My wife who helps everyone else needs prayer...

rcl252

My wife is the one everyone calls when they need help or inspiration but now she needs your prayers...The Dr found cancer in her lymph node during her mastectomy..I love her more than imaginable but I cant help her except for supporting her..She desperately wanted to have her 1st child (38yo) and we were working with a fertility specialist but now she may have to do chemo and that hope may be lost..To me my wife's health is the most important thing she doesnt deserve this...I place my faith in GOD so please take a few seconds to pray for her...

MRSROCKYTOP55

I am so sorry to hear the news.  This is a wonderful site for help and support.  I will be praying for you and your wife as you head down this road.  I will also pray that you both have peace and know that God is in control.  As time goes on you both will see why this is happening at this particular time.  Stay strong.  God Bless and sending hugs your way.  Kathy

spar2

rcl252, I will pray for your both also. Also can't you freeze your eggs now to try to get pregnant later?  Maybe your dr has options we haven't thought of.  So much depends on if it is er pr pos or neg.  gentle hugs and caring and lots of prayers.  God is good and he sees the big picture.  Sherry

Warrior517

Hope is NEVER lost.....last year at the age of 39, I had a dbl mastectomy. It also was in my lymph nodes. Remember, the lymph nodes are doing their job, filtering out the good from the bad.

I had chemo and went thru chemo induced menopause. BUT you need to know, she is young and it is very possible her cycles will come back! MINE DID...I am right back to my 28 day cycle and ovulating!!  DO NOT LOSE HOPE.....look through life w/rose colored glasses until told otherwise, and then....just switch the lense! lol  Good luck...she will be FINE!!!!!!

spar2

Still praying, please let us know how things work out, come often for support.  God bless.

GrammyNancy

I am praying for you and your wife....I'm another that they found a positive lymph node....and that was 2 1/2 years ago.  Do not give up hope.

"but with God all things are possible"  Mathew 19:26

Georganne

rcl252 - May dear Jesus take you both into his loving capable arms!!!! He can and does still give us healing and the desires of our hearts if we love him - ,Psalms 37: 4 -  seek him, and strive to be obedient (not perfect, LOL). I'm praying for your dear wife and you. May God give each of you peace, contentment, and even joy.  He'll know what is best for you both. God Bless. Georganne

Nordy

rcl252 - Please let me shed a little hope for you... First I want to refer you to a website that is specifically for fertility issues for men and women going through cancer treatment. It is www.fertilehope.org

I was lucky enough to never have had to contact them, but it never hurts. I was diagnosed w/breast cancer, stage 2B three months after the birth of my first child. I was 37 at the time. I went through 6 months of chemo, mastectomy and 6 weeks of radiation. My oncologist new how much I wanted another baby and since I was triple negative, my treatment ended there - I was not a candidate for Tamoxifen or Herceptin or any other types of treatment that may have been appropriate for someone w/different properties. Some oncologists will recommend that you wait 2 years after diagnosis before you try for a baby because that is the highest incidence of recurrence. I was candid w/my doctor and told him that I was on a time crunch if I wanted more and that my husband and I had spoken about the possibility of recurrance and worse - but we were on the same page that our child needed a brother or sister - regardless of what the future would hold for me. He told me to give it 3 good, normal periods and I could start trying. Well, chemo had put me into total menopause and it took 5 months after the end of chemo to get my first period. I waited the three months, then 3 more, then 3 more... I thought I was not going to get pregnant.  Well, I did. One year after I started cycling. I carried to term and my baby is absolutely healthy in every way. I was also able to get pregnant again last year, but unfortunately miscarried in Dec. I think we decided since I am older now, that we are done, but you never know. Anyway, I am not the only one that has had children after chemo - although it is true that the closer you are to menopause, the more likely you are to stay in it... BUT, do NOT give up hope. I am living proof that it does happen. Love to your wife and tell her that she can make it through this...

renee1008

I do believe in miracles and the power of prayer.  Stay positive and never give up.  God is good!  I wouldn't have made it thru this past year without the prayers of so many.

--Renee

spar2

rcl252 Praying your wife is doing better can you give us an update on her and the family.  God bless.

Bono

We ALL know exactly how you guys are feeling. It is an awful feeling but it sounds like you have a great connection and this will help in more ways than you can imagine. Just remember to take it day at a time and continue to trust in God.  He doesn't give it to us, but he can get us through it.  I was 39 at time of dx and I am 2 1/2 years out and my husband was a great source of comfort and someone that was willing to cry with me. So remember be strong but also allow for some grief, it is necessary for the healing of your heart to let it out. God bless you both and we will pray that a baby will be in your future.

holligoog

My Battle - My Victory

Yesterday I fought a Battle, But I did not fight alone-
I had a Protector - A Guide, I was never on my own
This enemy came to me suddenly, No warning as to prepare-
And before I knew what happened, this enemy was everywhere.
I felt so overwhelmed; Did no one know my pain?
How could this be happening to me, How did it know my name?
Today I fight this battle, The enemy with me still
It has not yet taken control, Nor has it broke my will
It is hurtful and it is cruel, It doesn't care the damage it causes
It is wearing down my defenses; I can soon count my losses.
It is ruthless and emotionless, Its purpose to destroy
I can not, must not let it, Will not let it have control
Hear me when I tell you, Please listen when I say
I have many scars from this battle; I do struggle from day to day
It takes many things from me; Within my body it has much power
It affects loved ones around me; The battle has become a war
You may not know by looking at me, Then again maybe you can,
That this enemy shows no mercy, I fall when I can no longer stand
It does not care what age you are, or your status here on Earth
It doesn't count your income, or what you think you are worth
This battle that I speak of, Cancer is its name
And because I continue to fight, I will never be the same!
Tomorrow may never come for me; I live only in the present
My life is right here, right now, What I have is this very moment
But I will continue to fight, For I learned down on my knees is where I fight this battle,
It is where God gives me the victory.