MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

Carrol2

ok not to get off the topic bet ewwwwwww.

I would like to know how many of you really think of yourself as "middle age". I mean I am 45 I don't think that way. I figure if I am getting chemo to make me live a long time i have not reached the "middle" yet. Or maybe I am just in denial. I mean I can't even think about it. I can thik about that I am getting chemo so I lie a long time but i nevver think that they amy only be another 45 years.

Sherryc

Carol2 I don't feel middle either I am 48 years old and feel young.  I am not doing chemo but am doing rads.  Will start the Monday after Thanksgiving.  I too feel I am doing what I need to do to live a long time.  I am exercising more now than I did before bc, figure I am going to be a FAB 50 instead of flab 50.  But reality hits me with taking care of aging parents and inlaws.  They are the ones who wear me out.  I still don't understand how I ended up with the responsibilty of taking care of all of them except that my sister in law is very selfish and does not want to take care of her parents and I am the only girl in my family and all of my brothers seem to thing it is the girls responsiblity (however they have been better since my bc diag).  Oh well just a little whining.

leisaparis

To each and everyone of you, have a great holiday........

elimar86861

Carrol2 & Sherryc:  Well, when I was navigating around this site last year, I saw one thread for women in their 30s in the Younger Women forum & a thread for older women (which at that time included everyone older than 30, I guess) in a forum called "Older" Women.  Not feeling particularly old, I made this thread for women on the younger side of older and actually it started off in the Young Women forum.  A few months later, after a grassroots petition to the Moderators, we were given our own Forum in the pull down menu, and this thread got moved into its new home.  Now there are a lot of thread topics in the 40-60ish forum, but this was the first one.  (History lesson over.)

Yeah, I don't know why I was so unimaginative with the title of this thread.  Hardly a day goes by that I don't wish I could change it to something more fabulous (although I still laugh about the "ish" part.)   I don't feel that old either...but I kind of had to admit I was "mid-age" when I found myself relying on reading glasses for small print.  That's what sealed the deal for me.

 

matildarose

I probably should have done this much sooner, though, like with many issues in my life, I keep think - the eternal optimist! - that it will all 'get better'.  I turned 50 on May 20th and thought I was looking forward to my 50s as the best time of my life.  Then had my mammogram and an ultrasound to confirm a couple of weeks later, with a biopsy soon after and my diagnosis three weeks past my birthday.

I will post more of the details soon, though at this point - with the insomnia really kicking in, kind of the usual these days - am simply looking for a friendly voice at the moment.  If you're in the same situation, or on the west coast and actually still up and speaking coherently :-) I'd love to speak with one of you.  If any of you feel like you want to chat and/or share experiences, I would love a phone call.  (352....538....2879).

chrissyb

Hi Matilda, I'd love to call you but I'm a little too far away...lol, but there's nothing stopping us from having a conversation on here!

Love n hugs.  chrissy

matildarose

Thank you, sweetpea!  One of my dear friends was born and raised in Australia and will be back here in Florida tomorrow.  I cannot wait!  Please feel free to email me - I'm trying to figure out Skype, so maybe we can 'chat' more personally soon - at ll....heffter....@gmail.com.  I appreciate so much your responding.  Best wishes and lots of love!  Laura

NativeMainer

matildarose--have you checked out the live chat area?  I know it's not very active at times, but at other it's quite active.  I know I spent a lot of time there in the early part of my journey and it was very helpful--especially when I couldn't sleep.  

Meece

Welcome, MaildaRose.  Sorry that you had to join us, but you have found a great resource.

BarbaraA

Matilda, welcome. Do you live in Gainesville? Just curious.

marlegal

welcome to the newbies and like faith said, this can become addictive, so be careful!!!  had a wedding yesterday where we all went back to hotel and partied till early morning, so i'm a hurtin pup tonight!  love and hugs around the room, and i too will count you all among my blessings on thursday.

jo1955

Hello Ladies - I am new to this thread.  Have been posting on other threads and found this one.  I am 55 and didn't feel like it until I was dx'd with BS in Aug.  I am a manager in a 55+ park in deep south Texas and I am the youngest in the park.  That makes me feel really good.  The residents have so much energy and want to do so many activities that I have to do everything I can to stay up with them. I am an active person anyway and I have to tell you, having BC really has put a damper on my energy level.  Did not have to do chemo but the fatigue from rads is a killer.  Getting through it though and would not have as well without all the support from the ladies in these forums.

Thanks for all the support and hugs to everyone. 

elimar86861

Hello to our newest Middies, matildarose and jo1955. 

jo1955, how many more rads are left for you?  The fatigue keeps building little by little.  You can expect to be tired for some weeks even after you are done, and that is "normal."  Drink lots of fluids throughout treatment, and make sure you have a good supply of protein in your diet for tissue repair. 

karen1956

someone asked if we felt middle age....I do!!!  I'm 54....if thats half my life, then that means that I'm going to live to 108!!!!  Several years ago, I said to someone at work that someone was middle age (they were in their 60's) and she said no, your middle age pointing to me......I was in my mid 40's at the time...

