MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

Foxlairfrm

4.2 aftershock. Wish this stupid fever would go away. I've never been sick this long after Zometa!

Foxy

Paula66

Janis my daughter lives in a small town called Solodla.  Its a few hours drive from Anchorage.  I am hoping by next year I will be able to go see her.  With all the medical bills thats gonna have to wait until then.  I had started chemo when she first left and she wasnt gonna go but I told her it was ok.  In my heart I was screaming no dont go. She has such a sweet soul and would do anything for me.  I barely remember New Years Eve because I was still so out of it from surgery.  The pain pills really knocked me for a loop.  I mostly slept.  Anyways she got phone call after phone call to go out but instead she wanted to stay by my side.  She was in one recliner and I was in the other.  I told her to go have fun because I wasnt gonna be to much of a party animal.  She told me that she was right where she wanted to be even if I was passed out.  I will never forget that as long as I live. I sure do miss her big huge hugs!!!!!!

reesie

Paula did you get an e-mail?



I'm just wondering how can I get these kids to move out like you guys have?



J/k I know I'll be lost when they do.

Paula66

Reesie I went there and the site says I have to register so I did.  Now I dont know how to get to your page.  I knew you would know.

Reesie I would love to let my kids live with me forever.

tinkertude

Paula she sounds like an absolute sweetheart!

Liz we are here to listen to lend a shoulder an ear or whatever you may need!! hugs!

Foxy!. i heard we have had several aftershocks. I only felt a slight one compared to this aftrenoon about 8 or so.. be safe!!!

Jo... so glad you had a nice time with your friend and hope you find your cell soon!!! still praying for Becky! hugs!

LovesChristmas-Barb

Saying a prayer for you Foxy that you start feeling better soon...

reesie

Funny thing is Paula I'm not sure - my page is:



ItsAGreatDayToBeAlive



I think you enter that in the search?



We didn't feel any aftershocks here

justmejanis

Foxy I am so sorry to hear you are feeling so unwell.  Healing hugs to you!

Paula I always wanted a daughter...just think they stay closer than sons do.  You are very blessed to have her, no matter how far she is now!

Jo sorry you lost your phone....how frustrating.  I am not a cell person but know they are not fun to lose. 

Reesie my two sons are 32 and 35, so have been gone a long while.  I have not lived in the same city with either of them in many many years.  Being apart was initially so hard, but am used to it now.  I still miss them tons. 

Sherryc

Liz I know how you feel about this last year.  I lost my youngest son in 1995 and this year on his anniversay death I cried much more than normal.  I think the year just finally caught up to me.

Elli--how long did you have the sun tan square on your chest.  I am 7 months post rads and it is still there.  Would really like for it to fade out.  It has gotten better but I thought it would be gone by now.

Glad all the East Coast girls are safe and sound after the quake.

On a good note.  All of my boys and families are coming in this weekend.  One live in Seattle, one in West Texas and one an hour from me.  With everyone being so spread out it has been a very long time since we have all been together at the same time.  My step dad and FIL are both not in good health so this will be a really nice weekend for everyone.  The bonus is I get my Seattle kids for a week.

Anonymous

Ladies



Thanks for the support. I felt so much better after I unburdened. It is so nice to have folks that understand. I have to keep reminding myself he is only at college. I can't imagine how parents send their children off to war. I got a good night text from him with an I love and miss you mom. Made it almost feel like he was here. Thanks again



Foxy so sorry about the fever. Praying it breaks soon and the aftershocks stop.



Paula. Your daughter sounds heaveningly. You are very blessed

elimar86861

Faulkh, Mine are here in town so I don't miss them in the same way.  I used to enjoy talking with them in the car ride home from H.S., then once they started driving themselves, I did miss that talk time.  I bet your son is missing you too.

Sherryc,  After a year, my rads tan was still about one shade darker...faint but I could clearly see the borders of it. Now, almost two years, I would say it is a half shade different, nearly disappeared. When I am in the sun, even tho' I have a shirt on, I think the sun gets thru' a little and it seems like the rectangle gets a hair more visible.  Or I am imagining that.  It is very subtle.

Foxlairfrm

Finally! The fever broke in the middle of the night. I'm stiff from shivering I think. Gotta change the sheets today, lol. No more aftershocks that I felt but I was pretty out of it! Today we start getting ready for Hurricane Irene this weekend. Lots to do on a farm for that! What's up with all the natural disasters? Mother nature has it in for VA here lately!

Liz, glad he texted you. It does make you feel better.

Sherry -I still have a darker spot from rads 15 yrs later. No recon though. Probably makes a difference. Have fun with your family, it sounds great!

Barb - thanks for the prayer, it worked. I felt really bad yesterday. Usually not that bad from Zometa. I have it every 21 days now. The little bit of feel bad is worth the results as it does seem to be working.

Foxy

justmejanis

Foxy, so glad to hear your fever finally broke.  Finally a little relief for you.

