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We never have more than we can bear. The present hour we are always able to endure. As is our day, so is our strength. If the trials of many years were gathered into one, they would overwhelm us. . . but all is so wisely measured to our strength that the bruised reed is never broken. -H. E. Manning
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We have a 'block this caller' on our phone and we have gotten a lot of calls from 'trip advisor'. I don't know who they really are or what they actually want because this is something that seems to be able to call from numerous numbers and maddeningly many of them show up as fairly local numbers. This makes me think it may be someone I actually know, but then click -- I push the block caller symbol and pouf another one is gone only to be soon replaced. I think sooner or later they have to run out -- least I sure hope so.
Some sun today and no rain but won't get above 50. I can hang since I've tons of things to do. Inside and out.
Hope you are all going to have a good day.
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We get quite a few robo calls on the land line and the cell phones. I was just hanging up but now I wait until the opportunity comes to opt for no further calls. Not sure if that will eventually reduce the number of calls offering me student loan forgiveness.
It's gray outside but not raining yet. The forecast is for rain. I have been reading NYT and WP online subscriptions about the election results. I'm happy that so many women won elections.
Now breakfast and then accomplishing something today.
Have a good Wednesday!
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Today it might not even make it much above 40. Besides going for my mani, taking Happy to the vet (tougher than it sounds because he’s terrified of leaving the house and howls nonstop inside his carrier), and tonight’s winemaker dinner, I should also salvage whichever herbs are still alive and try to get them to root indoors in water. Bringing the containers in won’t work because of larvae that might be in the soil.
I feel awful—still coughing, achy muscles, not very hungry. Never realized I could feel so lousy without a fever, nor that a cold could last so long (2 weeks now). I know it’s not an allergy—that feels different, with sneezing and itchy eyes & ears—at least for me.
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Sandy- I am so sorry that what I said upset you. I was basing my information on people I have known, but I will not even pretend to be knowledgeable of the Jewish faith. I thank you for your clarification of my errors and again apologize for any misunderstanding on my part.
We don’t answer our house phone much anymore, particularly because a few of my kids still list this number as their home number, and have been known to not pay all bills in full.
Our next door neighbors have put their house up for sale, and I am being inundated on my cell with offers to list my house. Why would they think I want to sell just because my neighbors are? They are selling because the husband’s step father died less than a year after moving from their large isolated farm in Nebraska to FL. Unfortunately, they moved about 2-3 hrs from here, and hadn’t really made many friends yet - the husband was Stage 4 when they moved. Anyway, the mother is moving in with them, but that is impossible in the house next door. It is a decent size 3 bed 2 bath, but all three of their children still live at home. We will miss them terribly- they have become like family. So much so that they usually go to my daughter in Atlanta for both Thanksgiving and the 4th of July. Hopefully, they will find a larger home not too far from us and our relationship will continue.
Our weather is getting nicer here- a little cooler. My brother called today to let me know he will be here next week. He says their weather (in NC) is getting progressively worse and he is done with being cold and uncomfortable. I will be glad when he gets here, not only because I enjoy being with him, but because he has most of my favorite clothes with him. ( I only brought a small carry on home because of my broken finger and because he was supposed to be here within a few days of me). It will be nice to get everything where it belongs.
Anne
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It's 51 here but also windy and we're close enough to the water to get a cold breeze off that. It feels really cold when you go outside.
Anne, Sorry you're losing your neighbors. I hope they are able to stay close enough to stay in touch. We're lucky to have nice people on our block. There's a low income city owned apartment house mid block and those residents have been great also.
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Sandy I sure hope that cold breaks soon. I think when you are a bit older time passes fast. That is unless you have a cold or injury -- then it can be really long. I guess the slight upside is not gobbling things that would put too much wt. on but a rotten way to watch the calories.
Glad Anne that your brother will be there soon. For the clothes, but just for the company for you. You both seem to get great enjoyment from spending time together. I too hope your neighbors can stay close and hopefully that any new neighbors are easy to adjust too and are enjoyable and pleasant as well. I like our neighbors and hope they never decide to sell and leave. I should say I hope we can manage our house and huge yard and can be here as long as possible as we love it so.
