Hair Hair Hair - Another question

PSU222

bikenyc** great picture!!  I truly admire all you ladies who have ditched the wigs.  16 weeks PFC and I just don't have that confidence.  My goal is Christmas. New year, new hair.

PSU222

Lago**  Can you please direct me back to your hair growth link..  I need some growth inspiration tonight.  All your pictures were so well done and it is nice to be able to compare our rate of growth.

Thanks! 

EmmaC

On page 377are Carrol's

PSU222

Thanks EmmaC. Going to check that out right now.

EmmaC

LtotheK, I had that same hair line, it is filling in! I was told (on here) that it happened to others too.

I am now officially going around without my head covered. I showed up at lady's lunch and work without my head covered. It was like ripping off a bandaid.  I will try to post pictures tomorrow.

bucky317

Love all the hair photos!  Keep them coming!!!  I am just over 12 weeks PFC and have full coverage but still less than an inch and JEEEEETTTTT black and I think straight (too short to tell yet) Oh boy that was never a good-look for me. It ages me about 10 years on top of what the chemo has done. (thank you clairol, loreal etc.... for hairdye)  I also have the gray right exactly where it was before it all fell out. Didn't luck out there......  I am finally going to a Look Good Feel Better class in a couple of weeks. and will post an updated photo while I am "Looking Good"  Ha Ha.  I love this thread, sooo much better than the getting through chemo

lago

I need to update.  I just cut my hair on Monday so it's pretty short now. My hair dresser is still buzzing it. I did add a picture from (10.13.2011) before my hair cut. It's pretty messy but you can see it was getting long.  linky

EmmaC

lago's wonderful time line is on pg 364!

I also re-read some of my posts, it is amazing how much hair i have now even though it feels like so much less.

Still hardly any eyelashes.

EmmaC

Lago, how many pfc weeks were you 4/10? That is like where I am now.

lago

My last chemo was 1/18 (check my signature). So 4/10 would be about 12 weeks.

ksmatthews

lago looks like I am right on time with you.  I love your chart, thanks for sharing.

EmmaC

lago! Your lovely smile and your lovely chart is wonderful! Thank you! It is a tremendous help!

lago

The odd thing is a year ago (Oct 21/22) my hair started to shed. I had longer hair then than I do now because I'm keeping it short. I waited till my hair grew back before I started buzzing it

YaYa5

lago, BANGS!!  you look adorable.  i actually have your linky bookmarked so i can find it easily.  it really is helpful although i'm still doing chemo.  i will be able to refer back to it once i'm done.  thank you!

missy_111

lago - I don't see the 10/13 picture in your "linky".

YaYa5

lago, may i please come play in your jewelry box?  

bikenyc

ksmatthews, mamav and dragonfly.  I just couldn't stand the wig in August, so I basically went topless as soon as there was some basic covering.  I took the 5 weeks off during my radiation so no one but my neighbors and people at the cancer center really saw, and it was sort of freaky going into work the first time with the crewcut. 

but the hardest thing was changing my facebook picture.  my close friends and some people at work knew about the cancer, but not my 700 "closest" friends on facebook.  I sorta thought it would be coming out about the whole thing. but that is what I look like now...I'm not going to have hair down to my chest again for a couple years so figured I might as well go for it.  I got really positive feedback.  surprisingly, hardly anyone pieced it together with cancer.  most figured I just decided to get really daring with my hair.  my high school boyfriend posted today that "not many people could pull that off."  

I live in NYC so honestly, no one bats an eye at the length. I often think I just scream cancer, but I probably just scream that I got a really short haircut.  I think we just project all our discomfort about it all onto our hair and assume everyone will instantly know what we've been through.  But people are generally oblivious. 

lago

missy_111 You might have to clear your cache or restart your browser. I use the same file name but write over the old file.  Your browser might have the old file cached.