Sherry..How tough to lose a child, my heart goes out to you.  I am thrilled to hear you get to have everyone home this weekend.  Enjoy every precious moment! 

Faulk...it gets easier after they have been gone for awhile.  Still it sure is strange when they mature and head out to college.  Sounds like a lot of people here understand.  Just know you raised him right!

Round 2 of rads today......felt fine yesterday so guessing all will be well.

Have a great day everyone. 

Paula66

Foxy glad the fever broke for you.  Take care and stay safe!

reesie

Paula I spelled your name right but was so concerned about that didn't notice I spelled yahoo wrong. I hate touch screen typing lol.

Paula66

Reesie I got to your page.  I got it this morning.  I just love the touch screen, not, lol!

I have a question for you gals.  In Feb I started chemo 4 dd A/C and 4 dd Taxol.  It pretty much wiped my out physically but I did push myself to go to work everyday and also other activies.  My counts were always way low but they still let me do chemo.  They did back off by 10% on the last A/c because of them.  I always felt very run down no matter what I ate or did.  Well I still feel this away after my last chemo.  That was May 13.  I had intense pain in my large bones from the nuelasta and the Taxol.  That has let up.  My thing is I have been so wiped out these last few weeks and I also ache like crazy.  Am I over reacting or should I call the ONC or my PC?  I also take tamoxifen so I dont know if that is what is doing it!  What would you do?  Any suggestions would be very helpful.

NativeMainer

Paula--the rule of thumb is to take the total amount of time you were getting treatment and double it to find out when the chemo/rads effects will be completely out of your body.  For dose dense chemo, it's 3 times as long as treatment.  You were getting chemo for 4 months, dose dense, so you can expect to still feel effects for 12 months, or until next Feb.  Add in Tamoxifen that also causes bone pain, and you can feel achey for much longer.  I would call one of my docs and have some blood work done (CBC, CMP) just to see if I was anemic or had some liver or kidney damage from the chemo.

reesie

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barbe1958

Sorry I can't answer you Paula, I do hear that Tamoxifen causes aches and pains tho....

Jo, I lost my cell phone in a Zellers store (Target for you 'mericans) and went to customer service and told them. I got a call the next morning!! My phone wasn't very high tech so I guess no on wanted it. Have you tried calling your own number yet?

Foxy, glad the fever finally broke. I was sending you to the ER today if it didn't. It just saps way too much of what you need to keep!

jo1955

Still waiting on news from my survivor friend Becky and her mammo.  Nothing yet - Sheesh!  The waiting is horrible.  

Should be getting a new cell phone today.  I am so lost without it.

Have a great day everyone. 

Foxlairfrm

Paula, I would call just to make sure everything is ok. It takes a very long time to feel better. Gosh, I feel like it took over a year or so to get my multi tasking skills back. Fatigue was a problem for quite some time too. All of a sudden one day you are like "gee I feel pretty normal". Hope you feel better!

Foxy

Paula66

Thanks girls.  I went ahead and called the onc.  The nurse is going to talk with her and see what I need to do.  Foxy thats the way I feel.  I have so much energy then all of a sudden I am wiped out.  I just dont get it.  Thanks.

tinkertude

Foxy so glad your fever broke! keep feeling better

Jo Hoping Becky finds something out soon! still praying hugs!

Have a good day ladies...

Maria

elimar86861

I second what Fovy said...I didn't even have chemo but it seemed like I was into my second year before I felt back to my old (middle-aged, I mean)  self.  Then again, during the first year I was a caregiver for my mom.  That took its toll too.  It really can take a long time to get back to "normal" expecially if you have other thing draining you on top of the B/C, which is bad enough by itself.

barbe1958

Jo, are you waiting for Becky to call YOU? Remember what it was like feeling so alone and not wanting to 'bother' anyone with your anxiety? Maybe you should call Becky just to touch base and let her know you are anxious for her too.

tinkertude

Paula I didnt have Chemo but I also get like that all of a sudden i just cant do another thing. I think the Tamoxfen in my case does that and yes I get pains in the oddest places with Tam, feel, wrists and sometimes real sharp pains in the top part of my legs!

LovesChristmas-Barb

Foxy...I'm so glad your fever broke. I hope you continue to feel better.

Paula...I hope the doctor can find some answers for you and that you start to feel better soon too.Saying a prayer for you...

Jo..I hope Becky gets news soon...hopefully, good news. Saying a prayer for that.

I finished up radiation today!!! Happy day for me!!!

tinkertude

Congrats Barb!!!!!

Sherryc

Foxy glad your fever broke

Eli and Foxy thanks for your comment regarding the rads tan.  Of course my RO told me it would fade like a sun tan.  Well I am very fair skinned and I do not keep a sun tan, it fades really fast.  So 7 months later it is still there I knew he wasn't being straight with me.

justmejanis

Congratulations Barb, that is wonderful!  I go today for #2.....leaving soon.  Then I will be down to 31! 

Jo sorry you haven't heard from Becky......can you call her?  Hugs to you both. Lots of 'em......