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juliejfsrj

How can my husband tell people that this has been the worst year in his whole life.  I've just finished a year and a half of treatments, and my beautiful l8 year old nephew was killed.  Not only is my life destroyed, now my sister  and her family are barely hanging on.  Finances!!!!!What a load of bullshit.  And he's a doctor too!!

AnnNYC

Could it be that he's including your illness and the loss of your nephew in his assessment of the year?  Like, that it's been a rough year for the family?  I hope that's what he meant!

So, so, sorry about your nephew -- hope you all hang on.

Hugs,

Ann

cheryl58

I am so very sorry about your nephew.  That is the worst, to lose a child.  I am sure that the pain you feel from this is unbearable but hold tight to the memories of him, and in time, your heart will heal.

 I'm sure your husband meant worst year for the family.  It is hard to have so much sadness in your life.  You probably went through your treatments just barely hanging in there and looking for the light at the end of the tunnel, and then tragedy strikes just when you feel like you've made it through.  I am so sorry all this has happened to you.

 Hugs from me too!

Cheryl

iodine

As another doc's wife, I hear you.  Just 3 weeks post mast, I had to take over for his office manager who had a heart attack.  It was all about the practice----I had always known he was married to the practice and that I was the "mistress", but it really came out in the open then.

He rec'd a great deal of sympathy from his peers---about the loss of the office mgr.(and about how well he was taking my diagnosis.  LOL)

  At least one great thing happened: I found my OWN doc.  No more being treated by dh.  MY doc actually listens to ME and addresses MY concerns.  No more: you'll be fine, take some NSADs. (and he never said to call him in the morning!  LOL)

I finally got him back when he retired and was telling everyone he just didn't know HOW he managed to get everything done while he was in practice (he cut the grass).

When he made the mistake of saying that to ME, I simply told him A) he didn't do all that much at home , he had an office manager who took care of everything at the office and C) a WIFE who not only worked full time but did everything Except cut the grass.   He finally shut up about that.

dreamwriter

My husband tells people that he has a front row seat to my breast cancer.  He was so nasty the nurses were glad when I replaced him with my best friend.  Well the atmsophere changed.  We had projects.  We talked with everyone.  It was FUN to go to chemo.  At one point my wool got really tangled and my BF was helping when two Korean ladies who did not speak any English started to help to.  Between the four of us and the use of a treatment room, we go the knot out and we were all in stitches laughing.  Back to hubby - he claims to do most of the housework - he cooks and does the kittylitter.  Oh and since he picked out the new vaccuum cleaner he does that too (we have one rug) bedroom rugs dont count since they have not been visible for over 10 yrs.  I end up with the dishes.  My 19 yr old does most of the laundry.  I feel like I am failing after all the years of working and housework.  Now I cant do ANYTHING.  It all overlaps when the worker comes to see if you need anything help and the kitchen floor is filthy.  The toilet should be scoured by a man in a hazmat suit.  Humilating but effective... am getting a PSW.  Just for me... she willl make my bed, wash my laundry, light housekeeping (including kitchen floor and toilet!).  Oh-oh I think its time for my nap.... geeez