MOJO Without Matrimony!

irishdreama · July 2008

I love the motto! Let us know how everything works out-I'll be thinking of you tonight.

Jeri

Anonymous · July 2008

Yes Jules...

BE BAD - BE VERY BAD.....GIDDY-UP COWGIRL!

life is too short for anything else. We are always happy to "kick" it with you.

WildRose · July 2008

I don't have anything additional to add, Jule, except to chime in with the others in support of you telling this guy what a disappointment he is. If he wasn't there for you when you needed him, you have no intention of being there for (or with) him now.

I do want to have a F2F with DBF. I want to hear it from him, and I want him to hear it from me. That's it. There was a time when I thought we could be something together, but he's made it clear that that isn't possible (because he's decided that it isn't).

victorious · July 2008

So.....how about the Hitachi "Magic Wand"???? Any reviews????

Now - I have a UTI that developed!! And Dr. says "vaginitis" and he prescribed an EString. Or Ering or some such thing. Anyone else using that?? It is estrogen but it evidentally OK because it does not go into the blood.

Geesh ....I just want to get the ole ' vah-jay-ja' up and running and then find someone to appreciate it!

Victoria

victorious · July 2008

Oh hey - <Marin!

I just figured out that the Hitachi magic wand thing is Mr. Big!!!!!!!!!! I'm going to put in my order.

Anonymous · July 2008

Hey my chicas, I'm just back from a weekend of such unimaginably amazing sex that I can't seem to get back in touch with reality! I would actually find it difficult to describe the experience or to communicate the intensity. I really NEVER thought that sex could be this great. It was slow & sultry, hard, pounding and deliciously drenching, excruciating and satiating. This man is truly incredible and he makes me feel so desireable and sexy as hell. We had one experience involving the longest, slowest, most passionate, chocolate-soaked kiss....nibbling & sucking & passing a nugget of fine, Dutch chocolate between us until it finally melted and was completely consumed....and I can truly say that that was the absolute epitome of my entire kissing history and I just don't imagine that any other experience can ever top it! To sum up the weekend.....way beyond anything I thought possible!

Now, about Mr. Big (the vibe, not P Wink )....yes, Victoria, Mr. Big is the best and worth every penny! I would even dare say that I can't imagine ANY woman, no matter what situation her Va-JJ is in or even one who is feeling hopeless and frustrated about her libido, could NOT have a mind-blowing orgasm with this great gadget! And as mentioned before, it has a medium-sized silicone dildo attachment to assist with the viability and stretchiness of the vagina itself. Get the Big Man, the attachment and a big bottle of lube (and some erotica or a sexy video) and make it a point to enjoy the process of opening back up to your own sexuality. Also definitely get the Estring (or FemRing) and use it faithfully. Many women here have had much success with it.

And to Victoria and all of my hot, single sistas.....HAPPY MOJO-ING!!!!!! Cool

~Marin

Anonymous · July 2008

David and I had an amazing weekend too!!!!!!!!

HMMMMMMMM Marin-Im going to have to try that kissing style, thanks for the run down on it....David loves chocolate so that gives me very interesting ideas!!!

You would think after spending most the night Fri & Saturday, then spending most the day Sunday mojoing my mind would wonder to different things but OH NO!!!!!!

Gotta run as Im at work....bbl

Jule

Anonymous · July 2008

Oh Jule, it was wonderful and has given me even greater respect for chocolate! We do seem to be messing around with food play an awful lot, huh? First a mango and then chocolate....but with the chocolate, it was "just" a kiss and we were fully-clothed. I will say, though, that it was, truly, the most sensual experience I've ever had!!!

I posted over on the "main" MOJO board about P buying us a Liberator Wedge. We tried one this past weekend and are absolutely sold on it. It really helps you get into a variety of positions and angles and is so much fun. We're coming up with a list of activities for when it arrives (last check it was in transit). If you're not familiar, here's a pic:

http://www.liberator.com/products.php?id=31 Check out the video too!

Well, I'm at work too and it looks like my mind is definitely elsewhere! Back to it, y'all!

~Marin

WildRose · July 2008

I know what I want for my birthday! I don't care if it's late. Wink

Anonymous · July 2008

Well, it came yesterday and P spent the night. We were very diligent about reading the entire manual that came with it and then following the suggestions. Quite effective, my girls, quite effective..... Cool

~M

Calif-Sherry · July 2008

Okay Marin, as I said in a PM, my friend and I have that wedgey thing. It is pretty fun and helps you get in better positions/angles. As a matter of fact, my BF had one mailed to his best friend and his wife. So, us older women got it going on!!!

