Taking a break from the group

Anonymous
Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
edited June 2014 in Life After Breast Cancer

Dearest Sisters,

I need to take a break from our group for a little while.  It's important to my husband and marriage that I stop obsessing over my health and cancer beasts.  I will check in, but I need to just step back for a bit.  The 3 major health scares have really taken a toll on dh and I, and he just needs me to stop worrying about my health.  It makes him worry, and I can't have that. 

I love you all so very much, and I promise I will be back. 

Love and prayers, Deb

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  • Marple
    Marple Member Posts: 19,143
    edited March 2009

    Hi Deb,

    You have to do what's best for you and your family.  Sometimes one can get overwhelmed by our lives and what we read here.  Take care of each other.

    Gentle hugs. 

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2009

    Deb...We'll miss you terribly, but it does sound like the right decision for the reasons you cited. You have a relatively young marriage and so many years ahead together, years that can be very happy and fulfilling. Allowing cancer room between you is probably not wise as long as you have the choice (and, thankfully, you do!).

    So go on and love 'em up, your husband and son. And, of course, don't forget to get plenty of mojo! As we know, it can be such an effective cement that binds lovers so well!

    I love ya, chica!

    ~Marin

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  • iodine
    iodine Member Posts: 4,289
    edited March 2009

    Hugs, Deb, and keep loving your guys.  Come back when ever and we'll be here.

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  • faithandfifty
    faithandfifty Member Posts: 10,007
    edited March 2009

    Sending you encouragement as you forge the next chapter......

    It's wonderful to know that this place will be here for you -- whenever you need it.

    Focus on life and living, on wellness and wholeness.

    Celebrate the now.

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  • Mary-Lou
    Mary-Lou Member Posts: 2,230
    edited March 2009
    Deb, we will all be here when you need us.
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  • spar2
    spar2 Member Posts: 6,827
    edited March 2009

    Celebrate life.  lots of peace and laughter and love to you.

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  • Isabella4
    Isabella4 Member Posts: 2,166
    edited March 2009

    Whoops, after the last few months that you've had I can understand you taking a break.

    Good Luck, please let us know how things go for you, and come back soon.

    Hugs.

    Isabella.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2009

    Hey ladies,

    I'm breaking my own oath just to beg for your prayers.  Please, oh please, oh PLEASE........

    I just got back from from a 6 hour day of 3 doctors.  The first doc (PCP) says "whoa, that is big, you gotta get that polyp out ASAP"  He proceeds to call a surgeon in front of my face and talk about how  "she has to get in right away, she has a very large tumor."  I get scheduled to go to the surgeon right after the colonoscopy follow-up. 

    Colonoscopy follow-up: doc who did it was just a total peach (not at all the demon I remember).  "This is okay!  No big deal at all, just get it out because these types of polyps can grow to cancer in 6-12 months."  Then he gave my son a tickle and left. 

    Huh?! 

    Then, I get to the surgeon.  By that time I am a freaked-out mess, and am thankful for my baby.  The surgeon seems to be directly related to my old rads oncologist.  He had an immediate calming presence.  I loved him immediately. 

    He asked all sorts of questions about my bc, and I told him everything.  He asked about my reconstruction, and sounded very curious, so I told him what I tell every single person who is curious. 

    "It's all right if you see them." 

    He got embarrassed, and said it was because his daughter was about to have surgery for breast cancer.  He got teary. 

    I loved him more. 

    He then got serious.  This is where it got scary. 

    "We treat this as though it is cancer.  It may have been benign for your biopsy, but it is a large-based growth, and has obvious potential to grow into cancer or already be cancer.   We will (ICK) cut out a large portion of the polyp and re-structure your colon. The polyp is where the colon bends, and that is why it was not able to be removed already.   We will check the lymph nodes to see if there is involvement there, and if there is, they will decide what kind of chemo to give you." 

    I gagged.  "CHEMO?!" 

    "You will have to go on a liquid diet immediately and do a colon cleanse.  Your surgery will be this Friday." 

    I cried. "AGAIN?!   I HAVE TO CLEANSE AGAIN?!?!?!?!??!?!?!!?!?" 

    I wailed.  I wept.  He hugged me, and opened up Daniel's chocolate milk. 

    He hugged me and said, "remember, this is a major surgery.  You will be in the hospital 5-7 days.  You will have restrictions." 

    I whispered, "Please make me okay. Promise me I'm okay." 

    He whispered back, "I will do everything I can." 

    So, I am breaking my vow to ask ANY and ALL of you to please submit my name to any and ALL prayer lists you know, please splash this post on every appropriate thread on our sisterhood site, and please, even if you don't believe in God, please just hope with all your might that I am okay. 

    Thank you ladies.  Thank you for the notes of love and affirmation, too. 
    Please, ask everyone to pray for whoopsiedoodles.  I don't care if you say my name, either! 

    I love you, and have missed you so very much.  Please, spread the news to the other ladies that I am having a surgery where they are removing what they are pretty sure is cancer. 

