Friend out of hospital

Alfreda

Just wanted you guys to know that my friend has been released from hospital. She was fitted with a port and will start treatment ASAP.My concern with that is her 3 yr old son, he knows that mummy is sick but doesn't fully understand. Any advice on how to go about this? !

tammyhillse10

You are a good friend thinking about her son and how to help them both. You will get great advice from parents here. I am blessed in that my step children are grown and understand what I am going through and things are fairly easy for us. I do have friends with bc and young children and they say it is just having someone take the kids and to cook a meal every now and then. Just ask her what she needs most from you and she will tell you.
Alfreda, it is always nice to see friends on the boards.
Best to you and your friend,
Tammy

Alfreda

TNX Tammy. I have found the advice and suggestions on this board to be so uplifting and encouraging.Wish I had known about this before. Best to you as you continue your journey, I will remember you in my prayers. As I will do for all the women who visit these boards

Hattie

My kids were 7and 10, but got advice from bc moms whose kids were 3 and 5--the parents said "Mom has breast cancer. she didn't catch it from someone and can't pass it on. The doctors are making her better." then just tell them what they need to know (not too far ahead). I was careful not to make my kids think they had to care for me (didn't want that scary role reversal) but they did know when I needed to rest (they brought me water, put candy in it to make it taste better, rubbed my head, coverd me with their blankies). We did not share worries or fears with them, tried to keep things normal and spoke matter of factly about bc. My kids are doing great--taking evrything in stride, positive and normal.

Help with food and errands was appreciated.

take care,
--Hattie

nowheregirl

Glad to hear that your friend has been released from hospital and that she has such a good friend like you.

Here's a thread regarding the good article telling kids about their mom's cancer. Hope this helps.
Telling our children -- good article

csp

Alfreda,
I can't add to all the good advise the ladies have already offered, just wanted to say I am glad your friend is home and recovering.

Sending healing thoughts ~
Carrie