how to I cope.

Pheebsforthecure

how to I cope.

Pheebsforthecure

Hi, I am new to this forum. Realize that I need some advice or support from others that are going through similar circumstances.

I am a young adult. And I lost my mom to bc last Feb. She had bc diagnosed 14 years ago and it came back 3 years ago. She had a lumbar fusion operation done within those three years, she was on arimidex and as well another hormonal therapy drug.. and during the last year she was on navelbine (which she really liked). she was quite healthy for the first 2 years and then she unfortunately had a fall and was in the wheelchair the last year. Through it all she was strong and positive.. she truly loved life. She was my best friend and was everything to me. I was her caregiver for her last 3 years.. those years were filled with happiness and as well.. anxiety as I knew I was going to lose her soon.. 

Now that she is gone, I feel so depressed.. I do not know what to do.. or to feel.. some days I feel relieved that she has passed.. ..  then most days I feel that her passing is surreal.. reality has certainly shifted for me.. 

I do not know if I should go on anti-depressants.. or just go through the motions and it will get better on its own..  

I hope some of you will shed some light and give me some advice or some support.

Thank you for your time . I really appreciate it. 

idaann

Hi:

I just found out I have breast cancer and it sounds like it was caught in time. I have to have a lumpectemy on Tues. and then radiation for six weeks. I am scared out of my mind. That is all I can think about.

I lost my mom from a massive stroke last year, and I know how difficult it can be. I am so scared, and when I was sitting in the room after pre-op to make sure the xrays took, a woman pushed another woman on a stretcher past me and she was the spitting image of my mother. She even had on the same sweat shirt and eyeglasses. It was so scary. I just hope I make it through.

tawyna1

pheebsforthecure,

my aunt passed from lung cancer. i understand your feeling relieved sometimes. it is so hard to see someone that we love so sick.

i do see a councelor.

the feelings you have are normal. if you think you are depressed a councelor can help alot.

god bless you.

idaann,

you are in my prayers . i wish i could help you not to be scared.  it sounds like you do not have to take chemo.

if  so that is great.

radiation is not that bad. my mom had bc 3 yrs ago. she said it just got old going everyday.

if they think you get a little burnt they will skip a couple days.

god bless 

Pheebsforthecure

idaan,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. 

Must be a very hard time for you, losing  your mom last year and also having been diagnosed with bc. I think I would also be very nervous and scared if I was in your situation. 

I am so glad that your bc is caught early, that is really good news . Please do not worry about radiation, from my mom's experience she didn't have any major symptoms.. and also if it isn't near your tummy then you do not need to worry about nausea... and if it is then there is always good medication to take... 

I will be praying for you.

Tawyna1,

It is indeed very difficult to see someone we love suffer..  

I will be seeing a counsellor on tuesday.. thank you for your message I am more hopeful about the appointment now.