Anonymous · July 2008

I hear ya, Sherry! I'm so enthusiastic that I'd like to purchase the entire line of products! And how about the Black Label Esse with its straps and cuffs, etc. Ooooooooh!

http://www.liberator.com/products.php?id=44

Innocent Wink Cool

Yogi70 · July 2008

That ESSE looks like fun!!!!! I think we'll try it!!!!! Wink The Esse is made like the Tantra Chair only less expensive. They want a $1000.00 dollars for that chair!!!! It's beautiful and you can customize it any way you like but it only serves ONE purpose and I can get the same effect with an ESSE!!! But I'm with you Marin, I want the whole line of products. All the fun me and my dh can have....... Wink

LorenaB · July 2008

Please send me good mojo vibes, my bc sisters. Last night I got very upset with my dbf -- we went out to a concert with his kids and didn't get back until late, and he dropped me off at home instead of inviting me to stay with him. (I've been staying at his place when his kids are there for over a year.) He still hasn't touched me (other than a fully-clothed hug) since my surgery 4+ weeks ago. I'm going over to talk to him tonight. Actually, how about some good relationship vibes -- mojo can come later, I just don't want this relationship to be over! Cry

Lauren

Anonymous · July 2008

Lauren....You are absolutely in my thoughts and I'm sending you the most positive vibes ever! This is one of the toughest things that we deal with here....the respones of our partners to the radical changes occuring because of this effing disease. It sounds like he's keeping his distance from you physically and most likely will need some prodding to admit his fears and to face them head on. I think that if I were in your shoes, I would do exactly as you are doing and that is to confront him and "call a spade a spade." Dancing around the issue will yield nothing more than additional pretense and who needs that. So I'm totally behind you here and wishing for the best outcome, even if that means he breaks down and cries his eyes out in order to honestly vent his fear. Then you can deal....and build on all that you've already grown together before BC put a huge wrench in your blissful journey. It will be fine, girl, as long as you stay honest and insist that he do the same.

~Marin

Anonymous · July 2008

Updating on my weekend and it couldn't have been better. We ate out and then f***ed, visited friends and then f***ed, exercised and f***ed, and even watched a DVD (and, of course, then f***ed). I sure do love the "honeymoon phase" of a relationship !!!

Calif-Sherry · July 2008

Marin, ditto (except the exercise; saw the new Batman movie)) ... Although, we're going on three years!!!

Anonymous · July 2008

Awesome, Sherry! Think it might have something to do with remaining open to new experiences and techniques? Wink

~Marin

Anonymous · July 2008

Hello ladies,

I know I haven't ckecked in for a while...sorry, I'm so busy at work as I'm leaving on Sunday for vacation ....Off to Lost Wages - I mean Las Vegas!

Nice to hear that the MOJO-ING is happening for everyone....

Anonymous · August 2008

Pepper-have a wonderful time in LV, you deserve it girl!!!!!!

Marin, Sherry, Yogi-You ladies rock!!!!

Lorena-How are things going for you and dbf?????

For me things are wonderful.....David and I are unexplainably happy!!!!! Since his job is swamping him right now I went to his place for a 3-day weekend last weekend and will leave after work today to go again for this weekend.....this part is the only downfall about a long distance thing.....the days between seem like they are double long!!!!!

He has applied for some jobs here locally so we are hoping that in the next couple of months he will be moved here

Gotta run....at work so need to do a couple things before I leave as Im taking 1/2 day off to make the drive (5 hrs).

Hope everyone is busy MOJO-ING and has a wonderful weekend.

Jule

Jaybird627 · August 2008

Nope, the only mojo-ing for me has been of the solo variety - not much excitement there!!! Frown

Glad some of you are really getting it on though!

(love the look of the liberator - maybe someday.....)

LorenaB · August 2008

Marin and Jule, I'm really happy for both of you.

My dbf has been MIA all week. As in, won't answer the phone when I call, won't respond to my emails. Finally I tracked him down last night and we are supposed to talk this evening. He is truly the most clueless, non-emotionally-aware human being I have ever met. So the question is, why am I still so crazy about him??? Tongue out Anyway, I hope to get some answers tonight. As for the mojo, well, even the solo variety is not happening now, because any sort of stimulation causes me to think of the real thing and makes me sad. I think I need the warmth and human contact more than anything else right now.

Anonymous · August 2008

Lauren...I'm so sorry to hear that your man is behaving like a jerk. It sure isn't the best time for him to become distant! Hang in there, sweetie. We're right here for ya.

~Marin

victorious · August 2008

Well, I am just writing for support. I finally made the decision to have reconstruction and called my pc and made the surgery date for ASAP - which turned out to be this Aug. 29, Then I got up the gumption to haave a sexy night with "myself" to no great success ... but I was inspired and ready to go place some online orders for things that come in brown packages. Then the next night, I fell out of bed and BROKE MY RIBS! they hurt like hell. All I see before me for months and months is pain and lonliness and no mojo. Too painful. I am bummed ladies and feeling old and tired and pissed off. I don't even know what else to say.

Victoria

victorious · August 2008

One more thing. For those of us who have lost our nipples and therefore a major place of pleasure and enhancement to (at least for me) the ability reach orgasim easily .... any thoughts or tips. Have you found other erogenous zones that you never knew you had????

