I'm bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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OK, so first of all, I'm right there with you on the lack of boobage. It's the ultimate irony that I got breast cancer, since I have no breasts. And BTW, you know you bra manufacturers that do make adult bras in our size, while I do thank you, can you think before you name the size NA?!?!? I know it stands for "Nearly A" but really? NA? Really?
In any event, I digress, that's my specialty quite frankly. I was dx with IDC, but years later when poring over my path report for a little light reading, I saw mention of DCIS. Huh? I "only" had a lump, chemo and rads. Most of the women I hear about with DCIS have a mast. Huh? and WTF? combined. (WTHuhF?) Do you know till this day I have STILL not asked my onc about it?
Why am I talking about this? Oh, because you were DCIS, but then found out you had IDC. Sheesh, it's hard to keep me focused! Here's my opinion (FWIW), cancer is cancer, and while the different types and stages of bc have different mental and physical torment associated with them, ultimately, we all have breast cancer, and that's why we're here.
You go ahead and have yourself a good rant and cry if you like, and when you're ready, there are a lot of women here with some pretty tough boot straps (like me for example ;-) and you know they'll be willing to loan you a pair until you can get back in the saddle again. (Ludicrous cowboy anaologies officially done now. Sorry.)
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Boots accepted - I live in TEXAS!!!
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{{{Trish}}} you belong with any group you feel comfortable with, including this one. Rants, raves, we take them all! As for DCIS/IDC, it's all a part of it. SSo sorry though you are feeling like anyone is leaving you out or not acknowledging you. I know the threads have been barren lately...really quite quiet compared to a month ago. Might be just everyone is in a zone to not be posting? I think especially with the colder season approaching, it puts people in a state of mind of emotions all over, at least mine is. Seasonal affect already hitting home. Hate it, but...it's there!
BIG THAT SUX that you're feeling left out. Many {{Hugs}} you start feeling more welcome soon
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Hello there friends and a big that sucks to everyone. I have just finished 12 hours of work, havent eaten dinner but decided to peak in.
Cutting Xanax - OMG! OMG! OMG! I have extra's hidden! Good luck. Colleen I have so much to say, and no time to say it - but like Arnold says "I'll be back."
Hoping Harley gets good results. That Saint and Dreamer are having a wonderful time. Im so glad that Dreamer was with other bc survivors after losing her friend.
Marking my spot, popping in, whatever.
Nicki
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I am going to be running around like crazy the rest of the day; local voting day, cross-country running end-of-year dinner, meeting for Katie's upcoming trip to Spain and France with her language class, want to watch the debate......ARG All i really want to do is head to BED! My vision problems are making me nuts today. I have no sense of humor about it anymore....I just want to be able to SEE well enough to freaking DRIVE!!! Grrrrrrrrr.......
On the good side of things my digestive issues seem to be resolving.
So sorry for everyone's ongoing crap! Some days i wish I could call a global time-out for all of us....just get us ONE normal day.
Who is giving up their Xanax? Don't quit cold turky if you have been taking it a while...it can make you nutty, for real! Stop slowly.
Oh, and here is my final bitch....I saw on CNN that they are lighting the white house bright pink in honor of BC month! I was so gob-smacked I didn't listen to hear if it was just tonight or all month. Is there anyone on the facce of the earth that ia NOT aware of Oct. being BC awareness month?
OIK, gotta find shoes before DH gets here.....
Deb c
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Deb, it's great to hear from you. I checked out your "pink white house" report, and it's true. This is from today's press briefing from the White House Press Secretary: http://www.whitehouse.gov/news/releases/2008/10/20081007-3.html
"On a different topic, this evening Mrs. Bush will deliver remarks on the North Lawn and light the White House pink in observance of Breast Cancer Awareness Month. The United States is working with countries like the Middle East, Europe and the Americas to empower women to take control of their health, raise awareness about the importance of prevention and early diagnosis, and support collaborative research to find a cure for breast cancer.
As First Lady, Mrs. Bush has met with heads of state and survivors, health care workers, and members of the international media to help develop this awareness. And since breast cancer knows no borders, Mrs. Bush has invited members of the diplomatic corps to be a part of the effort, and so they will -- many of them will be here tonight. And they're also doing their own displays of the pink ribbon in solidarity with Mrs. Bush on that initiative tonight. And that happens, I think, at 7:00 p.m."
