why me?

Anonymous

my name is conrado g. tanghal, i am 32 yo male. i am from the philippines but present i am here in s. korea working as a factory worker. my family dont know bout this because i dont wana become a burden. my 81 yo father will be discharge this morning from the hospital he is about to die, my aging mother need my financial support that is why i cannot go home.  because of poverty that is why i m still here in s. korea. i got a big tumor on my left man's breast and i know that it is a cancer tumor it affect my left neck and shoulder also my arm are sometimes very painful. if any one who is willing to help please help me to treat this cancer, i dont have money for surgery please if someone cn help please help me, i am afraid. i wanna live longer. i wanna be treated in the states because i believe they have the technology to treat this disease. hope someone can find me here, please help me. God bless.  my email is conrad_16hp@yahoo.com

Anonymous

It is so unfair. Why me??? I am from a poor country and from a poor family. I already made my sacrifices for my family as a bread winner, and then they are taking this away from them!!! How cruel life is... sometimes I wish I was never been born at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hate this world...life is so cruel!!!!!!!!!! conrado

Alex517

Dear Conrado,

so sorry to hear of your diagnosis.  you are so young. the development of my cancer was due to the BRCA2 mutation, which I inherited from my father who was born in the Philipines.  You may want to have the genetic testing done.  I felt like I wound up on all the wrong side of the stats after I was diagnosed, but my medical oncologist said it was not that as much as I had the gene.  I have a son who is 10 years younger than you that I worry about, but soon he will take the gene test to see if he also carries the gene.  unfortunately for the lot of us here on this board, cancer does not discriminate and it is too hard to make sense of it. I will keep you in my prayers so that you may find peace and restored health.

faithandfifty

conrad. i am so sorry for your situation. it is unfair. planet earth is unfair and filled with injustice.

that being said, i once heard a speaker say that the question "Why me?" is the 'wrong' question to ask..... that question just leaves your wheels spinning without any traction or progress.

the speaker suggested that the 'better' question to ask when you're up-against-it-all is the question, "Now what?"

as in:

Now what can I expect? Now what can I do to improve my situation? Now what can I do with my capabilities and this diagnosis? Now what do I need to learn? Now what resources are available to me? Now what can I do for those who love me? Now what is in my control to effect this story? Now what..............

I don't mean to be glib or downplay your challenges. These are the cards you've been dealt,

now what?

jules4evr39

Conrad....I hope you read my message. I just joined this site due to my cancer.....and YES..I AM PISSED OOF MAD ABOUT IT!!!!!  i feel like I am finally done raising my family....my husband of 20yrs. was killed instantly in a car accident in 2005 and I did just remarry, I want to enjoy life. I am trying to be as happy as possible with the life GOD gave me. Please...Please move froward...I promise you that I will bow my head and pray for you 2nite. I hope I am praying for you soon enough, since you have ot posted in some time.  I don't know you, but I love you!!!!!!!!JULIE

luvtotravel

Conrad,  I feel angry a lot also.  I still have three kids at home and a very sick husband.  But remember we are not dead yet.  Don't quit fighting!