The fall leaves are really pretty though we didn't get a hard frost so are not as vibrant, but still nice. I'm adjusting ( slowly ) to giving up summer. I'm always a bit of a foot-dragger about it. I've heard we will hopefully have a mild winter. I hope that is true though I would enjoy one decent snow. Last yr. all we got was just enough to cover twice and it didn't last long at all.
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We didn't get above 40 today. Windy, too, but merely cloudy. Walking to the wine dinner tonight, so it should be challenging.
Happy's vet-checkup was A-OK. He gained only an ounce, and his heart is fine. A little tartar on one molar, but no dentistry needed yet. No shots, either. He howled and panted all the way there and back, and shed all over me while on the table; but he was fine the minute we got back and let him out of his carrier.
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If you have a carbon monoxide detector that is over 5 years old, replace it, even if the package said it's good for 10 years. Pressing the button to test it only tests the alarm, it does not test the sensor.
The battery on my outside meter was low, and the company swapped out the meter. When the guy came in to relight the pilot lights on my furnace and water heater he also waved his wand around and when he got to the furnace the red light started flashing and alarms went off. He immediately shut down my furnace and I called a heating company. I had a detector in that room but it was too old and the alarm didn't go off. I could be dead if that battery hadn't been low.
With temps dropping below 20 degrees and my furnace shut off, I was grateful that the heating company lent me a portable heater for 3 days. It kept the house at 62 degrees so at least my pipes didn't freeze.
My new furnace has been installed, $6000. And I've bought a new CO detector.
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Grateful tonight for low batteries. We never really know from where our blessings will come. Good idea about choosing a time to change out things like monoxide detectors. So glad this is all going to work out Puffin but wish it just a mite warmer where you are.
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Send me a little cold/cool air. We're in the muggies. It was miserable yesterday to walk outside to the car. This morning the outside world looks gray and drab. Thursday is a gym day and I plan to go. I'm having some kind of problem with my left big toe (seriously!), maybe an ingrown toenail. Redness around the nail indicates infection. Tuesday I couldn't walk on the treadmill but I can manage the stationary bikes. If the soreness persists, I'll make an appointment with the podiatrist.
We would be very upset to lose our next-door neighbors.
Puffin, so glad you're all set with a new furnace for the ND winter.
Wishing everyone a good day.
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The question is not what you look at, but what you see.
Henry David Thoreau
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Sort of grayish here today too. It will be around 50 or so. Carole, I am wondering if you might be having a gout flare-up. It does affect toes though it is centered in the joint. Don't really know if redness and inflammation show well but I do know there is usually a fair of pain/discomfort. May be worth checking out since I think no matter what it sounds like some tx. is needed to address it. As usual, plenty to do today but that is okay. I'm pretty much recovered after yesterday when I was tired most of the day from having stayed out way too far into the early hours of the morning to watch election returns.
Still trying to settle my menu for Thanksgiving. I do know ( because I bought it already ) that I'll be cooking a turkey, but haven't decided totally which sides and desserts I would like to fix. There are a lot of favorites here.
The deer are still showing up though not in the earlier numbers. Not we don't get more than one or two at a time.
Hope you are all going to have a good day.
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I had a rough day yesterday. My computer shut itself off and continued shutting itself off. When I requested it to run diagnostics, it refused to turn back on. I sent a message with my kindle through patient portal that I am temporarily without telephone services. Then proceeded to wheedle, whine and cajole various providers for a total of about three hours. A survivor friend let me use her phone so I could have access to my Wi-Fi signal. Between calls we went out to lunch. She persuaded me to open up about my medical condition at the quilting club, and the experience was rewarding. I get phone service with a temporary number starting this afternoon, then my permanent number will resume on the twentieth. They took me more seriously when she contributed, and reaffirmed that this was indeed an emergency.
Without her i think the day would have been worthy of suicidal thoughts.
Went to book--club and got more reassurance that I need to trust, that this experience will not be like some desolating past life experiences.