The press briefing doesn't say how long the White House will be pink.
otter
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Oh my!! A pink white house! Will this pink crap NEVER END?!! WTH?!
Deb,
Good to see you posting, but I'm so sorry you are still having vision problems. IT truly does SUCK!!! Love ya! I'm still praying for you, hon!!
Just a quick update before I go to watch the debates...
I saw my surgeon, and the lump I have been feeling is... just scar tissue, just as SHIRLEY predicted!! Thanks, Shirley for helping me through; whenever I got the 'crazies', I would call you! I probably drove you nuts!!
Hugs to all,
Harley
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Geepers {{{{DEB!!!!!!!!}}}}}} That's more than one woman in good health can handle on a good day! Lady, you are one tough Cookie! Whew! So glad to read your post and so happy you are getting a handle on some of the problems, but hoping and praying that vision is going to be straightened out soon too! Shoot, I don't know how you do it!
{{Harley}} so freaking glad it was NOT the worse feared! :YEAH!
Nicki, 12 hour days sucks! I can't even do 12 hour contacts yet!
Pink house! UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Put their money (oil) where their mouths are, PLEASE?????????
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That is pretty darn funny (pink White House), I don't know why this popped into my head, but I'd love to see the guy from the movie Arthur, as Arthur when he's drunk, commeting on a pink White House.
And on that note, I'm off to bed! Won't be around for a few days, coxsackie virus boy and I are heading off to Florida. I'm glad my exMIL is a nurse! (Interesting sidenote for those of you with small children, you know, the kind that are SUPPOSED to get freakin' coxsackie. Mix 1/2 tsp maalox with 1/2 tsp benadryl. Have child (or pre-teen or adult as the case may be!) swish in his mouth and spit to relieve the pain of the mouth blisters.
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what great news, Harley and Sherri! Yea!
I hate, hate, hate when I car pool with someone & they're late, unprepared, and want to leave early to boot.
Sue - sensory overload is one of my afflictions. I work next to someone who crunches, SNEEZES loud enough to shake the cubicle, and did I mention the crunching? I can't deal with noise. Fortunately I also work with someone who has the same issue, so there's someone to commiserate with.
Trish. Pity party - ok by me. I was just DCIS and it definitely had its days of 'cancer lite'. But it was my cancer lite, and that was all that mattered. It was still surgery and rads and the rads knocked me flat. Definitely not as bad as my mom's MR mast. and chemo experience by any stretch of the imagination. I told my sisters and mom that it wasn't her cancer, it was my cancer, and it was different (to me) and terrifying (to me) and difficult (to me). They respected that.
What I notice IRL is that all people hear is "cancer". They don't know stages, treatments, risks - they just know cancer. Here, with all the ups and downs of the women with advanced stages I do feel fortunate (and guilty), I have to say that I all but cry when I get sympathy from someone who is dealing with situations harder than mine will ever be.
My IOS is small. Just exhausted. The husband is travelling, the inlaws are both in hospital, my SIL is beyond wigged out (not only is she dealing with her parents' surgeries, a tree fell on her house).
Plenty of SOIs today - said ILs both came through their surgeries with flying colors. My MIL had this huge balloon of air and fluid removed from her gut (like a 9-month baby) along with 3 feet of her colon. FIL had superglue injected in his back. ILs on morphine drips and oxycontin are wonderful things
My surgery is set for the 24th, and today the onc called - she had the biopsy pathology re-done and the result is the same - she didn't seen anything more than LCIS and ALH (?). Now I just have to wait for the final path after surgery. take care all.
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Marking my spot - read everyone but now I'm too tired and don't remember most except...it all SUCKS!
Sue - I am, again, your partner in the dog. ass. tired. world.
DebC - So glad again to see a post from you! And I have a Katie, too! Is yours as stubborn as mine?
And can I just say that I am soooo over the hotflash crap?! That's my IOS - unexpected hotflashes hitting whenever they feel like it.
THAT SUCKS!!!
