Male to Male - ?s, rants, feelings, etc.

katurner

My wife Lisa was diagnosed with Stage 2B BC in 2005 that transcended to Stage 4 withing 2 years.  We went through the gambit of it all (surgeries, all types chemo, radiation, WBR, "experimental" medicine, traveling for high quality 2nd opinions, hope and crushed hope, family issues, hospice, etc.).  Lisa unfortunately passed away late last year.

I don't profess to have many answers or grand advice; however, as a Father of three young children and a husband having gone through this (and still going through "it") I have gained some insight.  I recall various times where I had questions about what we were truly up against in a worst case scenario and questions about feelings/thoughts I had about all sorts of things. I had nowhere to ask or at least did not feel comfortable about asking the professional involved.  

If you are in a supportive male position - husband, mate, friend, father, son, brother, et. al.,  and find yourself in a similar situation and need somewhere to turn I am happy to try and assist.

Gob Bless, Kirk

BMD

Kirk-that is so special of you to offer. I think I may tell my dh about you. He has been amazing through this whole thing but I am sure he wishes he could vent more than he does. This has kind of been my sanctuary for 2 years. I don't think he has ever come here but now might be the time. We shall see. He is also the very loving father of 2 young boys. Thank you for your offer to support those that support us.

BMac

So sorry for your loss Kirk.  You sound like a great guy.  It can be very difficult for husbands; in fact for all family members, but the spouse gets the brunt of everything.  I lost both parents to cancer and my sister had breast cancer before I was diagnoised with ovarian cancer in 2002 and breast cancer in 2007.  I can tell you from personal experience that it's much easier being the person with cancer than the family member.

All the best to you Kirk.

irishdreama

So sorry for your loss, Kirk. Your wife was very lucky to have you. As a single mom with an 8 year old at the time of treatment, it would've been nice to have some help and support from a spouse, although I certainly had a lot of friends and other family, so I'm not complaining. And I agree with BMac-it is so much easier on the person with cancer than the family and friends.