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The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.
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MC, you sure did have a heck of a day yesterday. And to be w/o all services. Just wondering if you have a connected ( bundle ) service provider. In any case I'm not much help on electronic items, but I sure hope and pray answers are coming. We have a provider ( Charter ) where all service which means phone, T. V. and Internet are carried by them. It has seemed easier when problems came to have one entity for sorting out the issues.
There are times when others are a huge help in making our world go around and I am so thankful that someone was able to be your go-between and get a strong foot in the door you needed open.
Things are normal here sort of. Dh is trying to get a hold of the Dr's office to see about meds and isn't meeting with much success. He wants me to take him to the office here. I'm willing but hey -- maybe they simply aren't there. So, in between we will stop at one of my BIL's. His two garages were broken into last night. How sly the burglars must have been. He lives in town and between neighbors. No one heard people breaking locks with crowbars ?? or something. Anyway, he has thousands and thousands in tools and a motorcycle was taken. They apparently used a crowbar on the trunk of his Cadillac. Amazed me -- this man has tons of items in that garage. If you can't find a couple months rent laying around what do you expect to find in the trunk of A Cadillac in the garage. Thankfully, his Silverado was gone -- in the shop as he got T-Boned recently and his prize winning old Studebaker that he sometimes takes to car shows, was also being gone over so was away. I would wish that he would get the hearing aids he needs and maybe even a dog who would be noisy when anyone is on his property. Sigh !!! Out here we have our dogs and have never worried.
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yes, I have a love-hate relationship with charter. They offer you a nice bundle price and a year later the price suddenly doubles. I was getting internet only, with Prime tv reruns, antenna, and magic jack. Now I have interne t on my kindle, antenna, and hardship price phone service. They sent out a tech to connect my phone, which I thought was unnecess ary. Turns out he was sent out to check out my sob story. i was uncomfortable for a bit, later realized what he was doing. (Bras are uncomfortable at present).
People don't wear their hearing aids at night. A dog is the cheapest option, and great therapy for bil. (I want one so bad). glad the autos didn't get stolen. The caddy can get repaired and hopefully there is adequate insurance for everything. Hopefully the motorbike wasn't a collectors item, too.
I so hate this autocorrect!
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MC, we had our Charter bill upped as well. We went in and complained and it seems we had two tier service. We were able to drop one tier. Not sure how or why we got it as we never watched it -- maybe some promo thing long ago. They also offered a 20.00 discount per month for a yr. Figured we'd hang with it all with the price reduction and then go to Hulu or something when they re-instated the $20.00 again.
I'm annoyed that prices keep inching up for all the huge list of subscribers. You'd think GREED could take a bit of a vacation, but I guess that is why no one ever invited me to be their CEO.
BIL is a real night-owl. Never understood this. I'm too nosy ( or something ) to want to sleep half the morning away unless for REALLY unusual reasons. I tried for two or three yrs. to work nights. Hated every sec. My circadian rhythms just can't handle it. BIL is the one who had the quad-bypass ( too much smoking and not near enough exercise ) about a yr. ago. I was hoping he'd learn how to live more in the daytime as I thought maybe he'd sit less. Likely ( thank god he isn't smoking now ) lives about the same. Night-owl, and not much cooking. There are places like Blue Apron and a couple of those that could give him a couple or three days of decency -- and it would be a good past-time for him to learn this little feeding ones-self art. He has the funds for sure, but he has that lazy streak that seems to be uppermost with all these things. I'm hoping he'll think about a dog. He will most likely research alarm companies. I still am thinking dog. It should resolve okay and I do feel for the sense of vulnerability and violation.
I hate to admit -- lived here 15 yrs. and never once had the door locked. I wouldn't know how to live if I had to start doing that although I'd learn if I thought it necessary. We've been gone a couple days at a time now and then and the door is still open.
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You do not have to be rich to be
generous. If you have the spirit of
true generosity, a pauper can give
like a prince.
