My friend is an angel

caaclark

I am just posting here because you all get it. 

I found out yesterday that my friend died of her 3rd bout with breast cancer.  She turned 39 several hours before.  She was a teacher in our school and her son is in my daughter's class.  He is only 8!  We found out right before Thanksgiving that she had mets in liver and bones.  As far as I know, she was not symptomatic.  I didn't think she would die only 6 weeks later!?  In fact, I figured she would have treatment and be around for a long time.  During her first bc she was stage I.  Second time, stage II with one +node.  Statistically she should still be here!  I don't get it.  Not that I wanted her to suffer but am I wrong thinking that 6 weeks is a short time for bc???  When I was diagnosed 2 years ago she helped me so much.  We became friends and when I worried about the what ifs, she was the one who helped me put things in perspective.  I miss her already and as sad as I am for myself I am even sadder when I think about her husband and son.  She was such a wonderful person.  I figured that breast cancer would take her life but I certainly never thought it would be 6 weeks from the time she was diagnosed stage IV!

I have always hated cancer but today I really hate it! 

nosurrender

I am so sorry Carol.

This disease is so unfair.

That is how quickly my friend went too. It was such a shock.

I am thankful your friend didn't suffer, but my heart breaks for you and her family that she left behind- a baby only 8-it is just not right.

(((hugs)))

g 

Anonymous

Carol, it's not fair.  I am soooo very sorry for you and her family and especially her child.  It's just not fair.

Shirley

lexi4

Carol,

I am so sorry that you lost your friend to this hideous disease. You and her family are in my prayers.

Hugs and Prayers,

Lexi

TenderIsOurMight

One never knows...we hope, we pray, we plan, we love.



So very sorry for your friend, her spouse and young son and for your personal loss of a kinship made through the heartache of breast cancer.



Sorry too for the children in the class she taught. The know life can be short, and at such a young age.



Thinking of you and them today,

Tender

Anonymous

Terribly sad. The things like this ... stage one then mets ... this is why us stage oners panic like everyone else. Its a crapshoot.  So many people think (especially co-workers) that stage one is easy. Over and done with, you beat it, move on. 

Very sad for her and her family. Not fair to miss out on helping your kids grow up.

twink

I'm sorry Carol.  Such sad news.

newter

Carol,

I am so sorry about this.  Yes, I really think 6 weeks is quick for mets to take a life, especially being without symptoms.  There are so many women here with mets that have had them for years and years.  The word "crapshoot" always comes to mind.

LuAnnH

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend and another bc sister.  Unfortunately anything in the liver can be dangerous to you because the liver cleanses the body of all toxins.  I know of another lady that the onc told her she would be dead in days if she did not start chemo or if she did not respond to the chemo.  Her liver was pretty much consumed by the cancer, all but one section.  The unaffected section is the one that would have given her symptoms of her cancer.  She did in fact respond to her chemo and is still with us today but she could have easily gone the other way and passed with no symptoms of cancer.  Again, I am very sorry to hear of your loss.

iodine

So sorry.  Cancer sucks -- big time.

Fitztwins

It sucks. enough said.

8? too damn young to lose your mommy.

Janis

mom to two 7 year olds.

ravdeb

How sad...

barbara913

so, so sorry for you loss... there are no words...

barbara

danix5

I am so sorry!  I lost my best friend of 14 yrs to colon cancer this year.  Trust me you will be angry for along time!  It truly is not fair! Trying to understand just dosen't work sometimes.  I still don't understand and her yr anniversary will be Jan 11,2008!

I will be thinking of you and her family, her little boy, take care

Dani

MargaretB

I'm sorry about your friend.  So young for this disease to have taken her.  It's not fair.

Margaret

Naniam

Carol,

It is to young.  There have been so many lately and it seems to not make sense when you look at diagnosis in the sense of Grade and Stage.  

It is at these times, we are all lost for words that can comfort or make sense of the loss of another sister.  

I'm so sorry you lost someone that played such a special role in your BC journey and became your friend.

Brenda