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  • susiered
    susiered Member Posts: 256
    edited March 2009

    whoopsiedoodles I just said a prayer for you and will continue to do so. I have asked God to give you comfort and peace as you go through surgery and wait for results. Hang in there!

    Much love,

    Susan 

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  • TenderIsOurMight
    TenderIsOurMight Member Posts: 4,493
    edited March 2009

    Praying for you, and praying this is benign.
    Tender 
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  • candie1971
    candie1971 Member Posts: 4,820
    edited March 2009

    whoopsiedoodles, I, too, am saying prayers for you. I asked the Blessed Mother to wrap her arms around you. I will be here for you!!!

    Hugs and prayers,

    Candie

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2009

    Whoopsie, gentle hugs.  You are right on top of my prayer list, right next to Moody's Olivia. 

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  • swimangel72
    swimangel72 Member Posts: 1,989
    edited March 2009

    Whoopsie I'm praying that God's angels will shelter you and heal you!

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  • lexislove
    lexislove Member Posts: 2,645
    edited March 2009

    Whoopsie

    I'm praying for you and I just want everything to "settle down" for ya.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2009
    I'm bumping to selfishly and shamelessly ask for prayers. 
    I love you, sisters.  Deb
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  • everyminute
    everyminute Member Posts: 1,805
    edited March 2009

    I pray that God blesses you - as my father says - you are God's perfect child. I pray that everything will be ok.

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  • AnnNYC
    AnnNYC Member Posts: 4,484
    edited March 2009

    Deb, you are definitely in my thoughts and prayers -- think of me there to lean on, too.  I'm glad that your surgeon sounds like such a good guy. Hugs, hugs, hugs, and prayers, prayers, prayers,

    Ann

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  • mzmiller99
    mzmiller99 Member Posts: 894
    edited March 2009

    Deb - bump all you want, girl!!  What a pain in the #ss!  We'll keep our fingers, toes, eyes, and any other body parts crossed in hopes of the best of outcomes!!  Maybe it's just that wad of gum your mother always warned you not to swallow!

    Prayers and hugs!

    Susan

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited April 2009

    Susan, that gave me the first giggle of the day.  Thank you! 

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  • bourscheid
    bourscheid Member Posts: 718
    edited April 2009

    Hugs and blessings Deb!  You are in my prayers!  Take care of yourself!

    Lori

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  • Isabella4
    Isabella4 Member Posts: 2,166
    edited April 2009

    Whoops, you must be in tatters, I am thinking of you.

    WHY on earth YOU again....have you been naughty !??

    (((((((((((((((((((((((((((( B-I-G  H-U-G-S))))))))))))))))))))))))

    ((((((((((((((((((((( thinking of you ))))))))))))))))))))))))

    Isabella.

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  • Nico1012
    Nico1012 Member Posts: 1,492
    edited April 2009

    Whoops ~

    My prayer chant for you is "b9 b9 b9 b9 b9 b9 ................."

    At my Bible study group tonight ALL of our prayers will be going up for you.

    Bump every five minutes if you want, we will be here for ya!

    Nico

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  • jader
    jader Member Posts: 223
    edited April 2009

    Wishing you peace ....... and b9b9b9b9b9

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  • Genia
    Genia Member Posts: 1,335
    edited April 2009

    Bless your heart.....I will say a prayer for you and put you on my.....the power of prayer thread...... on here.

    God be with you and comfort you....I can feel the panic you are feeling and it breaks my heart.  I'm not gonna tell you to sray positive or try not to worry.....cause it doesn't work.  But I will ask God to give you the courage and the strength to face ANYTHING you may be facing.....

    Big hugsssssss

    Genia

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  • suemed8749
    suemed8749 Member Posts: 1,151
    edited April 2009

    Oh Deb, I feel for you big time, girl. You posts have always given me a lift (especially on the mojo thread!), and I just can't believe you're facing this.

    Prayers for you - first, prayers that it's benign and your recovery from surgery goes well. We'll take up other issues with God if we have to later.

    It sounds like you're in good hands, which is reassuring. All the best to you.

    Sue

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  • LisaSDCA
    LisaSDCA Member Posts: 2,230
    edited April 2009

    Deb ~ honey-chile, bless your sweet heart :::pat,pat,pat::: We'll keep you on every prayer list from Wisconsin to Washington, from California to the Carolinas. We'll make sure your concerns are eased and the hands of the doctors are skillful and guided from above.

    Breathe deep. We gotcha covered.

    Lisa

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  • TenderIsOurMight
    TenderIsOurMight Member Posts: 4,493
    edited April 2009

    Thinking of you tonight, Deb. Keeping those positive thoughts coming your way.

    Tender 

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  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Member Posts: 3,255
    edited April 2009

    I will be thinking of you and hoping all goes well on Friday. 

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  • Bugs
    Bugs Member Posts: 1,719
    edited April 2009

    Deb,

    Prayers said.  You'll be in my thoughts on Friday.

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  • ICanDoThis
    ICanDoThis Member Posts: 1,473
    edited April 2009

    Keeping positive thoughts and love coming your way.

    Now go hug that man who cares about you.

     Sue

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