Looking for closure.

Steven

Looking for closure.

Steven

My wife, Ying, and I live in China. Ying has Breast Cancer, but she has successfully completed treatment and is strong and healthy. The medical treatment in China is beyond belief, but I am grateful that she is alive!

Our problem has to do with the way Ying was treated at a visa immigration interview. It is a very long and painful story which I will be glad to share if anyone wants to hear it.

Basically, it boils down to Ying being submitted to over four hours of interrogation by Representatives of the US consulate in Guangzhou China. These interrogators knew full well that Ying has Breast Cancer yet they brutally grilled here for four hours!

Ying ended up near collapse and had to be hospitalized due to the stress  on her system caused by this treatment by our own US Government Representatives. She has only been out of treatment three months, which they knew.They said it was a ploy to gain sympathy.

Is there any advocacy groups that I could contact and tell our story to that might be able to help end this horrible situation?

Ying still cannot sleep right and her health is again in question.

Here in China or the US or anywhere in the world for that matter, women with Breast Cancer should not be beat up on in this or any other way!

Please help if you can. I need to tell our story in hopes that other women will not suffer this same fate.

Yours in undying support,

Steven 

NoH8

Sometimes the USA just plain sucks. I'm sorry for what Ying had to go through. That's wrong on so many levels. A ploy to gain sympathy??? Have you thought about taking it to the media? You might also contact John Edwards, who's running for president, his wife has advanced stage breast cancer and health care is one of his big issues. Here's the link http://johnedwards.com/about/contact/form/ .

Steven

I have been trying to alert the press to our story, but so far nothing. Living in China makes it extremely difficult to do anything like send mail, contact, etc.

I appreciate your response and kind words and I will try your idea.

Thanks,

Steven 

Shirlann

Well, I think this is totally absurd, to treat you and your wife in this matter is not civilized and completely unacceptable.

After 9/11 it seems that our government feels it can stomp all over our civil rights as well and everyone elses.

Please accept my sincere apologies as a citizen of this country, and I hope you can get somewhere with someone in authority.

I am ashamed.

Gentle hugs, Shirlann

Steven

I am so grateful to you all and that I found this site. For almost a year now, I have been dealing with Ying's Breast Cancer alone. Sure I have had support from family here and friends, but it is difficult when you don't speak Chinese.

Aside from the horrible treatment these poor women receive here there is such a lack of general knowledge about Breast Cancer. Husbands leave their wives at the mere mention of the words. The standard practise is,"Off with their breasts!". It's terrible. Ying has been doing a wonderful job at counseling other Chinese women about this disease and I do what I can under limited circumstances. But, this is China, a third world country, not the USA.

I just hope that we can get our story out about how our own country treats their citizens wives, regardless of nationality. They have caught this affliction by no fault of their own and deserve dignity and respect. Not to mention all the help they can get.

Once again, I thank you all and I plan to contribute here as much as I can.

Steven 

Shirlann

Hi Steven, things here can get dicey too.  I had my surgeon (who I had asked for a biopsy from) tell me he "could not find it, if he tried, it was so small).  I was so dumb then, I did not know that they use a wire guided ultra sound to solve this problem, he told me a bare faced lie.  Also, he said, "Oh, the lump is smooth, breast cancers are spikey".

Then, 2 years later, when it was obvious I had breast cancer

he removed the original mammogram and destroyed it (I guess), and re-wrote his report to state that my husband and I had agreed with him to not do a biopsy.  (Total lie)

THEN, well he got better and better.  Long story short, bad treatment and lousy medicine happens here, too, I finally went to UCLA, what a difference.  Professional, comes to mind.

It is of interest that here in the states we have a lot of "lop it off" too.  70% of American women have mastectomies, and 30% have lumpectomies.  In Europe, the numbers are exactly reversed.  No one seems to know why.

I don't mean to minimize your struggle to get good care for your dear wife.  I surely understand we have huge differences, but everything here is far from perfect too.

I hope things go well for you both and bless your wife for helping people she can.  Maybe, if you stay there, she can talk to the hospital and get a "breast buddy" system going.  It is free for the hospital (they all love that) and it is just putting women just diagnosed with women who are done with treatment in touch with each other.  It is amazing how this grows, all on its own.

Anyway, hopefully, your life will be filled with blessings from now on.

Gentle hugs, Shirlann