Returning to Work

KEW

Hi--I'm wondering how the transition back to work is going for other folks?  I had a bi-lateral in November, no chemo, started Tamoxifen in December and went back to work in January.  I feel 10 steps behind everyone.  I work in an intense environment where nights and weekends are not "expected" but how much more than 8 hour days you devote is noticed.  I feel like I got through all of the initial physical stuff, I'm having my exchanged and hyster/ooph in May, but now I need time to think about this whole experience.  I've been going to support groups and it helps.  I just want to know if other people are struggling getting back up to speed at work, and any suggestions they have.  Since I didn't have chemo and I look pretty normal with my expanders, people expect me to be the same worker.  My priorities have changed, how I view my health has changed, I'm more laid back, but still productive--I like my job, I just don't want to be caught up in the daily frenzy--especially when other people cause it.  My boss has been great but did say he doesn't have 6-9 months for me to get it together and figure out all of the impacts cancer has had on my life.  Now I feel pressured to "perform" as though nothing has happened.  Some days I'm OK and other days I can hardly stay awake I'm so tired--I think that is my body adjusting to the Tamoxifen and all the other stuff catching up with me, otherwise, I feel good physically. Oh, I'm a single mom with no family, so I can't risk losing my job and health insurance. I'd love to hear your stories.

tinkersmom

Kew, Im having the opposite problem, actually. Ive been back a week, and being treated with such kid gloves its driving me batty....and it makes me nervous. I had a unilateral mastectomy with immediate trap flap in Jan...no chemo or rads, will meet with onc tomorrow. I feel pretty good except for sleeping issues, and ready to jump back into work...but the resistance im getting im not liking....

KEW

It is funny that we all respond so differently.  I'm glad you are doing well, and no chemo/rads, good luck with your onc.  I guess I just don't feel ready to jump back into work.  Maybe it is knowing that in a month I'm have my exchange and hyster/ooph, and know I'll be knocked out again for awhile.  Thanks for sharing your experience.  Maybe you can have talk with someone to let them know you appreicate the care, but would rather....whatever feels best to you.  The best advice I've gotten so far, love you onco, this is someone you will be working with for a long time!

Best--Karen