I'm bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.

duckyb1

Ladies.............I feel so bad for you with all your problems............family, housing, no hot water, and cancer to boot............................I vow today to never complain again............sometimes I feel like I have it bad except for the "no gas" (although last place I had a shower that would go from hot to cold in a nano second in February), but I have a great family, always there for me..................a completely renovated "ranch home" from top to bottom, walls and all (because I downsized from a 4 BR.....2 1/2 bath house.

I guess I find it hard to understand how families can do this to each other......hey my kids fight, talk about each other, and all 6 are not there at the drop of a hat (4 usually are), but its sad to see people being treated so badly.

Isn't cancer bad enough, let alone more trauma to a cancer patient.................I wish you all the best, and promise I will write 1,000 times...................I will complain less, I will complain less....................hugs.

kmccraw423

Okay ... I'm going out to buy soccer equipment and a helmut.  My aunt, sister and i went to lunch today and guess who fell - I tripped and took a hard fall to the cement.  I scraped my forehead, my little finger and my knee.  I guess my Mother was right when she called me a hardhead!

Retirement ... fortunately I was able to get into a HOC home for the disabled and elderly.  It only costs me $510 per month.  I went on Craigslist to check rents in this area and talk about sticker shock - $2,500 - ?.  Short of winning the lottery, I will be here for quite a long time.

Bad neighbors are the worse!!!  And how childish was that to say she wished you would die from cancer?  Idiot.  Fortunately everyone here follows the rules, we have an excellent rental manager and the place is well maintained.  When I owned a home it turned out that my neighbors were draining their sump pump onto my land!  I had to call the county to stop them - the pipe led right up to the fence and spurted out on my property.  I'm glad I don't own a home - like the movie of the same name - its a money pit.

I hope everyone is having a better day.

Barbe - thanks for the hug.  Of course, you are just as much pain as I am!  (((((((((BARBE))))))))

3jaysmom

hey ladies, this is the first time i rent in my life; but i've been blessed. the rent was steep; but it works out almost the same as my last house, with our airconditioning here being MUCH cheaper thsn the last palce! i don't pay the hoas' the landlord does, so, its' doable, but dorsn't leave much left over... i have a grand next door neighbor man in his 80's anf he looks ouut for me! my other neighbors just leave me alone. its' easier ( and more money) but we rnet a villa one floor, fourplex.. i just don't think i could deal with a condo!!!!

   we have little service dogs, it was a hassle with the board, in the beg...but its; the law, so all is good now... my neighbors used to watch for me to walk them, and flock out... i know they're not suppossed to pet them, but my little blindie loves it.. my little man, all 5lbs of him growls, and warns everyone who gets too near me..he thinks he's a doberman... but, he flys to the door when he hears my neighbor man.. HE; he trusts around his mommy!!!    having a good wkensd, i hope. i couldn't consider all that stuff with my healththe way it is...

   we;re doing a rearranging of our place now, and decluttering. i don't think i'll be fit and moving much longer, for awhile so doing it while i can...and, MUr DH is so scared; he's placating me!!!yeah!!!    see yall later... 3jays

barbe1958

We had a very nice quiet little area in our 'lifestyle community' of little town houses grouped in 2's and 3's around green space and then the guy 3 houses over moved in with a little yappy dog!!! I think they are SO sweet, but it goes on and on and on!!! Even the birds stop while it's yapping....sigh.

kmccraw423

My sister's dogs are yappers - if a leaf falls outside they run to the door and bark.  You're right Barbe, they are cute but never shut up.

tnbcRuth

Agreed!  Having bad neighbors can aggravate you Every Single Day!!! My Neighbors on each side are terrific, thank goodness.  Walked out this morning and there the little white dog was, by herself about 4 houses down, and as I watched to see if she was going to run towards us, her owner came out behind her.  She was on the leash !!  Yaaaaa  Now was that so hard???  

Ugh, that yapping can really get on your nerves.  I'm not the kind of person (surprise!) that can tune that out.  I don't know how others can do it.

