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  • ChiSandy
    ChiSandy Member Posts: 12,133
    edited August 2018

    Anne, sorry to hear your family is causing you such grief. But perhaps getting Kayden away from his controllingly eccentric and troubled dad might be the best thing for him. Panic attacks can indeed mimic a heart attack---it takes an EKG once it's over to tell the difference. PTSD is a disease requiring counseling, therapy and often meds--it's not a behavioral or emotional problem.

    Molly, prayers that the road ahead, wherever it leads, is smooth for you & Wyatt.

  • carolehalston
    carolehalston Member Posts: 6,887
    edited August 2018

    We're off to the blue grass festival in Pine River today, about an hour drive. The weather does not look nice this morning. Last year it was raining and we skipped the festival. I'm thinking we will take our chances today.

    Have a good Saturday.

  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited August 2018

    Can you see the holiness in those things you take for granted--
    a paved road or a washing machine? If you concentrate on finding
    what is good in every situation, you will discover that your life
    will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul.
    image
    Harold Kushner

  • ChiSandy
    ChiSandy Member Posts: 12,133
    edited August 2018

    Heated back up today, 86F (vs. 73 yesterday)--will have to turn the A/Cs back on. The overnight rain got me out of having to water the garden, though. (Unless it storms again, no such luck tomorrow).

    Put my watch back on my L hand this a.m., figuring that turning my wrist to look at it, while painful, helps increase mobility. Yesterday my wrist got sorer & stiffer, and knuckle pain (espec. index CMC joint--i.e., palm knuckle) is kicking in--comes in burning waves. Can't be from inactivity, as I'd been using the fingers all along even when in the cast-brace. Suspect either it's referred pain from the scaphoid bone or OA flaring up courtesy of letrozole. (Was lucky to escape most of the joint issues that endocrine therapy causes, but I guess it's starting to catch up with me). Voltaren gel and CBD balm seem to help the most.

  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited August 2018

    Late today. I'm trying to see if I can make a small job work out for me and a husband who is taking care of his wife at home. Went to interview this morning and ended up staying and helping most of the day. Most likely would involve week-ends I believe which is fine with me. I ( mainly retired ) don't have too many hard and fast rules since Dh works most week-ends anyhow. We will keep at it and see how it goes.

    91 here today after needing long pants and long sleeves yesterday -- when I think it was mainly 65 most of the time and wet. It looks fairly dry out already though it is a bit deceptive with the high water table here. The ground can look dry on top a lot of time when just a small ways down you find dampness, or in some cases even a bit of mud. After a few days of no a/c we are definitely back on now. Seems to be just about what the weatherman predicted. Can't say he was wrong as usual since he was right.

    Hope you were able to make the Blue Grass Festival Carol. Sounds like it would be enjoyable.

    Sandy, thank goodness you have something for your hand. Burning waves does not sound pleasant at all.

    Hope you have all had a really good day. I'm just thinking -- with a/c so much is possible.

  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited August 2018

    Today was really chilly here. I had on a sweatshirt and it wasn't quite warm enough. I was only going between car and store so I wasn't cold too long. And the smoke is back, supposed to be bad by Monday. I dug out my inhaler and used it today. Drat! I hate carrying it around, but the smoke seems to be bothering me more the past few days.

  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited August 2018

    We are not rich by what we possess but rather by what we can do without.

    Immanuel Kant

  • carolehalston
    carolehalston Member Posts: 6,887
    edited August 2018

    We did go to the Bluegrass Festival, which was well attended, primarily by "gray hairs" like us. There were more rv's there this year. A lot of folks come for the weekend. I enjoyed the music and appreciated the overcast conditions that made sitting out in the open pleasant. The sun didn't pop out until late in the afternoon.

    I liked the variety of performances. We saw 5 or 6 different groups. As usual we left at the supper break. That's enough sitting and listening.

    Right now it's very dark outside with distant rumbles and gentle rain. We're under a thunderstorm watch.

    I'm sure you will be a big help to your patient and her dh, Jackie. People with your skills and compassion are treasures to those badly in need of support.

    Happy Sunday and healthy breathing (Wren!) to all.

  • Anneb1149
    Anneb1149 Member Posts: 960
    edited August 2018

    All I can say about the weather is that it is hot and humid- doesn’t matter if it is sunny or raining- it is hot and humid. When I was in my car several hours ago, the temp was 87, which is not scorching, but hot.

    My daughter had 2 job interviews Fri, and she was offered both jobs. Haven’t heard much else from her, except a post on Facebook saying while she is fiercely loyal, once she’s done with a relationship, she’s done. Which is very true. My guess is it was directed at her husband and his family.

    I went to the mall today to do my 2 mile walk. I have invested in a generic fit bit, and I have my goal for steps per day set at 3000. When I reach that, it buzzes. It didn’t buzz today, soI kept walking, waiting for it to buzz. I knew I had completed the two miles, but somehow hadn’t reached 3000 steps so I kept going. After another full lap, I headed to the car. Checked the Fitbit- I had walked over 7000 steps for 3.8 miles.