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Well now, the sun is out bright today which I so deeply appreciate. Not only do I bloom in the sun, it will also help to erase the snow we had during the night. We were out late afternoon yesterday to do our usual Walmart gig and there were spits of snow going on but nothing sticking. It got cold enough for long enough during the night to let it stay. It's not bad as snow goes and certainly won't prevent doing what you want too --- but I think I was hoping the "first" snow would be later on. Like ah, well maybe around Xmas which seems much more in tune with the season.
Well, okay. No time like the present to see a little of that lovely white stuff. Likely this will really help many more of the leaves to depart the trees. It is really all in a day's work and will maybe help me keep my calories from going to far so just so I can go too far on Thanksgiving Day. There is always an up side if you can look for it.
Hope you are all going to have a nice sunny day. If not, I'm willing to share mine.
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Sunshine here and windy, judging from the motion in the trees. Lots of leaves still on the branches. I turned on the heat this morning to warm the house up to 70 degrees.
DH felt bad all day yesterday, hardly leaving his recliner. He didn't eat anything after a light breakfast. In the wee hours this morning he fell victim to the dreaded D. It wasn't pleasant for either of us. He settled down after about an hour. Today he seems to feel better. Crossed fingers. I'm hoping he didn't pass along his ailment to me, and I plan to stay away from the nursing home today. I definitely don't want to be a stomach virus carrier to a nursing home.
It won't surprise me to learn that something similar is "going around."
Wishing everyone a good Saturday.
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We are sunny and clear today, but I don’t know about temp- I haven’t put my nose outside yet.
Starting to think about Christmas for the grandkids. I have decided a few small things for the teenagers along with a gift card. The oldest one has mentioned he might like a bicycle for getting around campus. If he is serious, I think I will ask his aunts and uncles if we can pool our money for that. That leaves the 4 youngest. My biggest problem is my son’s 2 girls, ages 2 1/2 and 5 1/2. Never had a problem buying for those ages before, but when I tell you they have everything, I mean they have EVERYTHING- and doubles and triples of most. That includes large doll houses, ride on toys, baby dolls, cribs, strollers, high chairs, stuffed animals etc. When you walk in the front door of their house, you think you are walking into a day care. The walls of their entire front living/ dining room are lined with stuff- including low shelves with about 20 or more storage baskets, each labeled for smaller items. It is the same way with clothes and books. Their mom cannot resist a a “bargain” and they are the only grandchildren in her family, so they lack for nothing. I really think if I can find a few little things, I will add a check to put in their college funds and be done.
I just am over the major gift shopping I used to do, plus I can’t spend the same amount on each of the 8 of themthat I used to spend on 3 or 4. And the older they get, the harder it is to pick things they like. All of the above create the perfect storm for me to make a major change this year.
Hoping you all have a great weekend
Anne
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Had that stupid "D" myself last Sunday. Ugh. Mercifully, it was over in a couple of hours.
It snowed yesterday, but here in the city it didn't even stick to the grass. I saw more three weeks ago in VT. But it was very cold today, and I doubt we'll see 40 until the end of the week.
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Many people live as if life were a dress rehearsal for some later date. It isn't. In fact, no one has a guarantee that he or she will be here tomorrow. Now is the only time we have, and the only time that we have any control over. When our attention is in the present moment, we push fear from our minds. . . . Practice keeping your attention on the here and now. Your efforts will pay great dividends.
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Going to be cold here today. I'm hoping for sun but it should have been evident already and its not. I'm hoping to finish up some of the things I've got going so I can get some X-cards and get going on them. Since I will work for a week up to and partially on the 24th. of Nov. I'm going to have a lot of things some together at once but the good thing is -- it all works out. I always think it will be difficult, but in looking back at previous times they really weren't and I'm sure this will be as smooth as I am willing to make it.