MatildaRose....I was Dx 3 month before my 50th b'day....I was soooo looking forward to the BIG 50....well I turned 50 recovering from chemo #3.....not the celebration I had in mind!!!!  I'm also a may baby!   Hugs, Karen

3jaysmom

welcome to all the new gals. this site ROCKS.. there's all kinds of support to be found here. some of your best girlfriends casn be found here...     3jaysmom

ReginaR

Welcome new Middles , we are so Happy you found us, this is a great Group, Ask anything.

Post anything, We Love food ! Comfort food for all of us middle ages.

 Love all the new pictures & great post! Love all the encouragment!

Thanks for all the support & [[HUGS}} & concern you all give each other & esp thanks for Keeping me in your Prayers since my New Devloping, Lump in the mastectomy Breast. I had Mammo on My only lefty Nov 18 & Fri Nov 19th I had the MRI. I have put calls in to my 2 Dr this Morning @ 9am & Iam still waiting ! Ugh! as we all know that the hardest part!

I hope all of you are doing well , Happy Thanksgiving to" Middle age Girls"  Love ya all! xoxo ,Gina

CandyB

matildarose - know what you mean about the 50s.  I've been looking forward to them and was diagnosed 3 months after my 50th.  People have asked me how it was to be 50 and I have to say it sucked!  And I love birthdays and have never had a problem with my age.  It wasn't 50, just all the things that coincided with it -- BC, manrriage ended, daughter with health problems, mother with health problems, etc.  Bu tlet me tell you -- I did a major happy dance on my 51st!  So very happy to see 50 in the rearview mirror.

 Back to the weird chocolate combos.  There's an annual Bug Fest here that includes a cafe.  That means chocolate covered bugs, chocolate chip cookies with bugs in them, all kinds of crazy stuff.  The kids line up begging for it.  And you know they're the same ones who won't touch broccoli at home.  Which of course brings up the broccoli with cheetos -- sheer genius.  What could better symbolize a balanced diet?

BarbaraA

((((REGINA))))) prayers for B9!!! and gentle {{{HUGS}}}} while you wait!

Candy, maybe you should try chocolate covered brocolli and carrots on the kids?

elimar86861

Waiting right along with you Regina.  My hope for U-2-B-B9!

Got my holiday bag of Cheetos at the store today.  Will it last til Thurs.?   (Magic 8 Ball sez:  "Questionable.")  I am going to put a few curls aside to ADD TO MY STUFFING, and we shall see if anyone notices the "secret indredient" this year.

Meece

Elimar, Elimar!  You're the one who hung Giant white Cheetos on your Christmas tree last year.  Did any of your family ever notice?

elimar86861

With a little prompting they did  ("What's this... is this a snowball?)

PauldingMom

Just popping in. Need lots of rest from brain rads. Amazing what it took out of me. But I'm doing well. Quick visit to OR last night. I just need time to rest. Family is amazing. 
Pink Hugs. Lisa

elimar86861

P-Mom, please tell me you are not expected to host (or even prepare) a big feast this year.  That, in itself, is a lot of work.  Is the family stepping up so you can take it easy?

barbe1958

I remember the year I was turning 50 I said THIS IS MY YEAR!!! It certainly was. Turned 50 in May, lost my breasts in December....sigh. Is that what they mean by a May to December relationship???

PM you are a keeper!!! What did you go to Oregon for last night?

BarbaraA

Barbe, you crack me up. PM, big hugs for you!!

leisaparis

Paulding...hope you are feeling better today.

Oregon...funny one Barbe.

suzwes

PM, I also hope you're feeling better today and resting a lot! 

That was funny Barbe.

Elimar, I don't remember seeing a picture of big white cheetos on your Christmas tree last year, you should post it!

Eph3_12

she came to visit me, but I was working my 2nd job & didn't know she was in town!

ReginaR

Lisa {{{hugs}}}

 Barbe & Barb , Elimar you  post keep me smiling! Thanks all you Middle gals, Love the post & can't wait to find white cheetos, are they white choc cheeto?

  I got a call from onocologist nurse, they finally got my results, they had been waiting for the fax? Left breast Mammogram Negative.Yea But MRI Rt Mastectomy (no breast) show lymph nodes of Concern? See my Oncologist Tues Nov 30 @ 940 am to discuss . But Nurse did give me news that MRI reads no reoccurrence of Breast cancer! So now I just got to find out why my Nodes are concerning & My armpit is so tender !
Thanks for all your Post!! XOXXO
Happy Thanksgiving!! Hope your Thanksgiving is so Blessed! {{{{{hugs}}}} Gina

Meece

Okay, I told you my brain doesn't act right.  I read PM's post and knew exactly what she meant.  I had to go back and check it out to see what Barbe meant!