Best Thing Anyone Has Said to -- or Done for -- You

basketnut3

My students at school had a fundraiser for me and paid off all my medical bills.  They had a 1k walk, 5k run, and 15 k bike ride.  There was even money left over that was sent to breast cancer research.

 I've also had people tell me what an inspiration I have been for them.  My faith in God taking control has increased dramatically and I have never asked "why me?"  and just kept going on.  Now that I'm near the end of the treatments for the time being I can't believe what I have endured and am unsure how some others around me have gone through the same experiences.

3 women have come up to me and told me that from watching what I as wells as 3 others in my family have gone through they have finally gone at gotten a mamogram.

flfish

I think the nicest thing was done by my dear husband.  My surgery was scheduled on our 2 year wedding anniversary.  When we were married, we had crosses blessed that we both wear around our necks.  When I was going into surgery, he took off my cross, put it on his chain around his neck and simply said "I will be here to give this back to you when you come out of surgery".  It gave me such strength knowing he would be out there waiting for me, holding on to the most precious thing I own.  That gesture still brings tears to my eyes over a year later.  Boy, I got lucky, I married a good one! :-)

Thank you for starting this post.  So many things are based on negative, it is nice to see the positive blessings that can come out of this diagnosis.

crazy4carrots

I'm enjoying reading this thread and all the wonderful stories.  Just wanted to remind each and every one of you that what goes around, comes around.  The kindnesses that you have experienced are, I'm very sure, a reflection of the kindnesses you have bestowed on others.

Hugs to you all!  Linda

jenbal

These are great stories, friends -- and it does feel good to be reminded of the good stuff. I just had another little miracle I thought I'd share. I've been feeling really fatigued lately -- flattened, would be more accurate. And knowing that the less I felt like being active, the less active I am, the less I'll feel like being active and am likely to end up a blot on my bed, so I sent out an S.O.S. to a group of friends asking for a daily walking partner. Almost before I could push "SEND" I had so many volunteers, I was having to turn some down. I now have several weeks' worth lined up -- which gives me just the extra incentive I need to get up and get moving. The response has been really touching -- and I'm already feeling better. Keep your stories coming!

nancypat

My baby grandson whom I haven't seen in seven months ( he's now 13 mos.) holding out to his bald Gamma, one Breast Cancer Awareness pin in each hand and freely letting go when I reached for them.

Marjorie707

So many things have been said and done since my diagnosis....

1.  My surgeon told me to remember that this is one chapter of my life, not my wole life.

2. When my hair fell out, my son said "you are still you, just without hair"

3.  I have a friend who has vowed to cook us one meal each week until I am completely done with all my treatments.

4.  My 3 year old grandson asks all the time if he can put lotion on my head for me. :-)

nancypat

I think the nicest, most surprising words came from my anesthesiologist moments before he put me under.  I was having to have an open decortication of my right lung due to complications from my 2nd round of chemo.  I felt old, bald, fat and mangled all ready.  I was scared because this was my 4th surgery in three months.  Just as he injected the nitey nite serum, he leaned over and said.  " By the way, you have beautiful eyes."

mbtlcsw01

It wasn't what was said to me, it was my husband just "being" for me.  When I went thru chemo (4 rounds of taxotere and cytoxan which I was allergic to), I got quite despondent and could not imagine having to continue to do this to myself.  My husband is the head chaplain @ the local VA hospital (also where I work as a social worker).  He took days off with me when I stayed home and just was WITH me.  We didn't talk much because I had such a chemo brain,  but he knew I just needed another human being with me who understood as best as he could.  That was what I needed to get thru this.  BTW, he had a full left knee replacement only one month before I started chemo, so he was still suffering with that, too.  He is my soul-mate and I know how very blessed I am to have him (and he having me).

simmonba

A close friend who had had a double mastectomy herself - which I didn't know, because she is a VERY private person - came over and said "I hear you have bad news.  I'd like to talk with you - I have some experience in this area." She shared so much that was so valuable to me.

The night after my mastectomy surgery,  my partner came back to the hospital in the middle of the night to be with me (after putting our two girls to bed).  When the floor nurse would not let her into the ward, she went back to the car in the parking lot and slept there until 7 am, when she was allowed in.

The day I was diagnosed, I emailed my close work friends with the news, saying I'd be back at work the next day.  Every one of them came to my office and gave me a big hug that next day - a wonderful way of showing me their support.

Rose_wood

The best thing anyone said to me was when the radiation therapists presented me with a diploma after the last treatment and said, Congratulations, you have now finished your sessions!  That was music to my ears!