Sometimes now I truly long for how the holidays were when I was a kid. Actually, we didn't get much. All my parents could afford the biggest part of the time was the meal ( Thanksgiving and X-mas ) but it was still a really special time. I can still smell the aromas wafting all over the house and anticipating sitting down to enjoy being together with a family that loved each other. We usually got a wrapped gift at Christmas from my Aunt. Every yr. it was a pr. of gloves, but that was okay. It was something needed and appreciated. My Aunt had no children of her own, but her other two sisters had 6 children each while my Mom had me and my sister. Aunt was a nurse aid at a big hospital but back in those days you didn't make much. My Aunt felt that she should do something special for her sisters and so she did what she could.
Annoyed to this day that some of my cousins still whine that the 'other' cousins got something better than the gloves. I don't think they did, but they don't recall it that way. I am grateful that even though I often wished for something a little more exciting it was okay and still fun to hold a wrapped gift in my hands. Auntie is gone, but she is still cherished. She added love to my childhood and who could complain about that.
Still see some snow on the roof of one of the houses on the next street. I think that means their roof is still in good shape -- and also that the sun doesn't get to that area too well because we had a really nice sun yesterday.
Hope you all have a really nice day.
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I enjoyed reading about your holiday memories, Jackie. Christmas was always special when I was a kid. I had a brother and a sister during those young years. My other siblings came along later. My dad always cut a small cypress tree for our Christmas tree and it would have spindly branches. But we kids thought it was magical with decorations and lights. Our presents included a toy or two but were mostly practical things like a pair of slippers and a nightgown for the girls.
One of my bad (now funny) Christmas memories involved blue cotton socks. Our Sunday school classes at church always drew names at Christmas. One year my present was a pair of blue socks. I was so disappointed because the girl whose name I drew got something I really liked. Now I can't remember her name or her present but I remember those socks!
I have no childhood memories of Thanksgiving. I'm not sure we did anything special. I know we didn't have turkey until later years when turkeys were available and cheap in supermarkets. Until Cajun fried turkeys were introduced, my family didn't care much for turkey, finding it too bland. Some years I buy a small turkey for the freezer but I probably like a whole baked chicken better. My ideal turkey or chicken would have been bred to have bigger legs, not a big breast! I prefer the dark meat.
DH seems to be feeling better each day. So far I haven't come down with his stomach virus. If I still feel ok tomorrow, I'll go visit my mother at the nursing home in the afternoon. I have been laundering her clothes so I need to make a delivery and pick up her soiled clothes.
Happy Sunday to all.
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Change seems to happen when you
have abandoned the chase after what
you want to be (or think you should be)
and have accepted--and fully
experienced--what you are.
Janette Ramwater -
I've been recuperating from a fall Friday night. I was going to my car after volunteering at the shelter. I forgot that the curb and the path are not level, tripped over the curb, fell and broke my nose. I have 2 black eyes. Look like a large dark purple butterfly landed on my nose and opened it's wings. Would make a great Halloween mask. Fortunately I had a roll of paper towels in the car and managed to drive home holding towels under my nose. It was miraculous that traffic was light. Friday at 5:30 is usually packed. It has scared me more thinking about it than at the time. What if I'd broken a leg and couldn't get up? That parking lot is really deserted. I would have had to call 911 on my phone to get help. CT scan showed the damage was confined to my nose and nothing was going on with my brain, thank goodness. I think I've gotten enough blood out of my handbags (2) to continue using them. Does anyone know how long it takes for black eyes to go away?
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Oh my goodness Wren. That is scary and breaking anything is pretty painful. Glad that traffic was light and you were able to get home on your own w/o bad traffic and then get some help. I think it is a couple of wks. isn't it and then the bruises lighten and change colors. Then again, does it take a bit longer yet when we are older ??? Well, I think we trip more when we are older too. I went down the other day myself -- over just a larger chunk of gravel sticking up out of a dirt road. Glad no one saw me. I now do the ton of bricks tumble. Not too pretty and straight down w/o a bounce.
Wonder why I don't remember being as limber as I know I was. I didn't have any fat on me then like I do now. Sigh !!! I'm thinking about you and hoping that it all heals w/o too many problems and you are able to enjoy the holiday later this month.
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OH!!!!! Wren so sorry you fell and broke your nose.....Can't imagine how much it hurt!!!! GEW WELL SOON!
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