The other horror storied (sump pump, barking dogs) make me shudder.  Its understandable that neighbors sometimes try to kill each other!!!!! 

Juli50

My condo neighbor has 2 yapping doxies and I have complained to her. She is breaking 2 HOA rules. 1. No pets out on the patio if you are not home, and 2. Only 1 dog allowed. I even complained to the HOA management company. Did it help? NO, and why not? Because this neighbor is the President of the HOA Board. *sigh*

tnbcRuth

Oh Juli, you're screwed   I would play the Cancer card !  Send over a short note saying I'm trying to recover from Cancer and quieter dogs would sure help!  If it doesn't help, tell EVERYONE.  Guilt her into doing better!  We all have a right to peace and quiet.  If they are barking when she is gone, put a note on her door telling her the dogs go nuts when she leaves.  Maybe she will baby-gate them or close the curtains.  Offer to buy the good chew sticks so they have something to do instead of bark.  If it is really bothering you, you can nicely do things to get results.  Unless you have crazy Puerto Ricans that don't speak much English and don't give a hoot about ANY of the rules and yell at you when you say something.  The police spoke with them this morning...she'll call me and discuss the plan to reinforce the dog leash rule since my hoa claims they can't do anything.  Good luck!  Do you want me to come over and kick her butt?

I feel for you because last year I laid in bed right after my mx while his son set off fireworks for 3 straight days from 3pm-midnight.  I was too sick to even make a phone call and I was alone.  It was hell.  

Ugh, sunny and 100*...headed to pool to swim laps so my hip can hurt more than it does.  Must lose weight, urp. 

Juli50

Ruth - when the neighbor across from me, whose bedroom wall is on the other side of the barking dogs' kitchen wall, complained, the owner told her "to squirt the dogs with a hose when they bark". So obviously she is not going to make any effort to keep the dogs inside when she is at work. I am going to buy a bunch of "Super Soakers" and arm all the neighbors.

barbe1958

Would it help to call the pound to get the dogs? That is just so wrong. Or muzzles?

Juli50

It is just so wrong that she thinks she can break any rule she wants because she is the HOA head honcho.

Connie07

Seems like the more power people get, the more they abuse it. AND do we EVER learn from our own mistakes? We as a country have watched the rise and fall of Empires, yet our law makers get so personally greedy that they can't make good decisions for the ones they were elected to represent.

We have been struggling, financially for 3 years straight. Seems like as soon as we get a break, the bottom falls out. I know my bc was not bad, in comparison to so many others, but since the dx our pleasant, do-able little world has been imploding. I stand up and applaude the strong, amazingly strong women who keep on keeping on with a smile and a helping hand for others. But it's as if the world is headed towards it's own destruction and the ones that vowed to help are only making it worse. The insurance companies lie and cheat their clients, the medical teams lie and don't tell patients the whole truth, or take enough time to explain that there ARE options and we have the right to choose.

The economy isn't the only part of our lives that's deteriorating, remember when people trusted one another? And a handshake was as good as gold? Gone with the Greed. It's all about the money, who has it and who doesn't. Those of us that struggle through every day are the backbone of society. There MUST be a better way. Is it really so hard to share? Be it the silence or the money. No one should have to suffer others abuses, of any kind.

When I was recovering, my fav. place to be was on the patio, reading or not, and there is a car dealership about a mile away whos speakers were so loud that I could hear and understand every word announced. It was so distracting, annoying and unnecessary. I called them and asked nicely for them to turn it down. Time after time, I called and they would turn it down. Then management changed and the speakers were turned up full blast. When I called and asked for relief the SOBs turned it up and actually broadcast verbal abuse and laughter directly at me. They didn't know who or where I was but that was too much. I called the police and reported it and they were all over it, CLIK, I heard the damned thing get turned off. But that speaks to the abuse of power and how those that have it only want more and will defend it even if they break the law to do so.wrong, wrong, wrong. That is not the key to heaven.

omg, i overslept so long today. Thankfully, the rain came and the temps are dropping, at least for a little while.

