MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

chrissyb

Eli, I'm not having any trouble with getting to the last post.

reesie

Ladies, the flowers were a wonderful tribute.  The picture brought tears to my eyes, not of sadness but of wonder at the outpouring of love that was displayed for someone you have never "met".  The support from all the wonderful women on these boards has been tremendous for me.

fmakj

Still coming in on page 33!  I have to become less of a "lurker" if I want to be able to find where I have read to on this thread!

barbe1958

I think the fact that we haven't 'met' has given some of us deeper relationships than if we did meet. I am sitting here in my housecoat with bed-head. If 'you' were coming over, I'd be running around cleaning and showering and worrying what to serve you. When you got here, your accent might surprise me, you might talk slower than I expected and I couldn't hear your soft talking.

This way, all of our thoughts are clear and concise except when our post is misinterpreted entirely. We all have the same 'accent' and we don't have to worry about appearances, either wardrobe or house-wise. Posting gives us time to think of what to say and can also be edited. Not so in real life - don't you wish! I have said things here on this forum that I would never tell a girlfriend, not only because she wouldn't 'get it' but because it is from the deepest part of my soul and I could only say it 'outloud' here because I can't see your facial reactions. Does that make sense?

So, I truly believe these reltationships are deeper and more real than in our own personal circles.

suzwes

That was beautifully stated Barbe, Thank you.

E - I'm always taken to page 2 on this thread.

Teklya

well said, Barbe, and also very heartfelt. 

 thank you

Teklya

Meece

I so agree withyou, Barbe.  All the physical (viewable) attributes are not even under consideration.  It is what is in our hearts and minds that bonds us, and what you read here.

What is interesting, is that we could pretend to be something we aren't but here it feels safe to talk about the flaws ie no boobs, uneven boobs, damaged nails, skin problems.  These things seem to be a distraction to people when you are face to face.

Have you ever noticed when you do tell someone you had BC their eyes drop to your chest?  It's as if they are trying to decide which one and what did you have done.  Distracting.

Meece

Mine keeps bouncing to page 40, too.

mumito

Why is this the only thread with this problem?

Meece

I just deleted all of my history thinking that may help...but it didn't.

elimar86861

Thanks Seyla, for posting the pic so we could see all of our blooms together.  I know the family had  "in lieu of flowers" to donate to the ACS.  Well, I already do that anyway.  I think this bouquet was a nice way to let the family know that Lisa was thought of, prayed for, and cared about by many of us, and that even through a horrible disease Lisa found a group of friends.  

I have no idea how long this thread will be around, but I am keeping a tiny pic of those orange flowers up at the top as a symbol for Lisa, so she will be on every page and in our memories.

chrissyb

Great idea Eli.  She will be remembered with fondness.

elimar86861

Now, for my next thread duty of the day, I will contact The Mods to let them know we are still having problems.  I hadn't before, but I think some did mention it to them.  It was not that big a deal and I thought it would be a matter of days til things got sorted out, but it seems like we've gone on this way for a month now.  I'll see if we can get it corrected.  BRB.

Luah

Barbe, so true!

I'm glad Lisa's BCO friends were so well represented by that beautiful bouquet of pink hugs. She was a great contributor to our Triple Neg thread, and I miss her!

I've been lurking here for a bit following her news. Since I fit the criteria (being 54) and you seem like such a lovely bunch, I'll check in more frequently.

PS I don't sem to have any problem logging in to the last page, maybe now that I've posted that will change...

elimar86861

I'm borrowing a topic (from a thread I saw a few days ago) that was about the label of "SURVIVOR."  Some liked it, some not so much.  I'm fine with it, but I'm good with most of the descriptions we give ourselves; adopting the Shakespearian "a rose by any other name would smell as sweet" philosophy about it.

I enjoyed reading the various opinions on that thread, but wanted to know what feeling do you all have on the term "survivor" or the other ones?  

Also, saw that the cruise that some of the members are going on (Have a good time mumayan!) is called  the "B/C Thrivers" cruise.  I like that too.  We hope to thrive; tho' some are striving to stay alive and keep surviving.  I got caught up in a self-indulgent rhyme scheme, oops!  :-)

Sherryc

the flowers were beautiful thanks for posting.

Barb well said, you are so right the things we post here are truly form out hearts.

Elimar-Mine is working fine, always takes me to the last place I was at.

elimar86861

I send out greeting to leona5, cathycan, Huskerkkc, MinusTwo, Faulkh, and Luah!  I know it might be hard to "jump" in to a thread of this size, but I can tell you that we always like (but hate the reason why we are) meeting new members (and lurkers too.)  