    I also bought myself the exercise balls therapy used which are basically used to stretch my back muscles. So far, so good. I am tired and a little sore, but have no pain. Now I have to figure out how to balance the exercise and the walking, and make them a part of my day, not my whole day.

    My daughter in Atlanta still hasn’t decided when she wants to come down for the weekend to check on the daughter in Lake Placid, but I know my brother is ready to come back the week after Labor Day. I was hoping to fly back to Ga with my daughter, have her and her husband drive me to my son in Charlotte and spend a day out on his new boat, then have my brother get me from there to drive north to visit with family in NY and see the fall leaves. Otherwise, if he comes here first, it will be round trip airflights plus a rental car- I really would like to keep costs down if possible. If my daughter doesn’t come down, I may just fly to Charlotte and proceed from there. I’m still not really comfortable leaving DD and kids till things are a little more stable, but can’t put my whole life on hold in case she needs me. I sure would like to see the kids before I go, though.

    Hope this is the start of a good week for everyone

    Anne


  • ChiSandy
    ChiSandy Member Posts: 12,133
    edited August 2018

    Hot & sticky here again--86F at midnight. In the high 90s the next few days, humidity to match, I have my first PT/OT session (evaluation) at 4pm--will find out just how much practicing I should and shouldn't do on guitar & dulcimer. Tues. is second root canal session on my upper incisor--hopefully it'll be the last before we schedule the restorations.

  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited August 2018

    To live content with small means; to seek elegance rather than luxury; and refinement rather than fashion; to be worthy, not respectable; and wealthy, not rich; to study hard, think quietly, talk gently, act frankly; to listen to stars and birds, to babes and sages, with open heart; to bear all cheerfully, do all bravely, await occasion, hurry never; in a word, to let the spiritual, unbidden, and unconscious to grow up through the common. This is to be my symphony. -William Henry Channing

  • carolehalston
    carolehalston Member Posts: 6,887
    edited August 2018

    Brrr….It's very cool here, low 60's. I closed the door and some windows. Now I'm hearing gentle rain.

    Anne, I am very proud of you the way you've improved your health by taking common sense steps that so many people just can't force themselves to do. Exercise, control of diet. Pat yourself on the back.

    Sandy, I certainly hope you can get back to making music and put dental and body issues behind you.

    I decided to skip WW meeting this afternoon. The 45 to 50 minute drive every Monday gets a bit much. So we'll be staying in tonight. We did go to breakfast this morning following a workout in the gym.

    Tonight's cocktail may be our cold weather preference, a bourgon Old Fashioned.

  • ChiSandy
    ChiSandy Member Posts: 12,133
    edited August 2018

    Sipping an Aperol Spritz (weak--the cava was flat so I had to use mostly seltzer). It's HOT--we hit 96 in the city and 101 in Skokie where I did my hand therapy today (which hurts like a mofo, and I have to do the exercise 3x/day to stretch the tendons. Root canal tomorrow. More therapy 8 am Wed. Mani-pedi after...in the rain...of course, every time I have to wear flip-flops in public it rains or snows.

  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited August 2018

    Hot here today as well. Could have done all right but some humidity ( thank gosh for a small breeze that whipped up fairly regular ) made it seem unpleasant as all get out. We did a no-no today. Had not been to a KFC in a long time ( its not on our menu often ) but after more than a yr. and a half we stopped in. I had taken a friend to a business nearby -- so guess it sort of seemed in the cards which is what I told myself to make it okay.

    Hoping for cooler tomorrow. I have several things to do. Promised to the friend for four days of taking her around to things she needs to do. Hmm. Sort of getting in the way of some of my progress here but things will even out here very soon.

    I hope you all had a good day -- some nice things to sip in the evenings.


  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited August 2018

    Goodness is about character - integrity, honesty, kindness, generosity, moral courage, and the like. More than anything else, it is about how we treat other people.


    - Dennis Prager -

  • carolehalston
    carolehalston Member Posts: 6,887
    edited August 2018

    Sun just popped out, making the view out the windows more cheery. We have the small electric heater going in the main part of the camper. Our high is supposed to be 58 degrees but maybe it will climb into the low 60's if the sun stays out.

    I'm signed up for a charity golf event this afternoon and a meal afterwards. The charity sounds like a really good cause, financial support for cancer patients and family in this county. There will be a silent auction that will include a lovely wooden bowl that dh donated. He created it using MN walnut.

    Jackie, I'm a Popeye's fan and indulge in a meal with my mother occasionally. I actually like the broasted chicken made here at restaurants better than fried. The skin is very crispy and not as greasy. I grew up eating home-made fried chicken. Frying the chicken made a mess of the stove. After dh and I were married, I made fried chicken for a number of years.


