I am so scared now.

Ka-Loni

Hello, This may be silly. I am still recovering from my breast reconstruction. I am doing really good. But, I have such a great fear within me that I will get cancer again in my other breast. I try and stay positive always. But, this one just scares me.

God Bless,
Kaloni

DragonladyTina

Dear Kaloni,

I think that we all have that fear at one time or another. I had a double mastectomy and still worry about a local recurrence . I think as long as you are diligent with self exams and mammo's/ultrasounds on a regular basis, get anything abmormal biopsied right away, you will be fine. I know for me, the further away from diagnosis, the more calm I am. I hope the same for you.

Best wishes, Tina

Poppy

Hi Kaloni, I think the fear of the BC coming back (anywhere) scares us all. I had a bilateral mast so that I'd never have to worry about that again, but that doesn't stop me from worrying that it'll come back in other body parts. With time you'll find that you worry less. Having scans every so often is a great way to keep peace of mind too. I think we ALL know how you're feeling... unfortunately it's just a part of this journey. Hugs,
Erica

Sierra

Hi Kaloni:

Just wanted to send out a big
hug to you this day

I am out several years and
do not know if the fear ever
completely leaves a person
Everyone is different, but the
further out, the better you feel

I find taking one day at a time
works well for me, otherwise
just life in general can be
overwhelming SOME DAYS
in (today's world) FEAR & PANIC
can paralyze us

Hang tight...
we understand

Treat yourself
Be good and know
every day to be precious

Hugs

Anonymous

Oh Kaloni...Yes, we do all feel this way. Usually, for me, the fear is worse right before a follow-up or when I'm feeling insecure in other areas of my life. It was pretty constant for me though immediately after all of my treatments ended. I felt almost abandoned, so very alone and just suspended in time and waiting for the other shoe (recurrence) to drop.

It takes time and you need to give yourself that. Just try to keep in mind that the vast majority of us never have cancer again. Here, we hear from women who do have recurrences or mets and it's easy to conclude that that experience is common. It's not. But the fear is. Hang in there, girl. It does lessen with time.

Marin

Catherine

All of us have that same fear; however, it gets better over time. Hang in there and try to keep busy.

Catherine

Fitztwins

We all do sweetie. We need to put Fear in its place. Not waste a minute worrying about what could happen, but live for today. It really gets easier over time.

Janis

wakebrat7

POSITIVE THOUGHTS, POSITIVE THOUGHTS my dear. Positive promotes positive. Continually tell yourself that you are healed, believe it, and stand on it and you will be healed.

Lillie

Shirlann

Hey honey, I have been on this board about 6 years and I really mean this, while it does occasionally happen, it is very RARE that people get breast cancer in the other breast.

So, stop this worrying. You will make yourself crazy. You aren't going to get anything else, ever. So that's that.

Hugs, Shirlann

NoH8

The way that I look at it is that my cancer might come back-- that's just a reality of my life. There's not much I can do. If I'm calm it might come back. If I freak out it might come back. I'm a lot happier being calm about the whole thing because freaking out won't keep the cancer away, but it'll make me a lot more miserable.

Ka-Loni

Hi Shirlann, I just want to tell you that I have read many of your posts, and your a angel at that. You are a very sweet person. Your a very positive influence for many of us on here. I am one. Yes, I naturally worry. That's me. I will try to stop worrying so much. Thanks Shirlann.

God Bless You,
Kaloni