Telling the truth

beastybabe

Im still in the process of coming out, but so far so good.  My question to the ladies out there is when you meet a nice lady do you tell her straight away whats going on or do you wait until she has become involved and then tell her.

My feelings is that I know how much of a struggle this has been for me and Im doing okay now but I also know that one day things are not going to be pretty towards the end.  So I think that I should be upfront and tell the new partner to be and then at least she can make a clear concise choice.  If she stays then great Ive found myself a winner and if she doesn't then it wasnt meant to be.

What do you think

TBird1964

Hi there

I'm single and for me personally I would want you to be upfront with me. I'm a big believer in truth and open communication so that would be an important factor for me. There are many that you may find won't stick around when you tell them, but they aren't the one's you seek. It can be difficult finding that solid relationship especially when some may see BC as an obstical, but you will find the right person who will love YOU for YOU. Through good times and bad...right?!

Take good care of yourself and good luck.

Teresa

NoH8

When I was going throigh treatment, I was bald so being in chemo was fairly obvious. The last thing I wanted to do was date, but afterwards, I always told people.  If something like surviving breast cancer was going to scare someone away, I wasn't interested in developing a relationship, friendship or otherwise. I think you have the right attitude. I was only stage 1 so I imagine it's more difficult being stage 4.  I wouldn't let breast cancer stand in the way of a relationship with a woman who was really special.