Hope everyone has a peaceful, relaxing weekend and Thank You for the joy you bring into my life.

~Connie

barbe1958

Great to hear from you Connie. I cannot believe that dealership!!! The cops must have been shaking their heads too. As well as the neighbours between you and them that heard the announcements and the abuse!

duckyb1

Connie.......you make many good points......................I am a believer in Medical teams, Insurance companies, and down right nasty people (dealership) can only get away with what you allow them to get away with..................

I had a wonderful team of Dr.s.............from the day I got that first  phone call saying "come back" till today, I have been treated the way I belive as a person I should have been treated...........I asked questions, researched, got answers, and if I didn't like the answer I kept asking till I had the one I wanted..........in researching I found much information that armed me with what I needed when it came to "am I getting honest answers"..............Each and every person I dealt with was wonderful (except the little freak who did my "wire".........my BS was wonderful, talked with my kids for 2 hours...........my RO, was the best.......never hid anything, told me good and bad, and my Techs, the best, kindest people I could have ever wanted...........my MO (no chemo) was good too. Femara is my enemy really need to start taking it, but can't bring myself to the SE's.

I developed LE, and got a board certified LE specialist, (out of network).........a company to do my bandages paid for (was told no, and fought them and won)..............and a company who my LE specialist recommended for my "sleeve" (out of network)...............all paid for 2 sleeves, and a night sleeve..................The call came today that Aetna would pay the bill for all my garments with the company I chose to go to.

I belive you have to be your own advocate, and don't take no for an answer from anyone........itis your body........your health, and your the one paying the premiums................never go down without at least a fight................if you lose in the end, at least you tried.............many just take the "no" from the first person they get on the phone........................or the Dr. who never shoots straight with you.................I guess I was just lucky.............

However I can understand where your co'ming from Connie...............and good for you for taking care of that dealership..................you go girl.................

bookart

I have to bitch a bit about my weekend - now that it is over I can chill a bit and write about it.  I'm working my second job all day Saturday, so I only have Sundays off - came home from taking two of the dogs to the lake (third dog recently had to have leg amputated, so he's still in stitches).  Younger son is crying and angry because for the gazillionth time his girlfriend has picked a fight over nothing.  After a few minutes of listening to his story, we notice that the third dog isn't around.  Where is he?  no one knows.  Realize that he probably followed son outside during one of his earlier rants (son with head so far up ass he can't see anything) and has now run off. 

So in 105 degree heat, all four parents, both sons, grandmother, friends, neighbors and other dogs walk and drive all over, putting up flyers and looking for tripod dog for four miserable hours - everyone crying, worrying.  Mother 1 calls girlfriend and chews her a new one. 

In the meantime, number one son confesses to me that he has lost his academic scholarships, flunking his summer classes and not signing up for second summer session because he has decided to change majors.  He was so scared to tell us that he flunked out rather than tell us he didn't want to keep taking those classes.  Idiot.  This is in the middle of dog hunt.  He's bawling, I'm trying to reassure him I'm not disappointed in him (of course I'm disappointed!!!) and that everything will be ok (he was on full ride, now he'll have to take out punishing loans to finish, if he even can!)  AAARRGH!

In the end, one of the older dogs (yes, I said dog) went out the gate of the backyard and came back in about five minutes with the missing tripod dog.  She was so proud of herself - grinned and grinned. 

As for older son, we'll just have to see.  And for younger son, maybe I need to amputate something of his, so he can get blood to a different organ and start thinking again.  Sigh.

bookart

I have to bitch a bit about my weekend - now that it is over I can chill a bit and write about it.  I'm working my second job all day Saturday, so I only have Sundays off - came home from taking two of the dogs to the lake (third dog recently had to have leg amputated, so he's still in stitches).  Younger son is crying and angry because for the gazillionth time his girlfriend has picked a fight over nothing.  After a few minutes of listening to his story, we notice that the third dog isn't around.  Where is he?  no one knows.  Realize that he probably followed son outside during one of his earlier rants (son with head so far up ass he can't see anything) and has now run off. 

