She died yesterday morning

sorrow

My friend died yesterday from having breast cancer. She was so brave and went through so much with the treatments and the pain. She never gave up-but she did accept what was going to happen to her. About 1 1/2 yrs ago I threw a party for her because she was cancer free after a lumpectomy and chemotherapy. That was a very happy time for us. Then the cancer came  back and more aggressive then ever-nothing helped and this was the outcome. She is only in her mid 40's. I don't mean to sound negative but after being a supporter for so long and having hope that there will be a cure found-My faith is weak now after this. I will continue to support breast cancer research but its so hard to watch someone you care about go through all the pain and treatments just to end up passing away. I feel angry-I feel like we give so much money and time for research and there is still no cure-millions of peoole go through this-some survive (bless them) and some do not.

yellowrose

I am so very sorry for your loss.  Cancer is a selfish monster who steals the lives of so many.  My prayers are with you.

Jule

Sorrow -

I am so sorry to hear about your friend. My sister died a year and a half after her diagnosis almost 7 years ago. It is so painful and difficult for everyone to lose someone that you love.

All I can say is that it wasn't God's fault that this happened and that for me realizing that it was my sister's time was how I got through it. I think unfortunately people say too often to just pray and it will go away, and that's not how it works. So when someone dies that you love and you have been praying for, it seems to only make sense that God wasn't listening.  I don't think that is the case....I just know that there is not always a cure.

My heart goes out to you. May you find peace and joy in the good times. 

dhettish

Sorrow,

I am so sorry for your loss. This is an ugly beast that just devours lives without a care. I will say a prayer for you and your friend's family that you have the strengh and courage to face the days ahead.

I am with Jule on God not causing this. God does not promise us a bed of roses. He promises that he will always be there to support us no matter what.

There have been some advances made in BC but I agree it is definitely not enough! We see women die on this list all the time and breaks my heart and it scares me.

I am sending you a big hug and hope you can get past all the negative feelings and celebrate the beauty of her short life. I know this takes time. Take all the time you need and know that we are here for you anytime you need us.

Debbie 

Route53

Sorrow,

We often mourn those who struggle and lose the fight with cancer but after they pass, the grief must turn to those who survive them.  A couple families in our community lost their mothers this past summer and left behind young families with small children.  The energy and passion shown during those timessometimes create the greatest passion for finding a cure.  I hope that the determination demonstrated by your frustration and mourning turns into a compelling energy to help bring awareness to cancer.

I too felt guilt that my passion did not grow when my aunts, cousins and even my mother had bc.  I took a donor's role, but it took until it got close to home with my wife before it hit me to take action.  I won't take things like this for granted ever again,

 Route53

http://route53.wordpress.com

sorrow

Thank you so much

sorrow

I am looking into doing what i can to get the word out there-I had a false hope that a "miracle cure" would happen and she would be ok. I am so sorry for all of you who might have bc or have a loved one who does. You are brave and strong. Thanks for all your support-I never thought I would write on a discussion board to strangers but this really helped to know i am not alone. Thank you