My grandma

ajd41

My grandma was diagnosed with breast cancer a month or so ago. She's had a mastectomy and she's doing pretty good. But now the doctor wants to put her on an aggresive chemo and i'm so very scared that she's too old to handle the effects of the treatment. I'm scared so so very scared that this is going to be a long road and I'll see her slowly slip away from me. I'm afraid to break down and cry in front of her because I believe she needs me to stay strong and if she sees me cry it won't keep her strong. Is this weird? Am I wrong? 

Shirlann

Of course not, honey, there is nothing wrong you can do.  If you love her enough to cry, for me at least, it would have been a blessing.  I had no one even really care enough to talk to me.  So cry away, hug her and tell her how much you love her.  I would have loved that.

You did not say how old she is or if she has any other health problems.  Many women in their 70's do chemo and rads.  They watch you very closely, and if you appear to go down hill, they wait until you are feeling better before they continue. 

It is a long road.  So come here often, and we will help all we can to make this a more understandable journey.  Many, many women do just fine and go on to live out their lives.  I was 63 when diagnosed and am 72 now.  This is not necessarily the end of the world.

Hang on, honey, and come back and get help with questions if your have them.

Gentle hugs, Shirlann