Victoria

Anonymous · August 2008

Victoria....Ya gotta know that this will certainly, absolutely NOT go on forever! You're still in active treatment, really, and so shouldn't judge your future by your present. Hang in there....make sure that the pain is alleviated in whatever way possible. Take good physical care of yourself and even pamper yourself so that you're convinced that you are definitely worth it!

As for MOJO, sweetie, a good toy will do wonders for your sense of relief and satisfaction. I think that you should make it your own personal homework assignment to create an environment where you can express your sexuality and learn more about it. That includes getting to know every inch and crevice. I've actually been on a similar journey lately, though I do happen to have a man around these days for the actual "deed." I've been reading various articles and a book about female sexuality and anatomy and then experimenting with what I've learned. And I've taken out a mirror and explored every last inch of my genitalia. There sure is alot more to it than I EVER thought and it can do marvelous things! As for other erogenous areas, there are quite a few and finding them can be half the fun! I'd suggest that you set aside a time and create a relaxing, sensual atmosphere....candles, cool sheets, a fluttering fan, incense and whatever music turns you on (Bolero? Santana? an African beat or merengue?). dim the lights, close your eyes and progressively relax all muscles. Take a small amount of lube or massage oil and, starting with your head, lightly touch, brush, caress and/or massage your skin. Move slowly down and try not to leave anything out (fingers, underarms, the curve of your belly and where your thigh begins). Stay away from the genitals until you've massaged your feet and each toe and then sweep back up, stopping at your inner thighs and spend some time there. Slowly touch your mound and go verrrry slowly, experiencing every nuance. Victoria, I PROMISE you that you'll arrive somewhere with this and it will be mighty nice! You'll also discover some new areas where you're most sensitive. I've been extremely surprised with some of my own discoveries! Places like the curve of my ear, my neck where it meets my jaw, my underarms and, especially, the small of my back, are highly sensitive.

Oh, I could go on & on. Essentially, the answer is to take the time to treat yourself as you'd like a man to treat you. Once you begin to relax and enjoy it, your pleasure will exude from your pores and I'm betting you'll start sending MOJO signals out in every direction. And then WATCH OUT!!!

Hang in there, sweetie. There's definitely light at the end of this tunnel....a RED LIGHT, in fact Wink !

~Marin

Anonymous · August 2008

Here's an article that I received today that addresses an issue concerning many, many women....the question of "what the hell is down there anyway?"... and "is mine normal?":

Learning to Love Your Anatomy

By:
Patti Britton
Question :

Dear Dr. Patti:

Are any other women out there who are uncomfortable with the appearance of their vaginas? This has been a problem of mine for a long time, and actually interferes with my enjoyment of sex. My labia are very fleshy and protrude a bit, and when I am aroused, my clitoris gets very swollen. I feel that my genitalia have an almost masculine appearance! I've never felt attractive in this area.

I've often thought if I could find a book that has pictures of different vaginas, I could become more comfortable with mine. Does anyone know of such a book? (I've tried to locate medical journals and the like, but have had no luck). Please respond if you can relate. I'd be very grateful.

--M

Answer :

M:

You have hit the jackpot! In fact, there is a wonderful photographic book called Femalia (available at Amazon.com as well as at my site, http://www.yoursexcoach.com), which transcends all other picture books by showing female genitalia up close and personal. I often use it with both my male and female clients in teaching them about the female anatomical structures. Not only does it have beautiful photos of the actual genitalia of about 20 women, but the quality of the renditions and the sex-positive intention of the book put it in a class by itself. The women in this book gave their images for the healing of sexuality, and the photographers are people with care, pride and a loving regard for this project.

Now, here's something that you can do to overcome your negative self-image about this very private part of your body: Begin to embrace the idea that this is you. I suggest that you take an hour to explore ourself in front of a mirror, carefully regarding your genitalia as a gift from the Universe and viewing it as if for the first time. While alone, sit down and get comfortable in front of a hand-held or standing mirror. Now, beginning at the top, examine first the two layers of outer lips, then the clitoral area, especially your little jewel after she is aroused, then the folds and wetness that it contains, the urinary opening, the vaginal entry and the perineum (the space between the vagina and the anus), and finally the anal opening. This is all yours. You came into the world with it and will leave, hopefully intact, in this same way. This is your call to love and adore yourself, just as you would want any other lover to do.

Take whatever time necessary and allow whatever feelings emerge, see yourself step by step, fold by fold, and tell yourself that you are beautiful JUST the way you are, inside and out, all over. That way you will be redesigning the negative self-talk that has you abhorring your own body. If that's not enough, get the videos by Betty Dodson (author of Sex for One: The Joy of Self-Loving) and check out her Website at http://www.bettydodson.com. This is your moment reclaim the woman that is you.

ENJOY!!! Cool

~Marin

Anonymous · August 2008

Well, I certainly know how to stop a conversation dead in its tracks, huh?! Surprised Doesn't anyone find sex to be an interesting topic anymore? Have we resolved all of our issues? I can always offer a few details on some of the fun things that P and I have been doing, but if no one is particularly hot on the topic anymore....... Undecided Sealed