So in 105 degree heat, all four parents, both sons, grandmother, friends, neighbors and other dogs walk and drive all over, putting up flyers and looking for tripod dog for four miserable hours - everyone crying, worrying.  Mother 1 calls girlfriend and chews her a new one. 

In the meantime, number one son confesses to me that he has lost his academic scholarships, flunking his summer classes and not signing up for second summer session because he has decided to change majors.  He was so scared to tell us that he flunked out rather than tell us he didn't want to keep taking those classes.  Idiot.  This is in the middle of dog hunt.  He's bawling, I'm trying to reassure him I'm not disappointed in him (of course I'm disappointed!!!) and that everything will be ok (he was on full ride, now he'll have to take out punishing loans to finish, if he even can!)  AAARRGH!

In the end, one of the older dogs (yes, I said dog) went out the gate of the backyard and came back in about five minutes with the missing tripod dog.  She was so proud of herself - grinned and grinned. 

As for older son, we'll just have to see.  And for younger son, maybe I need to amputate something of his, so he can get blood to a different organ and start thinking again.  Sigh.

bookart

I have to bitch a bit about my weekend - now that it is over I can chill a bit and write about it.  I'm working my second job all day Saturday, so I only have Sundays off - came home from taking two of the dogs to the lake (third dog recently had to have leg amputated, so he's still in stitches).  Younger son is crying and angry because for the gazillionth time his girlfriend has picked a fight over nothing.  After a few minutes of listening to his story, we notice that the third dog isn't around.  Where is he?  no one knows.  Realize that he probably followed son outside during one of his earlier rants (son with head so far up ass he can't see anything) and has now run off. 

So in 105 degree heat, all four parents, both sons, grandmother, friends, neighbors and other dogs walk and drive all over, putting up flyers and looking for tripod dog for four miserable hours - everyone crying, worrying.  Mother 1 calls girlfriend and chews her a new one. 

In the meantime, number one son confesses to me that he has lost his academic scholarships, flunking his summer classes and not signing up for second summer session because he has decided to change majors.  He was so scared to tell us that he flunked out rather than tell us he didn't want to keep taking those classes.  Idiot.  This is in the middle of dog hunt.  He's bawling, I'm trying to reassure him I'm not disappointed in him (of course I'm disappointed!!!) and that everything will be ok (he was on full ride, now he'll have to take out punishing loans to finish, if he even can!)  AAARRGH!

In the end, one of the older dogs (yes, I said dog) went out the gate of the backyard and came back in about five minutes with the missing tripod dog.  She was so proud of herself - grinned and grinned. 

As for older son, we'll just have to see.  And for younger son, maybe I need to amputate something of his, so he can get blood to a different organ and start thinking again.  Sigh.

bookart

I have to bitch a bit about my weekend - now that it is over I can chill a bit and write about it.  I'm working my second job all day Saturday, so I only have Sundays off - came home from taking two of the dogs to the lake (third dog recently had to have leg amputated, so he's still in stitches).  Younger son is crying and angry because for the gazillionth time his girlfriend has picked a fight over nothing.  After a few minutes of listening to his story, we notice that the third dog isn't around.  Where is he?  no one knows.  Realize that he probably followed son outside during one of his earlier rants (son with head so far up ass he can't see anything) and has now run off. 

So in 105 degree heat, all four parents, both sons, grandmother, friends, neighbors and other dogs walk and drive all over, putting up flyers and looking for tripod dog for four miserable hours - everyone crying, worrying.  Mother 1 calls girlfriend and chews her a new one. 

In the meantime, number one son confesses to me that he has lost his academic scholarships, flunking his summer classes and not signing up for second summer session because he has decided to change majors.  He was so scared to tell us that he flunked out rather than tell us he didn't want to keep taking those classes.  Idiot.  This is in the middle of dog hunt.  He's bawling, I'm trying to reassure him I'm not disappointed in him (of course I'm disappointed!!!) and that everything will be ok (he was on full ride, now he'll have to take out punishing loans to finish, if he even can!)  AAARRGH!

