My mother just recently diagnosed with breast cancer

malou3976

Hello everyone,

I just recently joined this forum, I am from the Philippines but I am currently residing in Long Island, New York, my mother , a 75 year old housewife who is in the Philippines and supposed to come here to visit me unfortunately during her medical check-up a month ago, the doctor found a big lump on her right breast and the nipple us push back, the doctor told her that the lump might be a tumor and needs to be remove as soon as possible, to cut the story short, her right breast was removed and was diagnosed with a stage 2 breast cancer.

I was so devastated to learn the news that my mother have a breast cancer because I don't know of anyone in our family who have a breast cancer or any type of cancer, most of them have heart problems and diabetes.

I am very close to my mom, I have 3 sisters and 2 brothers in the philippines, I am the youngest and I am the only one who is here in the US, it is hard for me to cope with this kind of situation, everyone is telling to go back home and see my mom, yes...I've been dying to go and visit her but I need to work hard here so I can help her with the treatment that she need and it is very expensive to go back home so I would rather send the money that I will use to go back.

Right now, it's been almost three weeks now since her operation, she is still recovering from her surgery and she is still weak and very fragile, next week we will find out what kind of chemotherapy she will have, I am praying that the doctor will give her the oral medication.

My mother is very scared and me and my siblings are also scared that the tumor might come back because the doctor told that they removed several lymp nodes around her breast and it is already in her bones.

Everyone is telling me that I have to accept her condition and just pray, yes...it is very easy to say that but it is hard to do.

My mother is such a gentle woman I've ever seen and have a soft heart, I just don't understand why her? I am very stress and very worried right now, is there anyone can tell me what can I do to feel better?

Thank you.

Malou 

jansdaughter

Malou, I'm sorry for you and your family.  I know how scared you are.  It is terrifying to hear someone we love has breast cancer or any kind of cancer.  Something we didn't expect, don't understand how or why our mom's got it.  My mother had heart disease too, with no history of breast cancer in our family.  Hopefully her doctor will put her on a treatment that she will have good quality of life and little side effects.  I know it must feel terribly lonely and helpless for you to be in one country and your mom and siblings in another.  Just feel reassured though that your siblings are there with her and can take care of her.    How long has it been since you have seen your mother?  It might help you mentally to cope better if you did go back home for a visit.  Only you can make the decision to go back home and see your mother.    For now, just know she is in good hands with your siblings.  Take care  Dianne

malou3976

Dianne,

Thank you so much for taking your time to send a message, it means so much to me.

It's been four years now since I saw my mom and I am very close to her since I am the youngest I miss her terribly and I feel so bad that I cannot do anything to take care of her but you are right, she's in good hands with my siblings.

She will start her chemotheraphy next week and I am just hoping that she can handle the effect of it.

Again, thank you and I wish you and your family well....

Take care always

Malou

keriemarie

 Hi Malou

I am so sorry to hear about your mother, My mum had three biopsys taken on wed and we have to go back tomorrow for results, I am terrified, I cant bare this waiting.

My heart goes out to you and your family, I guess I will know my mums results tomorrow!!

You take care,

Kerie.

dalycity

Dear Malou:

I am so sorry about your dear mother.  Her doctor said her right breast tumor is a stage 2, which is still considered early stage; though you did said it's in her bones.

Whatever stage we are, we are all scared of this disease coming back.

My doc had said most BC are not genetic, however family members are told to be vigilant.
I think if you ask for a copy of your mom's pathology report, you will learn more about her type of cancer.

Please realize that more than 80% of BC patients go on to live a full and normal life.

I am praying that your mom's treatment will be successful! A BIG hug to you and your mom.

4EVERMYMOM

Dear Malou,

 I'm truly sorry to hear of your mom's condition, recently, I to learned that my mom has breast cancer.

 We just found out Friday, I dont really know much more that that, and the waiting is killing me.

I have never been so scared in my life. I'm trying so hard to be strong for her..but I dont feel like im doing a good job. I haven't even been able to talk about it, not really.

I will keep you and your family in my prayers, hope you will do the same.

Continued blessings

malou3976

Hello Kerie,

I know how you feel and I am so sorry to hear about your mum but have faith in god. As for my mom, I am learning to accept her faith and all we have to do is to show to your mum that you love her very much and let her know that no matter what happen, you will always be on her side.

I will pray for your mom and have faith always....

Malou

malou3976

Hello Dalycity

Thank you for taking your time to send a message, yes definitely I will ask my sister to send me a copy of mom's pathology report and as of now I am learning what breast cancer is.

Again, thank you so much, I really appreciate for sending me that wonderful message, I feel little bit better right now.

I wish you and your family well and god bless always.

Malou

malou3976

4evermymom,

It is okay to be scared...I have been in your situation before, all we have to do right now is to pray and have faith in god and trust me everything will turn out better.

All you have to do right now is to be with your mom's side and show her that she is the most important person in your life, she needs you...you have to show her that you are strong and everything will be fine.

I will include your mom in my prayers...just be strong and have faith always.

Malou

keriemarie

Hi Malou,

Got the results, my mum has breast cancer, I feel numb,lost,angry and shocked. I look at her and wish I could take away the cancer.

I dont know what to do for her or to say to her.

 Thinking of you and your family

Kerie 

malou3976

Hello Kerie,

I am so sorry to hear about your mother and I know how you feel right now, that's how I felt the first time I found out that she have a breast cancer, until now I am having a hard time to accept it but we have to leave everything to god now, all we have to do is to be with our mother, let her know that you will always be on her side no matter happen and try to show her that you are strong and always think positive and always assure to her that everything will be alright, always have faith...never give up

I will include you and your family on my prayers.

Malou