  • ChiSandy
    ChiSandy Member Posts: 12,133
    edited August 2018

    Hot this a.m., and continues to be very windy. Yesterday when I returned from hand therapy I found two of my tomato plants (in 20" containers) blown over & tangled up with each other. It was brutal setting them upright again and retrieving all the little green tomatoes that had fallen off them. During the night, they ALL blew over! And just as I was leaving to take my guitar in for a checkup, I found one of the ones that fell yesterday fallen again. I've rescued as many ripe & ripening cherry tomatoes as I can and hoping for the best. We were on the northern edge of a storm that just whizzed through--the plants stayed upright, but there were fallen tree branches all over the streets. Another one is coming in tonight from WI--hopefully, we'll be too far south of it.

    Early this morning, about 2 mi. due west of us, a father shot his two little girls and then committed suicide. It's not the kind of crime that happens around here. (Here, we get petty thefts or gang members shooting each other, and not all that often),

  • MuddlingThrough
    MuddlingThrough Member Posts: 726
    edited August 2018

    ChiSandy, I always get so d*** angry at those people who kill innocents then themselves. They should just leave out the innocents and start with themselves... Those poor babies. Awful.

    If my humanity surfaces I feel sorry that the monster didn't seek help for himself before it got to that point.


  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited August 2018

    I'm sort of with you Muddling Through. Why must these people who feel this horrid urge involve others !!! Of course, they can't be in their right mind, but making others share a fate you have chosen for yourself is a terrible injustice. Perhaps that is the only way they can inflict this damage on themselves -- doing something so totally unforgivable that they can't stay alive and face the wrath.

  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited August 2018

    Often it happens during a divorce or custody battle. What could someone do that would hurt a mother more?

  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited August 2018

    To be admirable, morality must be its own reward.
    - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

  • carolehalston
    carolehalston Member Posts: 6,887
    edited August 2018

    I didn't have a good night's sleep last night. The person in bed with me (dh) made a lot of noise with throat snoring. I didn't have presence of mind to get up and turn on the fan for white noise. It was too cool for a fan but I could have directed it at the ceiling. That's my plan for tonight if I have trouble sleeping over the racket again. Most of the time I sleep deeply enough not to be awakened but not last night. I try not to be cranky because I realize he doesn't disturb my sleep on purpose.

    Otherwise, this morning's coffee is tasting good. My job for the day is mowing. DH did most of his yesterday afternoon and is out there with the weedeater now. He wants to play golf today. I have all day so will wait until it warms up and the grass dries.

    There will be a lot going on this Labor day weekend. The young owners (the older owners' son and his wife) will be here with their children and some friends and relatives. We'll have a pot luck on Saturday evening and entertainment (karaoke) afterward. It sounds like the adult count will be about 30 and the children count about 15. The owners supply the meat for the pot luck and also some beverage. This year they'll supply a keg of beer.

    Have a good Thursday.

  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited August 2018

    To complain that life has no joys while there is a single person whom we can relieve by our bounty, assist by our counsels or enliven by our presence, is to lament the loss of that which we possess, and is just as rational as to die of thirst with the cup in our hands. -Thomas Fitzosborne

  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited August 2018

    Carole, it is definitely a bummer when you don't get your sleep in. I sleep in my room with the door closed. Dh snores too and with his bad back he has to sleep in the recliner in the living room now. He leaves the t.v. on as the dogs are far quieter, but it echo's if my tv. is on too, so I close my door. Still ( thank goodness it is rare ) I can have a partly wakeful night. Otherwise I sleep really well and am only vaguely aware of being awake enough to use the bathroom a couple of times thru the night.

    Your cookout/potluck sounds like it will be nice. Has this been a tradition for the park ??

    We have no plans since we will both be working.

  • ChiSandy
    ChiSandy Member Posts: 12,133
    edited August 2018

    Earplugs have saved my sanity...and likely Bob's life.

  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited August 2018

    You will not grow if you sit in a beautiful flower garden, but you will grow if you are sick, if you are in pain, if you experience losses, and if you do not put your head in the sand, but take the pain and learn to accept it, not as a curse or punishment but as a gift to you with a very, very specific purpose. -Elisabeth Kuebler-Ross

  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited September 2018

    Anger, resentment and jealousy don't change
    the heart of others--they only change yours.
    image
    Shannon Alder

  • IllinoisLady
    IllinoisLady Member Posts: 29,082
    edited September 2018

    Good day today. Not too hot, though I've been in most of the day. Looking forward to tomorrow as well. Hoping to get my car washed if I have time. Probably in time for rain. That's how it seems to go lately, but I'd rather have my car clean when it rains since it looks better after with no dirt rivulets.

    Hope you are all going to have a nice holiday.

  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited September 2018

    Sunny and 70 here. My friend and I went to a large plant nursery and walked around. Great day for it.

  • ChiSandy
    ChiSandy Member Posts: 12,133
    edited September 2018

    Rain off & on--took advantage of clearing in the aft. to harvest some more herbs & cherry tomatoes. Storms moved back in this evening. Hope we can grill on Mon.--Bob has only a half-day of work.

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