New here, supporting my wife

luvmyself

Just introducing ourselves,

We are Craig and Jill in Phoenix, AZ.

My wife Jill of 20 years is going through treatment. We went to have her head shaved yesterday and fitted for a wig, hats etc. Very traumatic and surreal. She is having a port installed today to make chemo and blood work easier. Hard to see her so sad. I try to make her feel as good as possible and support her in every way I can as she has always done for me. She is my hero and sunshine. We hope to take a nice road trip to celebrate the end of her treatment this fall. We collect and restore 1950's and older travel trailers and hope to do some desert camping and visiting of good friends on our "Road trip of celebration"


Thanks,

Craig

Anonymous

Welcome to you both. It's not something you like to say to someone, because it would be nicer to meet through something else. However, here we are all on this journey together. I hope you will both find all the support you need through this board. Your wife is blessed to have such a caring partner and going through this together will be beneficial for you both.

csp

Hi Craig and Jill and welcome,
I think you both will find tons of support and information here. It is good to have others that know what you are feeling and going through on this journey ,and it takes some of the fear out to know you are not alone, weather you are the support person or the patient.

Like Sherry said so nice to meet you but wish it wasn't here!

If you all have any questions about whats next or what is going on ask away lots of very informed, nice people are here that have been there and done that, or either of you need to vent we do that too !
Looking forward to getting to know you .

Hugs,
Carrie

ps
I love the trailers really takes me back

ramonajane

Hi Craig and Jill - Glad you found us. This board (and the whole Website) are great resources.

Good for you for having a "celebration trip" in the works. We did the same thing and it really helped to have something to look forward to.

May you find strength for each day.

MargaretB

Welcome. You will find a ton of support and information on this website, Come see us often; when I was first diagnosed, this website was what kept me sane. The women on this board are truly a sisterhood.

Margaret

Shemp

Funny you use the word surreal as that's the word I most commonly use to describe the experience, even now that we're 2.5 months past the last treatment. Obviously, check out the "Husbands & Boyfriends" thread on this page. You'll surely learn a lot just reading through that when you have a few minutes. Never be afraid to chime in with a question. We're all here to help!

Anonymous

luv dear,

I think it is so wonderful to see husdbands supporting their wives in their breast cancer journey. How very proud and happy she must feel. Has your dear wife begun to post on these boards or to visit our chat room yet?

TytaniumK

Yo Yo Craig [and Jill, of course],

Craig--please visit the: BC HUSBANDS & BOYFRIENDS HANGOUT thread....
http://community.breastcancer.org/ubbthr...true#Post330293

I am another supportive hubby...and this is a good place for you to begin, meet other supportive men, etc. Welcome aboard, since we CHOOSE to be here, supporting our women--and ALL women!! Makes me proud that U R a supportive spouse, too! You rock, Craig!

Here is the opposite side of the coin...and I am ashamed to claim this 'guy' as a member of our sex.
Husband left me tonight- bad language used.
http://community.breastcancer.org/ubbthr...part=1&vc=1


Ty-K

cowgirl

Glad to meet you Craig and Jill! Hope you find comfort and encouragement for those bad days and happiness for those wonderful days!

Anonymous

Craig & Jill-



There's lots of good people here and plenty to read!

Peggy

junie

Craig and Jill--welcome! It is a difficult time for you both--it does get better. I sent you a PM (private message) re vintage travel trailers. hugggsssss, junie

newvickie

Sad to see you here but glad you found this place...it has been a great help to me. What treatment is your wife going through? I did 6 rounds of TAC, then a bilat. mast. with lymph node removal. If she needs anything (or you for that matter) PM me and I will even call her if need be.
Have faith, everyone here is wonderful.
Hugs
Vickie

luvmyself

Thanks for all the "welcomes" Jill had her second TAC chemo yesterday and is taking it much much better than her first time. She has 4 more chemo sessions 3 weeks apart and then radiation. I sure miss her while she spends 3-4 days in bed after chemo. I have been working close to home to keep an eye on her and her mother has been a great help.

Thanks all,

Craig

newvickie

TAC can be rough but it is doable...I did it alone with my seven year old son and have lots of tips and hints to help if your interested.
PM me if you wish with your number if you or she needs anyone to talk to. I have neuropathy in my fingers from the chemo and typing is rough.
For me the fourth session was the hardest...I just didn't feel like I could do another one but the 5th and final were ok as I knew I was almost done. The end of chemo comes much quicker than you will expect. I finished April 19 and was amazed that it was over!
She's lucky to have you!
Hugs to you both
Vickie

Anonymous

Craig,

Jill is very fortunate to have a guy like you keeping a close eye on her.

It WILL get better !

cowgirl

Just keep reminding her this is the yucky part, and there is light at the end of the tunnel!