river delta.

    Trish

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