Eternally optimistic!

Anonymous

Eternally optimistic!

Anonymous

Okay, my girls, I've joined yet another online dating site! I've been intrigued with the ads for chemistry.com (what a sucker!) and with a few things I've read about their efforts to provide a more open-minded alternative to eharmony. That is, the thrust is to allow matches based on personality traits rather than religion. The site is also, reputedly, open to gays and other "alternative" folks. So, morally and politically, I support that thrust and have joined up. It's actually pretty interesting how they make matches and I'm guessing it's alot like eharmony, which I've never tried.

Sooooooooooooooo.....I'm in the game again, y'all, and hoping for some hot hits! I thought I'd copy my profile here and we can see what kind of bait it offers! Here it is:

SIZE DEFINITELY COUNTS!

OK, so the headline is supposed to be eye-catching, isn't it? Well, you're reading this, aren't you? And I do mean it...size is indeed crucial to me...the size of your heart, that is! What...what did you think I was referring to? ;-) Alright then, enough about YOU....about me: There are laid back people who might think me a bit too enthusiastic or, perhaps, even, wild. So if you're looking for someone to rock on the porch or veg in front of the TV with, I know that wouldn't be me. But if you love to explore and are looking to bite into and truly savor life, definitely read on.... In a few (?) words, I am very outgoing, fairly quirky, sensual, liberal-thinking, introspective, romantic, honest, faithful, compassionate, spiritual, generous, nurturing, visceral, and most of all, passionate. I can be equally content reading a good book as salsa dancing until 3am. When I'm not doing these, I can be found running or at the gym. I'm a dedicated fitness enthusiast and hope to find a partner who is the same. I also enjoy mature intelligent discussion and respect a man who is curious and informed. So who am I looking for? A man with a joyous attitude and an open heart who has passion and enthusiasm for life, believes in staying in shape, enjoys some adventure and experimentation, aspires to personal authenticity, has liberal values and politics, and desires physical and emotional intimacy in a relationship could be my ideal match. A partner who is comfortable and confident and doesn't feel threatened or defensive in the company of a strong, intelligent woman is most desirable. So if you're sexy, smart, open-minded, fit, fun, witty, affectionate and have a very healthy libido, you definitely have the characteristics I find irresistible (if you have all of these, I‘ll grant your every desire!). Most important, you should be a man of courage and honesty who is not afraid to express himself and be truly intimate. Oh..I come with piercings & a few discreet tattoos!

I also have my photos from last June posted and my hair was way shorter (see avatar), so I'm planning a new photo shoot in a few weeks.

~Marin

Jaybird627

Marin, I'm sure you'll get plenty of men interested in you once you're matched-up. I only hope you're matched with someone equally as good a catch as you are!

(I swear I'm not after you, just boosting your ego! )

BethNY

I definitely think you should put an updated pic, but still include the one that shows your abs in the white pants with the red ( i think) sport top...

I think you do put the right amount of emphasis on being fit, but having a picture will help stupid guys understand that you're not joking about being fit.  Also, I love the part about if they're looking for someone to rock on the swing and watch tv it ain't you...

and it's not to say that you wouldn't love to watch a BBALL game, but its great that you don't put it in there, cause it doesn't leave room for couch potatoes.

Are you sure you want to put the word nurturing in there? I feel like that's inviting in people that look for co-dependance.

The only other word that I flinched at is faithful-- and i'm not saying you're not... but remember when you told the one guy that he wasn't "the one" and that there were other guys you were seeing, and he didn't take it well???

I just think that you are looking at every option until you find a partner worthy of everything you have to offer, and some guys will think faithful implies dating only one guy at a time...

just my two cents, I hope I'm not over stepping my bounds.  I think you are such a catch, and you have so much to offer, so it's gonna take a really great guy to be deserving of what you've got.

I think you use a lot of great adjectives, but what it really comes down to, is that you really are a TOTAL PACKAGE... from brains, to looks, good intentions, to your adventurous side.  I guess you can't just come right out and say, I'm a total package.

If I had to write an ad for you, that would be the title.   My friend is the total package--if you think you're underqualified, stop reading now.

LOL

Anonymous

Awwww, you chicas are just THE BEST! Now if only the hot, cute guys would have such an impression!

So Beth, I hear ya about the "faithful" and, actually, it was an afterthought after I started noticing that alot of the men's profiles imply that they've known some players. Though I can be very faithful once I'm really in love, I can't say that it's my strongest trait ! As for the pics, I have to line up the guy who took the first set for the magazine feature last summer. That was, seriously, the only time besides my college graduation and my wedding, that I've photographed well. As I've mentioned here before, I usually look like I should be wearing an orange jumpsuit and holding a placard with my docket number on it ! But I know you're right and I'm thinking my long blonde hair will be a draw too....it is really short in the old pics!

~Marin

Jaybird627

Oh, JMO but.....

I think I'd omit the info on tattoos/piercings just because I think men will zero in on that, perhaps negatively. I don't mention my tattoos to men as I don't necessrily want them to be 'turned on' or 'turned off' by them ahead of time. Again, JMO.

Anonymous

Just an update, girls. I'm pretty busy on several online dating boards and have 2 more that I plan to join after I get my new pics...AND play out the bites I'm getting on POF and Chemistry.com. On POF, I'm corresponding with a guy in Georgia who looks to be waaaay hot, but not at all full of himself. He owns and operates a fitness company that seems to cater to more bodybuilding, but he is, personally, into walking and YRG (Yoga for Regular Guys/Gals: http://www.yrgworkoutllc.com/joomla/ ) and healthy eating, which certainly gives us some commonality. The problem is that we don't have a geographical commonality! So what's a girl to do? I'm not sure if it's even worth pursuing, ya know?

Then there's a local man I've met on Chemistry. We do seem to have chemistry, but I'll have to see how the upcoming week goes. If our communication continues to spark, I'm expecting a date next weekend. He looks really nice in his pics and he works out alot too. I like his energy and the way he expresses himself. I'm even more excited that he enjoys reading, music and water sports and is a little in love with the mountains of New England (as I am). I do hope that this guy comes through, but online stuff is sooooooo unpredictable. Ugh!

There are a smattering of other guys I'm kind of flirting with too, but nothing that's making me hot for them. I just want a man who's Smart, Sexy, Funny and Fit....is THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK? Oh, and he shouldn't be psychotic  !

~Marin

Anonymous

So I'm resurrecting this thread to report more about P., the guy I met through chemistry.com and have been seeing since. He's about to leave on his Russian trip and we've been emailing even more feverishly. I spent Saturday with him and had the most amazing time. I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop, of course, because he really does seem too good to be true and, let's face it, I haven't been the best judge of good boyfriend material in the past!

So get this from his most recent email....he says he's amazed at how attractive I am and that most women in their 30s and even 20s would like to have my figure ( )! Then he goes on to praise my other qualities and says I'm curious, well-read and a good listener. OMG! But the ultimate is how he responds to my slightly suggestive reference to his "manly urges"....he affirms that he does, indeed, have "rock-solid, pure-strength, manly-sized urges" but then asks if he's "crossed any boundaries of respect" or is "on thin ice" by saying so!!!! How incredibly adorable is that??? All I can say is.....wow !

~Marin

Jaybird627

Marin, I hope he isn't "too good to be true" - some guys ARE genuine! (or so I hear.....)

Ya want me to hop on a plane and follow him?????