In the end, one of the older dogs (yes, I said dog) went out the gate of the backyard and came back in about five minutes with the missing tripod dog.  She was so proud of herself - grinned and grinned. 

As for older son, we'll just have to see.  And for younger son, maybe I need to amputate something of his, so he can get blood to a different organ and start thinking again.  Sigh.

bookart

Sorry about that - post didn't seem to submit, kept clicking - oops!

barbe1958

GREAT post though!!!!! What a keystone kops kind of scene you've painted us there, sweetie!! hehehehehehehehehehe

Glad everything worked out in the end!!

Ducky, I find if I use the 'big' words with the docs, they tell me more than they tell someone else. I don't know any other woman wih bc that even knows what KIND she has!!! (except on the boards here of course) They obviously just needed to hear bc and that was all they could handle.

tnbcRuth

Oh Bookart, that was a hysterical story!  I'm groaning, laughing, and empathizing thru the whole thing.  I would love to have seen the grinning dog that found Tripod!  Oh, and the heat!  And the sons!  I have done the 'not disappointed (of course I'm disappointed) talk too~    My hi IQ son took 7 years to complete college, losing scholarships, flunking out, etc all along the way. He's finally working at 29 yrs old.  Hey- its his life...I did my best to keep him going. It all works out in the end. :)

Its stuff like that that keeps our mnd off our stupid stuff.  Can you keep us posted?  

leisaparis

bookart - thanks for the laugh.....sounds to familiar.

barbe - know just what you mean. When I talk to others here in my home town who also have bc, they have no clue as to what kind, stage, etc. they have. When I found out it might be, I started researching right away so I would know what to expect. I just don't get how you can be told you have cancer & not find out all you can. But that may just be how they deal. I can't. I guess to each his own.

barbe1958

It boggles my mind that people can be like that! If there is ONE text worth cramming for, it's one that affects your whole life!!!

GramE

I agree 101% about knowing stage, grade, all you can about BC.   However, one semi distant relative has had a second lump diagnosed as cancer, and that is all she knows or says.   She had biopsy and emailed me that it is cancer again...    First time she did not need chemo or rads, but says she will this time.    her email also says do not phone her or ask details because she does not want to know or talk about it.     Holy smokes - Is "De Nile" only a river in Egypt???

Connie07

Anticipating...   Have a mammo scheduled for tomorrow morning.  YUK.  Last one was only 6 months ago and bc side got swollen and stayed that way for 2 weeks.  I really hope it's better this time.

Just hate going.   DD#2 is preggers again, her first exam included a pap, which came back as suspicious so she's all nervous. Her followup procedure is thurs this week. Wish us luck.

Just a fly by to say Hi.

Connie

barbe1958

{{{{{{{{{{{{{ Connie }}}}}}}}}}}}}}  Let us know how it goes....

EWB

Its been a while since I've checked in..hoping everyone is doing as well as possible! Hi to ole buddies and hello to everyone I have not had the pleasure of meeting yet.

So on my last scns (last Monday) the CT scan picked up something in the area of the orginal mass, which had almost disapeared for the past few yrs..had mamo and ultra sound later that week and yup grown again. Onc wants me to see a breast surgeon (she had cancellation for tomorrow) so off I go to get opinion: watch or surgery. Had ovaries out in Feb because Lupron was not working well anymore; guess I should have seen this coming, actually I think I knew already..first timeI've had bad/uneasy feeling about scans.

barbe1958

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ Elaine!!!! }}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

(Notice my right arm of the hug is stronger! That's cause I'm right handed! heheheheh)

leisaparis

Good Luck Connie & Elaine (((hugs))) to both of you.

wishiwere

Elaine.....dang i hope the tests are wrong...but regardless will keep you in good thoughts and prayers...{{{{hugs}}}}}} (right arm strength here too