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A big that sucks for everyone that needs to hear that today.
Nicki
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Gentle Hugs and smilies from me with turban: @:-} - for everyone with SOI and THAT SUCKS for the IOS.
My mini IOS: Saturday marks 39 years since I married my husband. Even though it is 5 1/2 years since he died.... I asked my (only) son and dil to join me for lunch, my treat - well, they are off to a wine festival in Colorado - will visit my sister who has not emailed or called in 2 weeks....
Then I asked IF they are free the evening of my last chemo or that weekend to celebrate. I had told them when I began chemo that i want to celebrate the last one with them and to mark the calendar ... There is a big oyster festival 4 hours away - they suggested I go with them to it... ICK, YUCK on oysters and a 4 hour ride each way -- no thanks... And my chemo is on Thursday and they have to work the next day, which is Halloween. Can I say " trick or treat" -- bah humbug !!
I hate to think how much I will disrupt their Holiday scenario... Thanksgiving and Christmas and surgery for me sometime soon. Do people understand how much this has disrupted MY scenario??? Like I volunteered to get toxic drugs pumped into my system for the past 4 months... Enuf. Thanks for listening and it felt good to get it out.
On a bit of SOI: this week I felt the best in a long time - not nearly as fatigued, but the toe nail fall out - off is freaky. 6 eyelashes are hanging on, so I got some super duper mascara and am practicing for Halloween... lol.
Peace,Blessings, and HUGS, Nancy
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HI again:
The second week of October is Pet Peeve week -- YES - a whole week to rant and rave...
National Pet Peeve Week
The second full week of October
is National Pet Peeve Week,
a time for people to gripe about
those little annoying thingsthat drive them crazy throughout the year!
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Shari, cmb, wish,
Thank you for listening to my pity party. Yesterday was such a (I don't even know what to call it!) day. I guess my ios is that I had an ios about feeling that way. Did that make sense? I still feel that way today, but at least so far my keyboard is not wet and rusting up. Here's a hearty That Sucks to all!
Gentle Hugs,
Trish
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Sorry I haven't posted in a while... I'm reading as much as I can. Work has been crazy busy!
Nicki, who gave you permission to post my picture?
Trish, Welcome to the bitch thread!!
Nancy, so sorry you are feeling alone. Your son and dil could definitely make themselves a bit more available! I hope you have a good time with your sis. I'm glad you're feeling better, too!
I'll try to catch up soon!
Miss S
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Thanks Miss S for the welcome, but I've been here for a while. I don't have major IOS, so I guess I don't stick in people's heads - I've always been kind of a wallflower LOL
Hugs,
Trish
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Hi Trish, Isn't it sad that there are so many girls on this board that some posts can go completely overlooked. I assume that's what you mean....well, welcome cuz, you fit in here just fine. All you need here is bad stuff going on and .... I'm only kidding!
Being a wallflower makes you fit it.o.k. Since my brain doesn't work anymore and I can't go back to the previous page....did Harley have good results?? Yea! Sherri! Is that who said "clear scans"? Man, I wish my brain worked. YEA! For clear scans!! Another bc sister on another thread that has had nothing but bad news for a long time finally got a break....YEA!!!!
Sue, are you done with rads?
Miss S.....we missed you!
Nancy, your enuf cracked me up! And, I'm with you sister...there is NO WAY I would drive four hours to eat oysters. I wouldn't walk to the kitchen to eat oysters. YUCK!!!!
Pam, what surgery are you having? I know I should know that....sorry. That sucks that a tree fell on a horse! Is it o.k.???
Otter, did you put that info on the Pepto thread???? LOL!
Everybody else.....
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Trish: During the week - I'm doing fly bys. Marking my spot or popping in. Work has kept me so busy, I hardly get a chance to post. I used to try and say hello to everyone, but can only do that on the week-ends now. Thats my IOS!
I read back and I wanted to tell you that you fit in right here. You are definitely in the right place. Whats cool about this thread is we are all stages, all types! Your diagnosis is so similar to my older sisters. She was diagnosed 3 months after me. I think breast cancer is breast cancer, and its terrible when we hear those words. Im greatful my sister didnt need chemo, but what we went through emotionally was pretty hard. Anyways, I sending a big that sucks your way...ummm and try to catch up with you on the week-end.