We don't have a "topic" other than B/C and being Middies.  I should say, we have many sub-topics, going on at once and changing over time.  So just jump in!  You might bring up something we discussed on page 100.  Well, that's fine, we don't expect any Newbie to have read all the back pages (although you would undoubtedly get a lot of laughs if you did.)  And we don't care, because we can hardly remember that ourselves.

elimar86861

Got a reply from The Moderators already, and they will try to set things straight for us here and get us all opening to the most currecnt page.  Hang in there peoples.

Sherryc

Have a question??? I am 48 prementapausal and one tamox.  Went to get my hair cut and colored and my hairdresser tells me my hair has really thinned in the last three months.  That is how long I have been on Tamox.  Has anyone else had this.  She is ordering Nioxin starter kit for me to use to see if that helps.  I have heard good things about it.  Anyone here ever used it.  Also someone told me to take biotin which I started a month ago because of my nails.  They were not great before but have gotten worse so I wonder if that is Tamox as well.  I metabolize tamox exemtrely well and have had just about all the SE's that can be had.  So I am thinking this is also from Tamox.  Any thoughts out here?????

elimar86861

My hair is not noticeably different, but my nails have gotten thinner since the Tamox.  This could be the Tamox., or natural menopause may be the culprit.  If I remember, I take folic acid which is also good for hair (and nails, I hope.)  

Sherryc

The biotin has folic acid and B something in it can't remember without looking at the bottle.

leona5

Thanks elimar  for your greetings and Hi to everyone!Daily dose of figs, dates, honey, almonds and application of coconut oil or olive oil keeps nails and hair healthy. Slow  oil massage( heated castor oil+ coconut oil) on the head and a hair wash after half an hour increases volume and makes your hair bounce..Goose berries slows greying of hair...

elimar86861

Something tells me you will also like another thread, leona5...It's called "Natural Girls," and it's a sharing of the use of natural and holistic practices that the women do to compliment B/C the treatment they are having or have had.  If you type that in to the search box, you will find it.

kal_1865

thanks leona5 but i've been passed the "slows greying of hair" for a lonnnnng time, the only thing that will help me now is loreal (because I'm worth it...)!

jo1955

Barbe - Well said and heartfelt.  I do have to throw in though that if I "stopped" by to see you, don't clean house, make a special meal or get out of your jammies if you are comfortable.  I don't care about any of these things - I would have come to see YOU.

leisaparis

Dang, I go to work and miss a whole page and a half. Love the picture of the roses, they turned out beautifully.

Barbe - couldn't agree more.

I tell you all everything. Things I wouldn't even consider talking to my best friend about. I love her to death, but she's like the rest of my family. Doesn't want to even consider the thought that some day it will come to an end. Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not contemplating it either. However I'm a planner, A BIG PLANNER, so I consider all the options and like to have all my ducks in a row. That's just me, but it's how I cope.

Welcome to all the newbies, Great place to be, Sorry you're here.

Elimar- I go straight to my last post.

Okay, now gotta get ready for work. You ladies will probably be 3-4 pages forward by the time I get back. Gotta go to the dr's tomorrow for my 6 month check up for the Neratinib trial.

Later, Love Ya All, Leisa

Eph3_12

ditto what jo said!  At my house you would have a 1st hand view of the PILES of dog & cat hair as well as dust.  Housekeeping not one of my better habits!

walker2222

Great pic of the flowers, eventhough I did not communicate with Lisa, it warms my heart how we look out for each others need.

Thanks Barb for your thoughts you always bring it to the surface.

I looked up the definition of survivor and one stood out "a person who continues to function or prosper in spite of opposition, hardship, or setbacks.  We survive in spite of what we are going through.

It has been tought week for me as it was a year ago the 11th that I had my BMX w/recon.  I am having trouble dealing with the fact that my PS office has not returned my call about confirmation on my up coming surgery to remove my other TE, scheduled for the 31 but time not confirmed.  Having it removed due to my past infection's and I am not continuing with recon.  It has been 3 weeks since my appointment when we discused it again.  January he was fine with my decision but now he seems hesitant but it is what I want.  Sorry I am ranting about this but want to get on with my life.

jo1955

mjb - Whine all you want.  I'm sure it was a tough decision to make and of course your PS is hesitant but you have to do what is best for you.  I have learned we have to take care of ourselves and at times someone in our medical team may not agree but they are not the ones who have to live with the final decision and consequences.

Sending gentle hugs to you. 

OG56

Just wanted to say thank you for your prayers for my little sister (48) everything is okay, but because of my history they will be getting a baseline MRI.

The flowers for Lisa were beautiful! Thanks for posting the picture.

Hope everyone is doing better seems like many of us have been going through a rough patch emotionally or physically.

Hugs and Love,

Linda