It finally hit!

butterflycld

Well, it has been awhile. All the emotions finally hit me and I did cry and lose it. But since then I have been pretty good. I have had a few minor melts and now I am pretty strong. I think I will break down this weekend though. My mom was diagnosed with stage 2, triple negative breast cancer. It is very invasive and fast growing. They started her on chemo almost three weeks ago and she will have to do it for 6 months. Then she will have surgery and then radiation and maybe chemo again. Her hair has started coming out so this weekend she is going to have me shave it off. My husband is going to shave his head for her also and so are most the guys at her work. I thought that was pretty thoughtful, considering the guys at her work are not usually that thoughtful of others. Just wanted to update everyone and let you know I don't feel strange anymore. I feel all the emotions that go with this and I know that anything I feel is normal for me. Thanks for all the support and encouraging words. It really helped me a lot when I needed it.

TenderIsOurMight

So sorry your mom has breast cancer, butterflycid. Sorry for all the sorrow it causes, the worry which is always present, the reality of the cancer treatments effect on someone you so love. Cancer is a horrid six letter word. Emotions may erupt or make one clam up, it all varies and there is no right or wrong feeling way. We all know this, and I guess this is sinking in to you too. So use this forum as the wonderful outlet it is, with your words fully respected.

 

Triple negative is a tough cancer, no doubt about it. I want to give you hope, as more is known now about it than even a year ago. There is a triple negative thread here that talks about active treatments. Sometimes, especially if in a small town, it's wise to get a second opinion at a university cancer center to compare or incorporate into the patient's treatment. Clinical trials too are felt by some to offer newest drugs/therapies which may benefit, over and above standard triple negative treatments. 

 

Wishing you and mom a good day tomorrow. It's tough being on chemo, going through what your mom is, so I will keep you close in thought. Remember, it's o.k. to cry: tears let out our inner thoughts, and flow to let us put out the pent up emotion, which then often allows us to move to a different level of understanding and response.

 

My best to you,

tender