First my sister, then me and now

stacey2930

My mom. My mom was diagnosed yesterday with IDC grade 2 she is scheduled to see a surgeon on Monday. My sister was diagnosed 18 years ago, I was diagnosed in 2005 at the age of 42 and now my mom. I am scheduled for genetic testing next week. If I am positive I am going to have a bilateral. I hate this damn disease.

abinneb

Oh Stacey - so sorry to hear about your mom.  Don't know what else to say except you are all in my prayers ~
Amy

cneal318

Stacey, sorry to hear about your mom as well and I agree with  you as well. I hate this disease.

Good luck to you and your mother.

Crystal

stacey2930

Thank you both for your kind words. Mom is scheduled to have a mastectomy next wednesday. I dont let her see the tears but I am so anxious. The surgeon could palpate a axillary node. The tumor extends to her chest wall. I hope and pray it hasnt metastized. I had my genetic testing yesterday. I will find out in 2 weeks if I am positive. I'm really not worrked about myself at all. I am down tonight, withdrawn, not eating and tearful.. other than that I'm feeling pretty dang good... you gotta keep a sense of humor in all this to keep your sanity hugs, stacey

Anonymous

Stacey, I remember reading about you and your Mum when she found the lump.  That is really sucky-I am really sorry. 

Keep on coming here when you need a pick-me-up, and praying for your Mom's recovery. 

Love and prayers, Deb

wishiwere

{{{{Hugs}}}} to you and your mom Stacey!  Yes, hate this disease with a passion!

stacey2930

Update. Mom had her CT of chest/abd/pelvis and bone scan. I will get the results tomorrow. My braca 1 and Braca 2 came back negative yipee. I am so stressed. No one but me to care for my mom. My sister hates her and can not forgive her for her rotten childhood. Mine was rotten too but I have to do whats right. I am feeling down tonight, arguing with my husband etc. I know its stress. I have to take off work and take her to Oncologist and cardiologist surgeons.... I dont know what I am going to do if the results come back bad tomorrow. I have to hide my emotions from her. She constantly ask " do you think it's spread?" I say the same thing "no" but deep down I am not so certain. Thank God for Xanax because it has help me keep what little sanity I have left. I feel like running away, just getting in my car and driving as far away as I can. Thanks for letting me vent. I'll let you know how her test go tomorrow. Hugs, Stacey

heatheready

Stacey.. i just lost my mom a month ago... and i know when we found out that her breast cancer was back all we said was "this sucks"... there really isn't anything that could possibly suck more than loosing your loved ones... but i can truthfully tell you that prayer helps... even prayers that aren't answered in the way you wish them to be... just talk to God daily.. tell him your worries and problems... and i will pray for you as well...

stacey2930

Heatheready, thank you for writing and for your thoughts and prayers. Mom's CT showed a small "nodule" too small to call it mets right now. She will need a pet scan. Her bone scan came back fine the only thing left is her chest CT. I will call for the results tomorrow. It's tough moving her in with me. We were estranged for 3 years, reconnected a month before she was diagnosed. She can be very difficult to live with, its causing problems in marriage. I had an oophorectomy 12 weeks ago, I am sure that is affecting me also. I'm hanging in there the best way I can