Glad this is helping. Thanks YaYa

Kay_G

BikeNYC, your picture just screams hip and beautiful!  IMHO

Kay_G

You look georgeous too Lago.  Thanks for reposting.

dragonfly1

Bikenyc You are absolutely right and I'm now finding that out as I adjust to life with this super short hair. People are indeed oblivious which is a fortunate thing. They tend to see what they want to see. No one even noticed when I had absolutely no eyelashes but I thought I looked bizarre:) You totally summed it up-I felt like I was walking around with a neon sign that gives it away due to my hair but many people just don't figure it out. I felt the same way the first time I went out in a wig-I just knew everyone in the world was aware of it but of course no one had any idea. Hmmm...it's definitely my own issue and I think you may be right that we project our own discomfort-well said.

survivor11

bikenyc-I'll bet that is one of the many perks of living in NYC. You guys have seen it all, so why wouldn"t a women be very brave and cute her hair that short on purpose. Alot of models these days are doing just that. I think it looks great on you. Here in rural Kentucky, not so much. Even if I had decided to cute my hair this short, I would get the looks, but to my benefit, everyone is super nice to me-not that they weren't nice before. Just like getting the best parking spot, being pushed to the front of the line at the grocery, etc, I do agree however, that no matter where your from, we project our own insecurities onto the hair thing or also in my case, one missing tissue expander. No one realizes until they have walked in our shoes how much BC f_ks with your whole self image.

MamaV

My problem is I am the HR Manager for my company.  Everyone here knows what I've been through this year - other than the CEO and CTO they've all been great.  Problem is I interview people for positions with our company all the time.  I just feel like I scream "SICK" and don't like how much older i look. 

My own issues ...

Carrol2

bikenyc you look great!

kll22

Hi Ladies - I've been lurking for a while and wanted to chime in.  I am now 11 weeks PFC (boy does that go fast!) and have been going topless since 9 weeks. I hit a point where the hats were bothering me - I hated the limited vision I had with the brims - and I didn't feel like me with the wig.  I had between 1/4 and 1/2 inch and good coverage when I called it quits.  I love it and everyone says how great I look with the super short hair.  I have to admit that if anyone asks why I "cut" my hair so short, I'm tempted to whisper "head lice" and see what the reaction is!

Terry71

Hahahahaha kll22 OMG that is too Funny, I would so do that...... you just made my morning reading that LOL 

marjie

bikenyc - you're gorgeous!!  I was the same....poker straight hair before chemo, then I thought it was coming back in straight but I definitely have developed curls.  I'm not a fan....but my DH pointed out "you are going to have to just let it do it's thing" so there's no point getting stressed about it.  He's right I know...but I'm not telling him that!!

I find that I have to fill in my eyebrows now - they grew back in very thick but have really thinned out again.  My lashes aren't the greatest either.  By the end of the summer, I had lost a big toenail, and now it looks as though I will lose one of my fingernails.  C'mon!!!  Chemo go away!!

dragonfly1

kl22 That's hilarious:) Maybe we could come up with a variety of funny reasons to tell people who feel the need to ask us why we cut our hair so short...Overall most people are really nice and just leave it at "you look really good with short hair", etc. Survivor11 is right in saying that this messes with your self image. I consider myself low maintenance and didn't think I was too worried about my appearance but this experience has made me question that a bit:) It only takes one idiot to throw you totally off balance. Some of you may remember my story about the colleague (a social worker no less) who felt the need to tell me "it makes you look pale, rather alien-like" after I lost my eyelashes and some of my eyebrows. If I'm honest, that upset me so much that it delayed me going topless because I was just about ready and then lost my confidence. Shame on me for letting it get to me-she is known to be an angry, negative and bitter person so I should have just chalked it up to her nastiness and let it go. Oh well, one day at a time...I'm more and more secure in my new look and feeling much stronger overall. We all get there in our own time:)

marjie

Dragonfly - you're absolutely right!  No matter how stong we feel or how much we may not be worried about our appearance...it doesn't take much for things to get to you.  Never say "shame on me" - shame on HER!  I don't spend a lot of time on my appearance, never have, but I will admit that I do miss the "old me"

sweetcorn

And some say, "what a nicely shaped head you have!"

 Thanks!!!  Glad you noticed!!

 Jane