No dating energy

enjoylife

No dating energy

enjoylife

A friend and I went for our Saturday coffee and a couple sat behind us and I listend couldnt help but listen and its been a bad week the week after chemo wipes me out so this was fun. The he and she must of meet online been there my self but when diagonised I pulled my profiles I meet too many liars and jerks but there must be some good ones out there. Their conversation just instilled in me yes I am doing what i need getting my treatments shaved my head oh yeah that was a biggie but its going to be able to grow back NOW ... anyway it was like I was sitting in the booth behnd me I had the same converstaions yes I want to travel no my 32 marriage wasnt a mistake the he saying how his family and kids are important his job bla bla I knew right then and there yes Maura that is way too much energy for you right now and if its meant to be he will have to run me over or come flying out of the sky and as lonesome as it gets I wish all of you alot of happiness if your dating I just dont have the energy to even think about it but someday in the future when treatments are done there has to be a way to let Mr right find me besides a bar or online if not I will settle for me for a while anyway ..when your dating a person on line and meet it reminds me of a job interview ...ha

Anonymous

enjoylife...Our bff heroine, Carrie Bradshaw, once said that "blind dates are like job interviews...with cocktails," so it seems that you're not alone in your thinking. The more online dates I go on, the more I'm enjoying meeting all of these guys. In the beginning, when i actually anticipated meeting my "Mr Wonderful," I came away always frustrated and disappointed. Now I simply expect to meet and chat with someone I might enjoy. If it doesn't work out that way, I just conclude that it wasn't meant to and move on.

Having said that, I'll add that in your case, it seems so right for you to use all of your energy for your own healing and definitely not on an assembly line of random guys. It really, really IS all about YOU right now and I say stay with it! You have us and your IRL girlfriends, so who needs men except as distractions when we have spare time.

So you go girrrrl!!!

~Marin

Jaybird627

Yes, dating sure does require a lot of energy - and that's not including the naked part!!!

I now try to look at each 'date' as (hopefully) a good meal and some (hopefully) good conversation. One out of two usually occur and when both are good then that's a great date!

I'm 3 years post-chemo so I'm really into dating now but it definitely took me a while to get back into the swing of things. Concentrating on your dx/tx/recovery is not a bad thing. I tried to date during tx but it was disastrous so I coasted until I looked and felt better and now I'm in a good-enough emotional place that dating is actually fun.

Take things at your own pace!

jdash

i agree jayb  i couldnt even think of dating for awhile  -  i tried to ease back into it when i had a bit more energy and a bit more hair  : )   now I am 2 yrs out and in a relationship for over a year and it still takes alot of energy - while I was going thru tx my friend always used to say you need to get out  - you need to meet someone and I would say - You have to be kidding!  dating when you feel sick and bald  thats ridiculous-  but i guess everyone feels differently   i was happy to be around family and friends for awhile   you do need to be in the right emotional place to meet the right guy  its important to take care of yourself first

j

enjoylife

I completley agree with jdash adn jayb all my energy goes towards getting my treatment over working and now getting my senior ready for his last year of school thank god ha but I dont think I will be in any rush to date after all this either the BC has at times broke my heart and I am doing fine with it but there isnt anyreason for me to get out there and get my heart broke takes too much out of you my last relationship did and I think I will keep a tall wall up maybe I am wrong and maybe this will pass but I will see first I have to get through my 4th treatment 3/4 done so happy about it..