Two Weeks

DaughterMom

I recently emailed my father the news that my mother has decided not to go through with the radiation tx to her breast. (It was the only treatment our Rad. Onc could suggest at this point, and he even asked if mom felt that it was worth it, because it really will not improve her quality of life). I usually correspond with my father about my mother via email, because I think I express myself better with my writing. It took a bit of time for him to digest the information, and then we had a long talk about it afterwards. I was a bit surprised that he is just beginning to understand that my mother is nearing the end of her life, and that she truly wants to make the most of this time, without the added strain and anxiety from aggressive treatment. But, when I really thought about it, no one really truly understands. I have struggles and inner battles with my thoughts and emotions everyday. I just hope my father can work through this, because even though my parents have been divorced for many, many years, they are still close, and I know this is very hard for him.

I recommended that he watch the movie, Two Weeks, starring Sally Field. I stumbled upon it on the dish during my last visit home. When I realized what the movie was about, I thought to myself, I should not be watching this, it is too emotional and real to me, but I could not tear myself from it. It is about a woman who has reached the point in her battle with cancer to call in hospice care, and about how her adult children cope over a very painful two week time period. I would recommend this movie to anyone who is facing the imminent loss of a parent, or anyone, as it depicted a peaceful rite of passage, while touching on all the turmoil and emotions loved ones go though.

saint

Hugs DaughterMom---you are a wonderful, caring daughter to both parents. Your understanding & support of your mom is inspiring & your love & concern for you dad is touching. I wish I had some magic words of wisdom that would bring you peace & comfort in the face of this. I will keep you all in my prayers & I will look for that movie. May God bless you all with easy days & loving memories shared & made new.

HUGS--be well & stay strong. 

Fitztwins

I watched it too. It was hard to watch, but done very well.  There is another one, Wit, about a woman dying with Stage IV Ovarian. That one was sad because she was so alone. 2 weeks actually is worth renting.