Hey to everyone else and a big that sucks to all who need it. Yes Im marking my spot - once again. Worked 11 hours today - Im tired.
Nicki
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Nicki, if I knew that about you and your sister already....I forgot. That sucks girl. (((((sisters)))))
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Thanks ladies,
I guess my main IOS is that I have this feeling of being ignored although I'm not. I hate it (the feeling) and that sucks. I know I'm not being overlooked, it's just the feeling of "Hey I'm here - listen to me and my sh*t! and I really don't have any except this stupid feeling. It's hard to explain. I feel so fortunate but yet there are times when no one asks me how I am and I just want to scream! (does my sister and mother hear this?) I have to sound tired or exhausted to get a "How are you feeling?" Oh crap - don't I sound whiney?! I just can't seem to post how I feel without it sounding like I want attention and am whiney. That SUCKS too! I obviously need to work on my communication skills!
Traci - Go Cowboys! Nicki - eleven hours SUCK
Gentle Hugs,
Trish
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Damn - that really was a pity rant again
T
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UhmmmTraci? Tree on House dear...Not HORSE!@ ROFL Thank you so much for a great laugh! So danged glad I'm not the only one that reads dislexic!
Too cute!Everyone in need! THAT SUX!
So sorry!It's cold and rainy and I hate cold and rainy...but I bet my gardens are soaking it up....
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Traci: Yep, 3 months after me she was having the same darn surgery. Bil mast and reconstruction.
Trish: Being ignored by our families and friends sucks big time. I know thats one of the reasons I can come here, bitch and whine - and we all will understand. My family other than my sister, is pretty much in denial. Its done, overwith - move on! Ha if they only knew.
Now this time I mean, I have to get something to eat and chill out.
Nicki
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Just moved last week and got connected to the internet today. The move sucked.........but getting reconnected to the internet is a non sucky moment. I forget the initials ISO??? And just for the record......I hate pink........even before I got bc.
How are the ladies doing in Las Vegas........anyone know??
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Oh, lord. Traci, I am laughing so hard I'm crying. The tree fell on the house. No horse to be found in the Seattle suburbs.
I'm having lumpectomy. And, dammit, that had better be it. Til next August, I guess.
The husband wants to do away with October, I'm skipping August, one sister says she'll pass over Oct-Dec every three years (her husband is on strike at the moment)
Trish - one of my old program managers used to say hope is not a strategy. Every time I read your sig line I think of that.
No IOS today. Tomorrow I take #1 daughter to visit a college in Oregon. She's staying overnight at the college & I've got a hotel room. Husband is flying in there instead of going straight home & we'll go to a parents meeting on Friday.
Have great days...suckiness to a minimum...
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Trish,
I know the feeling... I feel left out sometimes too, but I figure that especially on this thread where there is just SO MUCH SUCKINESS going on, and everyone can't possibly remember EVERYONE with issues... I also can't remember to list everyone when I am trying to list each one by name, but I still try.
You are definitely in the right place here, because we all understand, since we've all been there, and we've all experienced bc, and IT SUCKS!!!
Traci,
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who can't seem to be able to keep things straight anymore!!
Yes, I was one who was waiting for u/s test results, and my lump is just scar tissue... YIPPEE!!I never thought I'd be happy to have scar tissue...
A hearty THAT SUCKS to any who need it!!Hugs
Harley
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HI Everyone:
Gentle Hugs, my (left) shoulder to lean/cry on, and most all kinds of alcohol is available for a REAL pity party. My addlepated (not sure how to spell) brain cannot remember each individual IOS. and my fingers are really stiff tonight.
Onco and chemo tomorrow, so I WILL be getting out of the house. Again, HUGS, BLESSINGS, and THAT SUCKS. Nancy
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Nancy - it truly DOES suck that we consider going to get chemo "Getting out of the house"! I feel the same way......I don't have much of a social life! LOL
Deb C
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Yes - this is a fly by. Got to go hit the showers and get ready for work. A big that sucks to everyone thats needs it today.
Nicki
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